To want to stab middle aged women who upspeak

[PessaryPam]

I think I'm right on this but DH says I am being unreasonable. It makes my teeth itch listening to them, I cannot hear what they are saying because I am waiting for the next inappropriate voice rise. There was one on R4 a few minutes ago and I had to turn her off.

It's bad enough when young people do it, usually with a load of 'like's thrown in for good measure.

God I hate dieting after Christmas!

YANBU. It is annoying. At any age though, unless they are actually 'Ozzie.

I rushed with eagerness to this thread thinking it was going to be about the pretentious habit some people have of suddenly adopting Received Pronunciation (ie: sounding like the queen) when they are trying to impress someone like my mother does

(My mother is in her 70s, so beyond middle age, i know)

I suppose upspeak is a bit of a parody of speaking tentatively, and it is done more often by women than men because women are taught not to have faith that their words are worth hearing. That might make it more annoying in older women because by the time you get to your forties you should be entering on the phase in life where you think "fuck you all", and say what you want to, and dress as you like.

I'm 49, though, and haven't quite got there yet. (Not that I upspeak, though, perish the thought. I just speak much too quickly and then apologise for everything I've just said.

Oh well done for going to the gym - and the healthy lunch - just keep thinking about how pleased you'll be when you see the pounds coming off :)

Hope you don't mind smileys!

( FWIW - I have lots of incongruous speech mannerisms eg, I say 'Gosh' even though I'm not remotely posh - possibly too much Enid Blyton as a child - but love to use certain local chavvy terms with my immediate family as a joke and I love 'Totes Amazeballs!'. Makes me laugh every time.)

Can you tell I'm putting off doing the ironing?

42 is not fecking middle aged

veryworried, yes that' annoying too, and pretty chavvy.

Love smilies choco, it's about all I've got left on this regime. Also like 'Gosh' and also 'Bonkers'. Amazeballs if fine if said ironically.

Speaking of irony, you should be doing ironing

valium, I suppose it depend on how long you intend to live.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Don't die now valium!!

So guys, like, I have a pressing matter now?

@pessary why would you assume I upspeak?

However....

Lillian on 'The Archers' - very irritating voice.

ethelb, you sounded defensive.

ethelb disapproving of interrogative inflection is a common snobby rant.

kim have you stopped now you are back?

It is irritating, at any age.

@pessary I don't think I'm the one being defensive here.

TBH I would adopt it if I lived in Australia as I unconsciously mimic. I would rather be on the beach having a prawn barbie myself.