to not want to change my FB profile pic to one of me BFing?

[PaellaUmbrella]

I've been invited by several people to a "nurse-in" on FB today - the idea being that you change your profile picture to one of you BFing, to protest against them removing BFing photos.

I should start by saying that I still feed my 22 month old and am a huge proponent of BFing. I think that FB's rules on decency are ridiculous and if people want to post BFing photos, that's up to them.

However I've never personally posted a photo of DD feeding, and don't really want to start now. I'm not embarrassed - in principle I have no issue with anybody seeing me feed - but I just don't feel the need to plaster it on FB. I'm not a serial picture poster as it is.

I also am aware that I have a couple of friends on there who've had babies very recently and wanted to BF, but didn't get past the first couple of weeks. I feel like it could be rubbing their noses in it - look at me still feeding my toddler! - and although I know we can't avoid BFing altogether for fear of hurting the feelings of anybody who couldn't, I don't want to upset/annoy people.

I feel like a huge hypocrite though. I wish that BFing could be normalised, and that's obviously all the nurse-in is working to achieve. So I should be joining in really. But I don't want to. AIBU?

Then don't. YANBU

I hate these Facebook things. And I love Facebook.

But no one will see it except your friends whom, I assume, already support BF, so why do it?

Stupid idea. As stupid as bras and trips you're taking to represent breast cancer.

Oh and those memes that tell me if I don't repeat them I don't love my mother/best friend/sister/brother/cousin. Stupid stuff posted by stupid people.

So don't.
It's not an issue really.

No you're not bu. I think you sound very sensible actually, nice to be thoughtful of some of your other friends feelings!
If you want to support bf there are many other ways to get involved without displaying pictures. Volunteer at a local bf cafe etc.

If you don't want to then just don't.

So don't do it then. Problem solved.

YANBU. Put it as your status if you like - "I support the nurse-in" perhaps.

Don't. I'm not going to either. I liked a photo that a friend put up instead.

I think if you're not comfortable doing this and instinctively it sounds like you're not, I wouldn't do it. I am still feeding my 21 month old but with my first DS I quit at 4.5 months and may have felt a bit like you say your non breast feeding friends may feel.

I can see the dilemma though as the whole BF in Britain has a long way to go in normalising BFing let alone BFing toddlers IME.

Of course yanbu.

A 'protest', give me strength....who do these people think actually cares?

Thanks.

Just to clarify, it's not an AIBU dithering over whether I should post a picture or not - I'm not going to.

It's more an AIBU to not want to in the first place - ie. am I a hypocrite to be supportive of something but not want to join in myself.

You're still NBU.

How is it hypocritical to support something in your own way?

no.

Facebook DOES NOT MATTER and 'protests' have no effect.

YANBU.
I hate nurse-ins. I know they set out to achieve normality, but all they really do is present BFers as militant and aggressive.
I still feed my 2 yo, but I really don't care if some people take issue with it, it's not my problem.
Keep your FB picture as you want it.

I'm fully supportive of a lot of issues that I wouldn't put as a facebook picture (not that I have FB anyway). Just don't do it.

You don't have to do anything just because your friends are I am sure they won't be offended , Bf is a private thing between a mother and child why would anybody want to post pictures anyway, what i said looks like I mean you shouldn't feed in public thats not what i meant

I support many causes I dont post pictures on facebook about it

YANBU - what a stupid idea. :(

no yanbu
as someone said nurse-in and that kind of thing can make bf come across as militant/aggressive imo - like some people who you kind of get the impression they may be waiting for a sarcy comment when they are feeding, so that they can have the chance to say their peice!
im still bf my toddler too but i wouldnt put a pic up, infact dont actually have any pics of him bf i dont think

What exactly is it going to achieve? This things are,imo,denormalising bf. Over time as more people bf,and are seen to be bf the shock/horror reaction will wane.
All this will do is bring the extremists out with their professional outrage,thus peddling the myth that those who bf are ''different'' (for want of a better word).
I bf three babies,well past one year old,no one ever batted an eyelid or said anything.

Putting stuff on facebook doesn't change stuff. Changing stuff changes stuff. YANBU and don't give it another thought. Would you say someone who BF under a muslin was doing something 'wrong'? Of course not - your breasts, your choice.

And while I do think facebook's stance is a bit daft, equally I don't want to see pics of people's boobs over my morning cuppa, and unless they're going to employ an army of boob-checkers a blanket ban is probably sensible. It has nothing to do with whether people chose to BF or not. I'm all for 'normalising' home births too but I don't actually want to see any pics from the business end of that.

YANBU - and I love BF - both for me and other people. You sound like a lovely sensitive friend BTW.

As an aside I also hate Facebook campaigns - remember the 'change your profile picture to x as it's Y day'/click on this to raise awareness, 'like' if you're against child abuse (I mean who isn't against?) etc. etc.

Me & DH occasionally change our profile pics to a steaming heap of manure to raise awareness of shit Facebook campaigns.

Woah Wilson - while I agree with your first paragraph, the fact is that pictures of bf show a lot less actual boob generally than pics of people in bikinis, for example. In sure there's loads of stuff on fb that you 'don't want to see over your morning cuppa', but realise that this is mostly your issue - if you don't like it, don't look at it! Hide the persons stuff, etc. when it comes to bf its hardly yukky - just a kid eating.