to want my in-laws to just go home now...

[Florabeebaby]

they have been here for 7 weeks...the flight is on Sunday.

We have a 2 bed flat, DD 2yr and DS 3m...AIBU to want them to go home now and give me my home and my TV back?

If they ever come back again it's not for more than 2 weeks...otherwise DH will be faced with divorce papers.

That is all.

My MIL stayed for 10 weeks, I have never been so unhappy in my life. She is threatening a four week visit next week I have told DH it ain't happening, can't wait for the fireworks/fall out.

Next week = next year, see that's how stressed I am at the thought

Can you go out and see friends for the day/evening and leave them in charge of DD and meals.

Hasn't your DH said anything to them and did they know that they were here to help?

Bloody hell. I'd be in a mental hospital. I can manage two days max. They are trying to force us to go on holiday with them. They have so far counteracted every excuse we have made so I'm now working on only going for half the week because "I can't get the time off work" that way dh will go ahead with the girls and ill have three days on my own!
Party anyone?

I dont think it matters if you live on the moon. WHO?????? in theire right mind thinks it is OK to stay at anyones house for 7 weeks???

Really?? Who is the insane person for thinking this could ever be a good idea??

Forget its your in laws. Even if it was your best mate and their OH - this owould have been daft idea. Let alone the fact you live in a 2 bed flat.

I have every sympathy with the in laws thing. Our used to descend on us for open ended visits and after they once stayed for 3 weeks I said more less what I have said above.

I really dont get how anyone - guests or hosts can think this is a wise ide.

They could have come and stayed with you, then buggerd off somewhere else for a little while and then come back again. Stayed some nights somewhere localish inbetween - for all of your sanity.

Hang in there - its almost over.

7 weeks

Omg

Poor you!!!!

I too was expecting you to say Australia - 7 weeks is a bloody long time to spend solidly with anyone never mind bloody in laws. You deserve a medal OP!

Just read you second post on their shocking selfish behaviour. Surely your DH thinks that's not on? Having has to do hospital visits with a newborn and a toddler I know how stressful that can be. You have even more of my sympathy

Oh wow. Just wow. You are amazing. And they don't even seem like nice PiLs! It would be bad enough if they were nice with such a long stretch of time, but unhelpful ones? Crumbs. You ARE a saint. Hang in there.

And I hope your DS is OK now.

Please tell me you don't live in Wales or Norfolk. They're closing all the airports. Snow....

Seven weeks? SEVEN WEEKS??!!

No need. No need at all.

OMG, I think a big shiny gold medal should be coming your way VERY soon!!!

I dread situations like this if we have DCs (TTC at the moment). My MIL lives a 2-hour drive away and insists that it's "not worth" coming to visit for less than a week. My parents live abroad (short-haul) and rarely come for more than 5 days - we also have a 2-bed flat. I find the whole not being able to relax and having to play host (MIL is the sort of person that expects a home-baked cake and the good china!) VERY wearing after only a few days. God knows how you have managed to stay sane so far!!!

YADNBU. And you have all of my sympathy too. I'm still living and working and being pregnant at the in laws whilst our house is being renovated. We've been here for months......... I started to lose the will to live a long time ago in the throes of horrific morning sickness. It's hell and moving day can't come to soon.

It's snowing today, which means more delays on the house SIGH.

Anyway, in laws on your own turf... and with a poorly baby....oh my. Here have some and a and a bucket of

You're on the home straight now though. Grit teeth and soon they will be gone :)

So for 7 weeks you've had to look after your own two DC and a pair of lazy ungrateful adults who expect you to cater after them in return for... absolutely nothing. Like others said, I couldn't even live with my own mother for that lenght of time and she helps me massively with the DC. The inlaws... ha! You must be some sort of a saint. Hat off.

PS. I'm curious to know where they're from and what language they speak?

If they are only a three hour flight away then I would have thought 1 or 2 weeks stays would be more than ample. My family stayed for a week over Christmas. It was lovely but also I think we were all glad to get back to our own homes at the end of it :)

My mum lives in Australia and came to stay with us 4 weeks before DH and I got married...and to be fair she did walk the dog for us! (No DC at the time)

7 weeks with your PIL - you are a saint!

You deserve a medal Flora.

And you're a better woman than me.

7 weeks! In a 2-bed flat, with a toddler and new baby (premature), in winter, with a couple that do not help. You really are a saint, OP.

They sound a very selfish couple and I can't think what posessed them to think it was OK. Still you are on the home straight now - not long to go till they are on that flight. Put your foot down, if they ever suggest longer than a week again.

You have the patience of a saint! I spent a week with my mother in law once and said never again!

YANBU

I can manage three days of my parents, because they just don't do anything except chat.

To be fair my mum helped cook when her knees were better, but neither are great players with children.
They also judge the state of the house, silently, but they still judge.

I could have managed a week or two with my DEccentric late MIL.

DSIL and her DCs are great sadly they live a long way away and rarely come. They are always welcome, esp. If leave BIL to mind the animals.
(BIL is dim, even DSIL admits it and I find him hard work)

seven weeks!!! And they r still alive??? :o

Yanbu!!! Seven hours is e ough for me :o

My MIL came to live with us (my XDH and two toddlers) for 6 months between selling her house and moving into a new flat when it was finished. She didn't like the way I did things houseworkwise.

We stopped talking to each other.

They won't get stuck with you with this snow will they???

I will take that gold medal thank you. :)

DH lost the will to live about 3 weeks in (!!!)..he is self-employed so just works a lot...and takes DD out a lot. He is being wonderful, cooking, cleaning, bathtimes etc...the list goes on. I always wonder how he became the man he is when I spend time with PILs. Wonderful.

They are from Algeria, my French is veeery basic but I muddle through enough...it's been bloody hard work though.

DS is fine, his consultant was very happy so no worries there. But it's true, I feel like I am missing out on bonding with him a bit, I'm so busy all the time.

This snow is freaking me out...Heathrow better stay open on Sunday. And the roads clear so DH can drive there and back without problems.

Sunday night plan is take-away, film and sofa. Can't wait.

ps. Just had to rescue some of my DDs toys from the bags as well...If they ask me I will happily give some but come on, don't take.