to think there is rarely a good reason to look at your partners phone.

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I never look at my husbands phone, and he never looks at mine. I trust him enough to believe that he's not texting a secret lover and I wouldn't particularly want him looking at the texts between me and my friends.

If his phone goes off and he's not in the room I still wouldn't look at it. I would just tell him when he came back in, and if it rang I wouldn't answer it either.

I really don't think there is a good reason for reading your partners texts/answering calls.

I think there is NEVER a good reason to look at your partner's phone, and if you feel the need to snoop then your relationship has gone to shit anyway.

Jeez Randall you've already pulled that face at me once today. What is your problem exactly?

I didn't mean I pick it up & go through it when he leaves it lying around. I said I agree that you shouldn't read messages or go through stuff. But likewise he doesn't have to keep his phone hidden away to keep stuff secret. He just puts it down, and I see it but have no interest in what's on it. I'd be more concerned if I couldn't see his phone because I'd wonder why he was hiding it. X

I look but Im nosey and want to know wjat the latest gossip is.I know there is no chance it would be anything dodgy.he just forgets to mention stuff. All his friends are my friends and vice versa.

I wouldn't snoop, but I will answer if he's driving or write texts for him under his instruction when he's driving and if it rings and he's in another room i'll take it through to him, so i often see who is calling/texting and what they're saying and there's no real mystery... tbh.

I disagree, I think confirming your suspicions is a good reason. And yes, the relationship had gone to shit. Which is why I looked.

No idea who you are but I'm presuming its because you've confused me twice, shall I go and check? You seem awfully angry.

I don't usually look at DH's texts unless he asks me to if he's doing something else. I check an email account which is officially in both surnames but is, in practice, just his. I do this expecting to find out stuff he might have forgotten to tell me (like that a quote from a builder has finally come through or a planned night out with his friends). I suppose it reassures me a bit if I'm feeling insecure to know he doesn't have a problem with me accessing his email or seeing hid phone. I don't have a problem with him doing the same to my emails phone. We both open each other's post but only because it's mainly bills and therefore concerns both of us. I wouldn't open a handwritten envelope to him.

I guess it is a form if snooping but it doesn't feel like it and our relationship works for us.

Disclaimer I'm NOT judging people who would look because they had suspicions that the other person was cheating etc.

You would rather know then carry on acting like normal. I get that.

I'm referring more to where you don't suspect cheating but would still read someones texts and answer their calls.

I have looked at the phones of 3 exes. Each time it was because I was suspicious. It turned out my instinct was right. On two of the occasions after finding what I did I started to go through the history on the laptop - turned out the messages on the phones were the tip of the iceberg.

I probably shouldn't have looked at their phones - all three tried to argue this - but I hardly think they were in a position to take the moral high ground!

What if you have permission? Or are asked to look something up?

I do look at DH's phone, usually when driving as his phone has a better satnav than mine; but he also has unrestricted access to my phone. Maybe we're just not very precious about phones...

RandallPinkFloyd
No idea who you are but I'm presuming its because you've confused me twice, shall I go and check? You seem awfully angry

No ... no anger here . Just checking to see if you had a problem.

Or maybe you just like being mean - you do seem awfully angry.

skaen I guess I've just never asked DH to look something up because I would just do it myself.

We don't see why you wouldn't answer the other's phone if they are out of ear range and its ringing. Going through all the texts looking for dirt, no, but picking it up to answer/check the train times we just use the closest computer.

Should I not say that as I don't have a fb I use his to check the gossip?

Not recommended when driving, Hints.

You seem surprisingly upset about this. If the people involved in the relationship don't really care, why does it matter to you?

Who's we MrsHoarder ?

Not upset skaen just having a discussion.

I sometimes snoop through my dps phone and quite possibly vice versa. I trust him, but i am nosy. He never has anything interesting though

Just had a look at my TIO.

In order to clarify, I've posted a confused face at you twice because the two threads I've seen of yours were posted within a minute of each other and are very goady.

I find that confusing.

Did you ever tell him what you'd seen Moo ? Just curious.

No snooping here but we would answer one another's phones if other person not there. Have checked texts on one another's phones before now too. Still not snooping. Both of us are happy to let the other person do it.

I agree if you'd rather not, then everyone should be allowed their privacy. But see no problem if both parties are happy with it.

We use our phones pretty much in same way we use the home phone I guess.

Yabu! We constantly look at each other's phones, pick up texts for one another when they come through, answer calls/text in each ither's behalf when one if us is driving, tell each other to 'have a look at the email/text from x', pick up whichever phone is closest for quick intervener look ups, etc! I don't see why phones need to be secret tbh, so quite the opposite to you! If I'm planning a surprise for dh I just delete things straightaway and I believe he does the same.