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to be furious with dh for eating cakes he knew were destined for the bin!

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alfrex · 21/01/2013 14:57

OK. I bake a lot. And sometimes my cakes are beautiful, and we all enjoy them. But sometimes it does not go so well and the cakes come out sunk or burnt or still wet in the middle (if dh would get the fan fixed on the oven this would happen a lot less often, but that's another thread)

There is a system, dh and the children are well aware of it. If the cakes are good to eat, they either go in a freezer bag for later use, or in a sealed tin for use over the week, or on a plate on the side so that they can be eaten now. DH knows this and I never complain about him "sampling" even if th cakes are meant for after dinner or whatever. I bake a lot so there is usually something there if he fancies a nibble.

If the cakes are not up to scratch, they go in the bin as soon as they are cooled (or as soon as dh empties the bin - there's another thread there!)

so this morning dh saunters into the kitchen to get himself breakfast. I come in and find him cramming his mouth with the burnt, crappy cakes that were sitting in the bun tray by the bin. I was really pissed off and had a go at him for it. I can make really nice cakes and I make plenty of them, so he has no need to wind me up and embarrass me by eating the ones that have gone wrong. He know it is a pet hate of mine.

so he strops off to work having called me a "control freak" in front of our children who were sitting having their breakfast. I am Not Happy.

OP posts:
alfrex · 21/01/2013 21:20

Back again, off to bed soon as dh and the kids have school tomorrow and yes, you guessed it, I will be making their breakfast.

People have said I do not take comments on board. I have read everything, most of it was just weird and went over my head but some I did find useful. As I said I will be doing the washing up liquid trick, that will save any confusion over which cakes are condemned (it was obvious though, dh didn't deny he knew).

The vegetarian friend is a perfectly nice girl and I have nothing against her. I don't cook for her because she is hard to please and life is too short. That's all. She just doesn't come at meal times. If I am honest she is not really the sort I would have chosen for ds1 but he is a teen and they experiment. I am very tolerant of different sorts of people but am not cooking a separate meal for someone who is not even family.

Still not sure why the rudeness and lack of respect for my choices. If you met me you would see that I am really very normal. I just bake a lot, and like to get it right.

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neveronamonday · 21/01/2013 21:21

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Bogeyface · 21/01/2013 21:22

"loves" your cooking or too scared to say its revolting incase you have "words"? :o

LetsKateWin · 21/01/2013 21:25

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1663762-To-serve-a-baby-led-weaning-buffet-at-my-daughters-party

headfirst this is the BLW buffet. It's a bit of a fiddle to do links on my phone

Pandemoniaa · 21/01/2013 21:26

As I said I will be doing the washing up liquid trick, that will save any confusion over which cakes are condemned

Do you seriously not see that this is truly bonkers?

WingDefence · 21/01/2013 21:26

Here's the BLW birthday one

WingDefence · 21/01/2013 21:27

Oops +-posted LetsKateWin...

pixi2 · 21/01/2013 21:27

Bogey face you beat me to it

OP, maybe people who like your cakes are just being polite because they know the bonkers reaction they may receive.

This has made my night. Laughed all the way through it.

Maybe you need to learn to smile, laugh and get a job? I've been baking years and nothing has ever gone in the bin. I don't under or overlook things, it's called timing. Lower the oven shelf.

Haberdashery · 21/01/2013 21:28

Bloody hell. OP, thank you for a really good laugh. This is one of my favourite threads ever.

PacificDogwood · 21/01/2013 21:29

So you are actually going to spoil edible cakes with washing up liquid so you can get your way?

amillionyears · 21/01/2013 21:31

I'm off.

Bogeyface · 21/01/2013 21:31

Anyone else hate the word "Buffet"?

Dont know why, just sounds.....wrong somehow. That and the fact that you dont know who's pissy fingers have been in the crisps before you!

crunchbag · 21/01/2013 21:31

A bit of washing up liquid could provide the lemon drizzle...

BinkyWinky · 21/01/2013 21:31

You're actually going to put washing up liquid on cakes?? FFS!

Stropzilla · 21/01/2013 21:32

Ooh I love these threads.

OP: AIBU?
Mumsnet: Yes.
OP: No I'm not! Lalala I can't hear you!

Bogeyface · 21/01/2013 21:32

Pixi its not her fault that half of them are inedible, its HIS fault because he hasnt fixed the oven! Presumably when he does fix the oven she wont make one single mistake in her "perfect" cooking, and thats the problem, he doesnt want her churning out the shite she insists he eats!

DisAstrophe · 21/01/2013 21:32

Thanks elizaregina Blush

Op - yabu about not feeding your ds' girlfriend - let her eat cake.

Now tell me about your other household systems - I need to know more

habbibu · 21/01/2013 21:33

Good god. Have you ever read The Grapes Of Wrath, OP?

CaptainVonTrapp · 21/01/2013 21:34

DisAstrophe - I am crying with laughter.

MNHQ - Please don't delete this thread like the French MIL one

LeucanTheMopsis · 21/01/2013 21:34

Warren Buffet, Bogey, that's why. Warren Buffet.

OxfordBags · 21/01/2013 21:34

OMG, you are so rude to his girlfriend! I feel sorry for the woman who ends up with you as a MIL.

Anyway, I have worked out why he stands over the bin shovelling them in his mouth - her obsessive cake system and subsequent control and denial over what he can and can't eat have brought out an extreme fetish in him and whenever he sees a burnt or poor quality cake ready for the bin, he cannot help but make sweet, sweet love to them. Those poor, lonely, rejected specimens... he knows how they feel. They deserve a, ahem, creamy filling as much as any perfect cake and so he gives them one. Literally. He then has to hide the evidence of his perversion and shame and so eats them afterwards in a gross act of auto-erotic, pseudo-cannibalistic, baking-based paraphilia.

Let's see how long this one lasts, elizaregina Wink

alfrex · 21/01/2013 21:34

LOL crunchbag, they will go from being lemon drizzle fairy cakes to "Fairy Lemon" drizzle cakes!

See I do have a sense of humour!

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BinkyWinky · 21/01/2013 21:35
JuliesSistersCousinsAuntsCat · 21/01/2013 21:35

He was just standing over the bin cramming them into his open mouth, without even getting a plate out of the cupboard.

Leave the animal!

habbibu · 21/01/2013 21:36

Also, Dan Lepard rescues cakes. And I Do Not Believe that you are a better baker than him.