Flatmates from hell

[mochiboom]

Okay so I'm not actually a mum at all, but my mum introduced me to this site and you all seem to give really good advice.

I'm a student, in my first year of uni, and now I know everyone says they have flatmate from hell, but mine really are a special lot.

Basically they have a love of going out a lot, and when they do, they always, always trash the flat. And I don't mean just chucking stuff on the floor, but we've had all of the furniture literally piled up, half out the windows, on top of the extractor fan etc

Plus recently, as part of an ongoing feud with another flat, we have been egged I think about three times; it's all over the windows and it managed to get inside on the carpets and ceilings. It's like concrete and we can't get it off. There's a risk of us being fined as well due to the damage.

Plus they're just so inconsiderate. One never ever does his washing up, and in fact left his dirty plates by the sink before he went home for Christmas; they leave takeaway trays and boxes everywhere and they make so much noise when they come back from a night out I was suffering from sleep deprivation by the end of last semester.

Now I'm still at home because I don't have to be back for another week, but I've just been told by another flatmate, who is back, that they went out for a birthday and the flat is beyond ruined. The fire extinguisher's missing from the kitchen, another flat that they invited over tried to break down her door last night to use her bathroom and the kitchen is a tip.

Normally I'd go and complain, but the problem is, is that I still have to live with them for another two semesters, and I couldn't bear the frigid atmosphere in the flat if they found out I'd complained. They have a personal vendetta against one of the other flatmates for some unknown reason. They are so cruel to her and I'm terrified it'll happen to me.

We have previously confronted them about this before, and they do seem genuinely remorseful at the time, and I do like them. But the fact of the matter remains; they are constantly inconsiderate, disrespectful and just downright rude.

I'm not being unreasonable to just ask for a bit of peace am I? I though university was meant to be fun, not hell.

Mochi sorry

You could move. But be wary of finding one with the other extreme. I was with a group of five girls, four of whom had been to college somewhere else together the year before. They were horrid. If I cooked my tea then went to eat it, they'd bitch that I hadn't washed up before I ate my tea. They were cliquey and would arrange parties but not invite the other flatmate and myself, even though it was in our flat. If me or the other flatmate walked into the kitchen, they walked out en mass.

I moved after the first term to a mixed hall where people stole my food, set fire alarms off at 2am and generally caused mayhem. But I have to say it was better than the first environment.

All in all the first year of student living is a minefield. It gets better next year when you generally choose who you're sharing a flat with.

Halls are pot luck. My DS went to Sheffield, had a fab room and got on with all his flat mates plus those in the adjoining flats. In fact when they moved out of Halls they all moved together. His flat was a bit squalid when I collected him at the end of term but they cleaned it in a couple of hours and got all their deposits back.

OP has just been unlucky. I would ask for help from the accommodation dept. perhaps they could do a surprise inspection.

Hope it works out OP.

Tiny, what a nasty post. There's a big difference between being boring and not wanting to live with the level of disturbance OP is experiencing.

Tiny, you realise these people are literally trashing the house, not being 'normal' first years, right?