To think it's rude not to text if you're running late?

[CailinDana]

I am a bit of a stickler for punctuality so I might be overreacting a bit. PILs are coming over for the weekend and said they would be here at 3. It is now 3:35 and no sign and no text. They seem to think I just sit at home and wait for them to come, that it doesn't matter if they're half an hour/hour late turning up. Seeing as I'm at home it's not a massive deal - I'm not waiting out in the cold or anything, but surely it would be polite for them to just send a text saying "running late, be there at X"? AIBU?

God that sounds heartless, but it was every time. Even if I gave her a time 30 mins before it was necessary, or she chose a time.

It just felt like my time wasn't worth as much as hers, however lovely she is

Bloody hell, don't know how that happened. Stupid phone

Yes and no, I don't have a mobile, so I wouldn't be texting and there arn't really any phone boxes anymore. I would have rang and let you know if I was setting off late, but if I was stuck in traffic then there is nothing I could do.

If someone is driving it is forgiveable.

If not driving and/or rushing, it's rude.

FryingPan - so heartless you told us THREE times

Half an hour is standard practice with my PIL.

Last time they were 90 minutes late (only 40 minute drive!) when they were coming over to take my DD to see Santa, then refused to take her to the Santa because... it was raining! (It was an indoors Santa). I had already promised DD the Santa treat, plus it was supposed to be a trip for PIL to look after DD whilst I finished off some work. But for some reason they refused to go and insisted in spending the afternoon at our house with DD! Helpful.

So don't get me started on PIL... [deep breath, thinks calming thoughts]

I wouldn't expect either my Mum or MIL to text, whilst they both have mobile phones it wouldn't be the first thing that they would think of, it's not their generation, they would have to find glasses and work out where they were in relation to where I live. I would sit tight and if it goes over an hour would consider consider calling them to ask if they were ok, in this example the snow might be an issue, I would then make sure that they had a warm welcome and hot drink when they arrived.

What time did they arrive OP?

Maybe one of them has a slight headache and the other one is thinking about an abstruse maths problem?

My friends expect it. It's nothing personal, it's just being on time is impossible for me for some reason.

They eventually arrived 40 mins late. No apology but apparently they stopped to look at cars because dh and i are buying one soon. Cue heaps of interference advice. I've since spent my time making them cups of tea and dinner. Mil was looking after ds so no problem there but fil just sat on his arse and watched a 36 weeks pg woman run around. Lazy cunt. Dh not here. I'm not happy.

BTW i don't mind 10/15 minutes late. They had no problem with snow and could easily have texted.

40 mins when they are going to your home hardly warrants a sms.

cailin - of course it's rude.

basic good manners demands a quick call/text