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Original poster

to think this was a mean comment to say to my DD?

55 replies

LillyRosePetal · 13/01/2013 21:12

In the supermarket today (this sort of thing always happens in a supermarket haha) and was in line waiting to pay.

DD(almost 2) has a new favourite thing of running around me and finds it hilarious. She wasn't getting in anyones way either otherwise I would have stopped her.

When the woman in front had just paid and turned around and said to her - well you're a noisy little bugger (not in a jokey way) and walked off.

DD wasn't having a tantrum or screaming, which I could understand could be very annoying to some, all she was doing was laughing.

I am prepared to be told I am being unreasonable.

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manicbmc · 13/01/2013 21:14

She shouldn't have commented but then you shouldn't let your small child run around the supermarket. It's dangerous for one thing.

MummytoMog · 13/01/2013 21:14

How rude. I hope your DD couldn't understand :(

MummytoMog · 13/01/2013 21:15

I assume she was running rings round you? In a queue?

Not dangerous. Unless she was carrying scissors...

ExitPursuedByABear · 13/01/2013 21:16

Miserable old witch.

Cat98 · 13/01/2013 21:17

YANBU!

Greensleeves · 13/01/2013 21:17

my kids used to do that at the bus stop and chant "running round the mama, running round the mama"

there was plenty of room, they weren't hurting anyone

woman was a miserable baggage. Some people think it's OK to be unkind to children.

heyannie · 13/01/2013 21:18

Maybe she was having an off day and was feeling irritbale, hence a small stranger's child being mildly irritating prompted her to make a (perhaps unnecessary) comment. But children running around in a supermarket is annoying, so I would probably have been thinking the same as her, even if I wouldn't have bothered to say it.

WorraLiberty · 13/01/2013 21:19

I doubt she was being serious

Perhaps you took her the wrong way?

Wolfiefan · 13/01/2013 21:19

Very rude. But how can you be in a line with her running round you and not have her getting in the way?
I have health issues. If she had knocked into me I would have been really hurt.

Original poster
LillyRosePetal · 13/01/2013 21:20

manicbmc I wasn't letting her round around the supermarket.

We were stood in the queue and she was running around me because in her mind it's fun. I made sure she wasn't bumping into people or getting in their way.

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Cat98 · 13/01/2013 21:22

I can see that there are many situations where children are allowed to do things that are dangerous/irritating, but I do feel sometimes we are veering too much towards 'children should be seen and not heard'. Just mho... Of course we weren't there but it doesn't sound like the op is describing a particularly shocking or dangerous scenario.

manicbmc · 13/01/2013 21:22

Lucky she's not a bolter... yet. Hmm

It sounds like a lovely game for her and I wouldn't have said anything but it is a major bugbear of mine. There are places to play and places not to play and the supermarket isn't a place to play.

surroundedbyblondes · 13/01/2013 21:24

Miserable old bag! We were waiting in a long supermarket queue just before Christmas with the DC. DD1 (4) was great but DD2 is 2 and has significantly less patience. The older lady behind us was lovely and encouraging and very patient. Made it so much less stressful. I let her put the points from our shop on her Clubcard as a thank-you

surroundedbyblondes · 13/01/2013 21:24

Miserable old bag! We were waiting in a long supermarket queue just before Christmas with the DC. DD1 (4) was great but DD2 is 2 and has significantly less patience. The older lady behind us was lovely and encouraging and very patient. Made it so much less stressful. I let her put the points from our shop on her Clubcard as a thank-you

Original poster
LillyRosePetal · 13/01/2013 21:24

There was no one behind me and she wasn't running in huge circles around me either.

If someone would have got in the queue after me then I would have stopped her of course.

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AnaisB · 13/01/2013 21:27

YANBU - she was rude. Can't see why its so dangerous either.

AllYoursBabooshka · 13/01/2013 21:37

Perhaps you DD interpreted her weekly thrill of check out small talk?

This is one of those situation where you are speechless at the the time but come up with loads of great come backs later on, isn't it? :o

Some people are just miserable OP, don't waste any more time worrying about it.

AllYoursBabooshka · 13/01/2013 21:38

your

Booyhoo · 13/01/2013 21:41

she was rude and she meant to be. if she was joking she wouldn't have walked off straight away. she's a rude coward. big enough to say it but not big enough to be called up on it.

bamboostalks · 13/01/2013 21:43

People on here will defend any kind of miserable behaviour. I find it incredible. A small child full of fun and joie de vivre shot down in flames for no reason. How sad. When I take my dc to visit great granny in home, many of the residents comment on how much they miss seeing children having fun etc. these are supermarkets, not nuclear reactors. How careful do we need to be?

Beamur · 13/01/2013 21:44

YANBU. Sounds like your DD was doing no harm at all. Some people are just sour and humourless.
If your DD didn't notice the comment, I would just have ignored it myself or done the passive aggressive thing of speaking loudly to my child 'some people just can't bear others having any fun can they' etc..
Don't give it another thought.

ZZZenAgain · 13/01/2013 21:46

give me a dc laughing over a dc screaming any day. Some people will take umbrage at anything, makes you fearful to leave the house at times

Birdsgottafly · 13/01/2013 21:48

Toddlers always cheer me up, regardless of the type of day that i am having.

I would pity anyone who cannot find joy in the laughter/mischief of small children, tbh.

Lonelybunny · 13/01/2013 21:51

Bloody cheek ! But r u sure she wasn't joking ?

TidyDancer · 13/01/2013 21:54

It sounds like the noise was bothering her more than the running. Was she screeching at the time? I know you say she was laughing, but we all know what small DCs can be like, that high pitched laughing can easily become a screech and that is annoying to other people.

I do think the woman was a bit rude, but she obviously was finding it annoying for whatever reason.