to not do DH's ironing....

[Greenkit]

Ok, my very first AIBU thread

I work full time, usually 7 days in a row and shifts, so days, lates and nights. DH works full time, but one week of Mon-Fri early shift and one week late shift, he some times works a Sat morn.

We have three DC, one is up and away from home married, two live at home DD16 and DS14.

I usually do the ironing, it mounts up to a massive pile and I try to get through it. I iron my clothes and the children, but am I BU to ignore DH clothes and tell him to do his own.

And I know the children could do there's, but at this stage im not to trusting of child v iron.

YANBU. Although a 16 year old is not a child and can easily iron safely.

i dont do dhs ironing and i am a sahm of 4.

to be fair we only iron the essentials like school uniforms,shirts or stuuf that is really creased.

why dont you trust a 16 and 14 year old with an iron?

Don't iron. Problem solved.

Child V iron at ages 14 and 16??

If you're going to be a skivvy to the kids, I don't see what difference it would make if you did the same for your DH.

Don't iron. The world won't implode if you don't. Everyone in your house is perfectly capable of running an iron over their clothes if they're really bothered.

If stop doing his ironing - what could he stop doing for you?

Swings and roundabouts in any relationship

Everyone irons their own clothes. problem solved.

Or don't iron.I rarely iron anything.

YABU for doing your children's ironing. At 14 and 16 they should be doing their own, and pitching in with other chores.

Your DH's ironing is his responsibility but I would consider this in the whole picture of housework, i.e. if he does more than his fair share of other stuff then you are BU not to do the ironing.

I don't do any ironing.

I have never done my dp's ironing, even before having dcs. I tend to buy clothes for me and the kids that need no or little ironing.

I don't get why ironing seems to be a women's job. I can understand it if it is part of a wider distribution of chores, e.g. you do the ironing and I do the cooking but IME, many of my female friends seem to get this job.

I had to do the ironing for a family of 6 when I was in my teens and spent my weekends doing it rather than going out and enjoying myself so I vowed that I would never do this to my daughters. I will teach them to be responsible for themselves and to expect this of others e.g. future partners.

Tell your DH to do his own!

YABU to treat it as his stuff and your stuff. Surely the best solution would be to take it in turns to do the ironing.

What is this "ironing"?

YANBU to not do your DH's ironing, but YABU to do your DSs' ironing, and in fact if you issued a decree to the effect that from now on it was every man for himself ironing-wise, that would probably be accepted way more easily than just suddenly excluding your DH.

If my Dyspraxic 14 year old (who has the co-ordination of a guppy) can iron a pair of trousers and a shirt, I'm sure your DCs could.

Yanbu, I have been married for 10 years and have never ever ever done dh ironing!

I have a similar family set up.
We don't iron anything unless it is absolutely crumpled to hell. Generally I whip things out of the ironing basket and hope the creases drop with body heat .

Now and again I'll do the whole load, now and again dh does the whole load. The kids iron stuff as they need it.

14 and 16 yr olds should be doing theirs or going crumpled! I used to get cross because I did iron DS1's clothes and then he'd dump them on his floor. He told me to stop ironing them so I did!

Let your DC's do some ironing, they are old enough, and it will give them some responsibility.
And as long as DH does some things in the house then I wouldn't seperate his and yours, a family should work together not be each for themselves. What if DH cooked something for the family, but told you that you couldn't have any and had to cook your own. Or did the shopping and baught only the things he wants.
Unless he does nothing around the house, in which case maybe not doing his is the kick he needs to start helping out.

I suppose if ironing is the only domestic task you do it would be vaguely reasonable to do his - assuming he is doing all the cooking and so forth ...

Personally (and I have been severely reprimanded on MN for this view) it will be a cold day in hell before I iron anything pertaining to Mr Inferior.

your kids should do their own too - they are 14 and 16 not 4 and 6.

At 14 I was cooking for the whole family which was around 9 people.

They should be ironing there own clothes

Thank you for your views..

I do agree that my DC should do their own, DS14 is more than capable but glued to the PS3. DD16 goes to college and is studing very lazy

Right from now on they can ALL do their own

I haven't ironed DH's clothes since 1995 when he complained about a shirt collar

Seriously though, you are not a skivvy. Tell all your family they can iron their own clothes, you are done.

I never iron, unless something really needs it, which then gets a quick one before I put it on.

I never iron. Well, hardly ever. Only the very occasional thing. DH irons his own work shirts.