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AIBU to think school should give phone back?

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wondermammy · 20/01/2013 00:15

Hi all, my first post on here but really wanted peoples opinions on this. MY DD1 is 15 and in transition year in secondary school which i think is year 10 or 11 in england? anyways, last week DD's phone was taken off her in class for "texting"(don't suspect this as teacher has a vengeance against our family due to previous members being in school and she sits at the front , shes not stupid!!),the phone was sent to vice principals office and couldn't be retrieved for 24hrs and had to be collected by a parent/guardian!! As both DH and i work from 9-5 we couldn't collect phone and had to ask DU to collect it.DD had to do the journey home without a phone which involves a good 20-30 minute brisk walk followed by 10min journey on tram and she also does this alone. AIBU to think phone should have been given back at the end of the day and some kind of written punishment should have been given instead? if it had not of been for DU phone wouldn't of been collected at all!!!

Thanks all!

OP posts:
SpottyBagOfTumble · 20/01/2013 00:58

Tabu. She shouldn't have been texting, sorry.

OwlCatMouse · 20/01/2013 00:59

Ooooohhh. thank you. Just couldn't work that one out.

I was thinking some sort of house slave, Dearest Underling, or something

Wink
MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 20/01/2013 01:02

Haha owl I think you might be nearer the mark there Grin

Gomez · 20/01/2013 01:02

Chortle.

OwlCatMouse · 20/01/2013 01:04
Grin
OwlCatMouse · 20/01/2013 01:05

I do have a disturbing image of Delores Umbridge in a submissive domestic role though. It's disturbing.

ilovesooty · 20/01/2013 02:38

Your daughter asked for it. Tell her not to text in class and to behave herself in future.

Alisvolatpropiis · 20/01/2013 02:50

YABU.

Her phone clearly wasn't in her bag or her teacher wouldn't have known she had it with her,obviously.

She needs to take her punishment,which is deserved.

LoopsInHoops · 20/01/2013 03:03

Really?

YABU

YABU for assuming your angel wasn't texting
YAprobablyBU for thinking there's a 'vengeance'
YABU for not supporting the school's mobile policy
YABU for thinking you need a phone for a short walk.

hth. :)

sashh · 20/01/2013 04:24

Isn't that the policy of most schools?

AmIthatWintry · 20/01/2013 04:35

Is this a joke?

JusticeCrab · 20/01/2013 06:25

omg u ppl r scary. omg why r u giving the op such a hard time when all she is doin is lookin out 4 her own dd lyk any mum wud!! omg u wud think u wer all teachers or sumting!!!!!!11!!!one!.

WHAT. HANG ON! WHO'S BEEN LOGGED IN AS ME? Hang on, I've got to go sort this. I'll be back.

StupidFlanders · 20/01/2013 06:34

That's the policy we have at my school and I always hoped that parents would side with the school. I'm always saying its hard to discipline when parents don't care.
I begin every lesson reminding students that if I see the phone it's gone.

startwig1982 · 20/01/2013 06:48

I confiscate phones regardless of who the child is. Whether they are top set angels, or naughty troublemakers. If they are caught with it out then it is taken. That's the rule. I think you're being a bit precious and naive about your dd.

Morloth · 20/01/2013 06:56

LOL

fatcuntroller · 20/01/2013 07:08

She shouldnt have had the phone out in class. And you're being ridiculously precious about her walk home. Seriously??!

HecateWhoopass · 20/01/2013 07:14

The phone record will determine whether or not she was texting in class.

I bet she was.

I seriously doubt a teacher decided to say she was messing with her phone in class if it was in her bag and she had her head down, doing her work.

come off it.

wigglesrock · 20/01/2013 07:29

Forget the phone issue, I'm much more interested in the teacher with the vendetta!

Your daughter was probably better off without the phone on her brisk walk and tram journey - they're very distracting and if a 15 year old can't get herself home without the aid of her phone after school then she'll need her wits about her.

KaFayOLay · 20/01/2013 07:32

YABU.

We have the same policy at the school I work at.

ChristmasJubilee · 20/01/2013 07:55

Ds2 (15) doesn't have a mobile phone and he has always found his way home without it!

LoopsInHoops · 20/01/2013 07:57

Your DD, Justice? Grin

ll31 · 20/01/2013 07:58

yabu... but tell us re vendetta...

Mosschopz · 20/01/2013 08:02

Ahhh...teaching's a rough gig these days what with all the marking, pay freezes and vengeance we have to spend time unleashing on students and parents!

It's NOT personal, but this school, as does mine, takes a strong line on mobile phones, which distract from learning, attract thieves to and from school and jeopardise safeguarding policies.

She'll only be texting her mates during lesson times because she knows you'll back her up and not the school! Good luck with sorting out yours and her priorities.

CailinDana · 20/01/2013 08:09

Doreen Umbrage!!! Hahahhaha Grin

KaraStarbuckThrace · 20/01/2013 08:13

Jeez... how on earth did we cope as youngsters before mobile 'phone,

Sorry but YABU. Personally think there should be a blanket ban on all mobile phones in school. They are NOT necessary items. And I was walking to school ( a good 20-25min walk) alone, from the age of 8!!