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Original poster

To not share my job application form with a friend who wants the same job?

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PenguinBear · 16/01/2013 20:20

My friend wants to apply for the same job as me (in education) and has asked me to email her a copy of my form and covering letter.

I am reluctant to do this. I'm happy to give her a list of everything I covered etc but don't want her to have my application form. She is applying in the same area I work in and if I want to apply for another job it could end up as two of us sending out a near identical covering letter and person spec as I wouldn't know what bits she had used etc.

AIBU to not send it to her?

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LifeofPo · 16/01/2013 20:22

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apostropheuse · 16/01/2013 20:23

YANBU It's her responsibility to complete the form herself. She should also be able to write her own covering letter.

Perhaps you could offer to advise her in a more general way of how to make her application, but she really can't expect you to let her see your form if she's competing for the same job.

Good luck with it!

EverybodysSnowyEyed · 16/01/2013 20:24

YANBU

It's dog eat dog out there! If you were feeling generous you could chat hrough your approach or direct her to some websites tha may give advice on covering letters etc

ilovesooty · 16/01/2013 20:25

Headteachers are used to receiving "shared" applications. They go in the bin.

If she can't write her own application she isn't up to the job. I wouldn't tell her anything about what you've covered either.

Catchingmockingbirds · 16/01/2013 20:25

Yanbu, just tell her you don't feel comfortable doing that.

Salmotrutta · 16/01/2013 20:27

God, how old is she?!

If she needs to completely crib your whole application she can't be up to much anyway!

Fair enough if she asked for an objective opinion from a third party but not looking at another applicant's letter and form ...

StuffezLaBouche · 16/01/2013 20:28

Bloody Hell, I wouldn't even share the areas you've covered. What a lazy person she is!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 16/01/2013 20:31

YANBU. I can't believe someone would even ask this!
I've shared applications with friends in totally different areas, or after I've already secured a job, but would never agree to this.

MarilynValentine · 16/01/2013 20:43

YANBU.

Don't even give her a list of what you covered! I assume you're not her mummy? Grin

What reason has she given for being unable to put it together herself?

StickEmUp · 16/01/2013 20:46

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RubyrooUK · 16/01/2013 20:57

No way!

I'd just tell her you haven't finished it yet and good luck with her application.

ArkadyRose · 16/01/2013 20:58

"Sorry, no, that's not appropriate. Best of luck with your application." Refuse to get drawn further.

Samnella · 16/01/2013 20:59

YANBU.

Just smile and say don't be daft.

ENormaSnob · 16/01/2013 20:59

Tell her to grow up.

letseatgrandma · 16/01/2013 21:08

What a cheek!

Wha have you said to her?!

thegreylady · 16/01/2013 21:32

Form yes but not the letter-how dare she even ask!

thegreylady · 16/01/2013 21:33

blank form I meant of course

MsVestibule · 16/01/2013 21:40

A very close friend and I once applied for the same job. It really wouldn't have crossed either of our minds to ask the other for help in completing the application form, let alone ask for a copy of it!

How old is she?

LeChatRouge · 16/01/2013 21:41

How ridiculous. How can she ask you to do this? Please don't feel like you have to! If you really think you are applying for the same role, don't help her at all. It's not mean, imagine how you'll feel if she gets it and you don't!

Email back and say that now you've had a chance to think about it, you don't want to know what she's writing in hers and can't share yours either.

SquinkiesRule · 16/01/2013 21:44

What a crazy request. I hop you didn't send it to her.

PureQuintessence · 16/01/2013 21:48

Blardy hell, you want to "help her cheat" Shock

Dont!

I will tell you a true story.
When I was 20, in my circle of friends I had two young aspiring actresses. They had both been in films, theater productions, and wanted to apply for a highly coveted once in a life time application to a certain drama school. They practiced together. My best friend was doing a very heartfelt monologue, and her friend a comedy piece. Then the audition. Her friend first. Performed HER monologue. My friend was watching her friend on stage doing HER monologue. She got standing ovation and straight acceptance. She beamed at my friend, as she stumbled out on stage shell-shocked and unable to perform.

Guess who today is a very famous film and theater actress in my home country, and who has just about made a living doing school productions and obscure theater.

Dont show your hand, lady!

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PenguinBear · 16/01/2013 21:48

Thank you! Though I don't think I was clear enough in my op, I already have a job and she wants to apply for the same job in different schools!

I still hope you think I am not being unreasonable!

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EverybodysSnowyEyed · 16/01/2013 22:13

That does make a difference!

I wouldn't send her your application and covering letter because it does need to be her own work, but talking through it with her wouldn't be so bad would it?

EverybodysSnowyEyed · 16/01/2013 22:13

And well done on getting the job!

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PenguinBear · 16/01/2013 22:23

Thanks for the well done, although I can't accept it as it was many moons ago!! Blush

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