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AIBU?

to want my in-laws to just go home now...

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Florabeebaby · 17/01/2013 19:58

they have been here for 7 weeks...the flight is on Sunday.

We have a 2 bed flat, DD 2yr and DS 3m...AIBU to want them to go home now and give me my home and my TV back?

If they ever come back again it's not for more than 2 weeks...otherwise DH will be faced with divorce papers.

That is all.

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Sorelip · 18/01/2013 12:45

I don't want to freak you out but I've seen online that Heathrow has cancelled a load of flights.

Pigsmummy · 18/01/2013 12:48

Wow, you are my hero.

Get some time off? Leave DC with DH and go shopping/coffee/hair cut/anything, you deserve it and the end is in sight!

shesariver · 18/01/2013 12:51

Im a rather staunch defender of ILs on here as I feel some DILs are just too controlling and precious but congratulations OP, you have managed to get a YANBU from me, 7 weeks in your home - good god! Did you know it would be 7 weeks or have they just stayed longer than planned?

Florabeebaby · 18/01/2013 12:52

Oh, cancellations I knew about...all this might affect the fligths on Sunday even if the snow is gone...

Typical.

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FatimaLovesBread · 18/01/2013 12:52

They're stealing your DDs toys?!

And purplefairies a 2hr drive not been worth less than a weeks visit! I live in Yorkshire and we have friends in Leicester and we often meet just for an afternoon. Madness

thegreylady · 18/01/2013 12:56

Why on earth do they want your dd's toys?

WaynettaSlobsLover · 18/01/2013 12:58

Strangely enough flora....I did think they might be Arab!! Lol my in laws are too. Boys and men are waited on from my experience..hence fil having a paddy about wanting an omelette.

diddl · 18/01/2013 13:06

Well for me, 7weeks would mean never ever having to host them again!

hugoagogo · 18/01/2013 13:07

Lord!

My dm and sd stayed for 4 days one christmas, me and dh still talk about how terrible it was and how we thought they would never go home.

7 weeks

EarlyInTheMorning · 18/01/2013 13:17

They're probably taking a toy as a momentum though...

DeepRedBetty · 18/01/2013 13:22

dds toys????

Bonkers.

2rebecca · 18/01/2013 13:41

Having parents and inlaws young enough to still be in employment stops this sort of stuff as they can't get that long off work. I wouldn't want anyone for longer than 2 weeks. They could stay in a b&b if they wanted to spend longer in the area. We both work and I don't want to run a hotel as well.

Hissy · 18/01/2013 14:56

my EX was from Egypt. His extended family were exactly the same. Everyone steals from everyone.

7 weeks is excessive and for them to do jack shit in terms of helping, while typical, it's unacceptable tbh.

Don't have them back again to your home, put them in a B&B, regardless of what the Algerian Tradition is.... Put it this way, if they were paying for it, they'd not stay in a B&B for months would they?

Glad to hear that your H doesn't expect to be waited on hand and foot like his father.

Florabeebaby · 18/01/2013 15:35

It is tradition, shameful to not have people in your home.

DH has seen the error of his ways though...no more invitations from us to anyone.

Yeah, the stealing is weird...i've since discoverd a bar of soap and some make-up...weird.

They are not awful people, just a bit useless and FIL is someone who has never had to do anything for himself, even his clothes are laid out in the morning

I would never have married DH if he had been anything like it...it's like he doesn't quite belong to that family at all.

This afternoon I have played with DD and fed/settled etc DS, all the while MIL is watching telly (we have a satellite for arab channels)...DH and FIL are out...Just want everyone to go so that I can chill and watch The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills! :)

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oldraver · 18/01/2013 15:57

Oh well I'm surprised the snow hasn't interfered with your satellite unplug the fucker

diddl · 18/01/2013 15:57

"It is tradition, shameful to not have people in your home."

Tradition for who??

Not for you!

If it´s your husband´s tradition-why has he been ducking out of entertaining them??

Who is going to be ashamed of your husband if it doesn´t happen again-anyone important?

Florabeebaby · 18/01/2013 17:12

Not my tradition! And never will be.

My DH has been doing stuff but I suppose he is a bit more comfortable...you know, can speak to them and so on. ;)

And I'm so used to walking around half-dressed etc and now I have to be on alert all the time...

It kind of worked when we didn't have kids but now...no way.

Good idea about the snow...it was off earlier this morning for a while so yes, I will unplug it and say it's the snow! Brill idea, can watch Emmerdale and Corrie then as well...ha!

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WaynettaSlobsLover · 18/01/2013 17:26

I deal with my arab in laws like this: I am European. That means I can still be a good cook, clean my house, be a good mother and have hobbies dont include just waiting on everyone all the time. I don't want my kids drinking loads of milk, please don't give me any diet or health advice since most of you are overweight/riddled with diabetes/health problems galore. Other than that I love you but don't take offence if in my culture we don't live in each others pockets. OP, I salute you as the fellow wife of a North African lol

Mynewmoniker · 18/01/2013 18:37

You'll have to put HWBH on for the whole day to catch up...but it'll be worth it. You wont believe what happened today!

I don't know how you keep your annoyance contained. Especially now they've started nicking from you! Put a mouse trap in your make-up bag...that'll learn em!

2rebecca · 18/01/2013 18:41

Why do relatives too old to have jobs want to steal a child's toys?

EyeoftheStorm · 18/01/2013 18:56

I salute you, Florabee. My MIL came for three weeks (from Australia) after DS2 born prematurely. I ended up with PTSD. She was the straw that broke the camel's back. It would have helped if I couldn't understand what she said though

7 weeks!

Cortana · 18/01/2013 20:01

You, are a saint. YANBU!

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pointythings · 18/01/2013 20:32

OP, you are a goddess.

My ILs (when they were alive) were in the US, 7 hours away. And they never stayed for more than 2 weeks because they didn't want to impose. And they helped around the house, entertained the DDs, did laundry and shopping for us and were genuinely lovely.

And even then I was always glad to have the house to ourselves again, it's just different with long-staying house guests.

marriedinwhite · 18/01/2013 20:36

Two more sleeps OP. Early night tonight and then it's nearly all over. >>hugs

DoodlesNoodles · 18/01/2013 20:42

7 weeks what were you thinking? What was your DH thinking?

Absolute madness.

Well done for getting this far without running away.

I bet you will miss them when they are gone jokes!

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