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to be annoyed with everyone re due date

53 replies

Steth · 10/01/2013 22:03

I am 6 days overdue and am receiving a constant daily barage of texts and calls from people asking if there's"any news?" I know they are just interested and being nice but to be quite honest its bloody annoying and puts me in a bad mood daily. If there was any news they'd fucking know...why cant they piss off and leave me alone. I'm hoping the calls stop once my DC is born

rant over

OP posts:
RobinSparkles · 11/01/2013 09:34

Any news yet OP?
Any signs?
Any twinges?

Wink

People are only excited. I keep asking a woman at work if she's a granny yet! Her DD is 2 weeks overdue and went in to be induced and still no baby. Although, at least I'm not annoying an angry pregnant woman - just her mum.

Pigsmummy · 11/01/2013 09:58

I went on a tour of the maternity unit two weeks before I had my baby, I saw a friend who works on reception at the hospital. Then we went to a hotel for the night as we were attending a gala dinner, anyhoo I didn't take my mobile and when we got back 24 hours or so later I had 20 or so missed calls, 30 texts and a Facebook page full of frantic messages wanting to know what was happening because I was "seen" going into hospital!, I politely told people to back off and said that when baby arrived they would be told but if I had been in labour then messages and calls where not welcome!

noblegiraffe · 11/01/2013 10:01

Could be worse, they could not give a shit.

Flobbadobs · 11/01/2013 10:03

Tell everyone you will let them know and explain nicely that the battery on your phone is running down due to the constant texts and calls and you will need it when the baby is born Smile
I know how you feel though DC's 1 & 2 were both a couple of weeks early so when I got to my due date with DC3 everybody started doing the same as they couldn't believe I was actually going to term this time! I got 2 weeks of it... Thankfully she only went over by one day.

oldebaglady · 11/01/2013 10:03

YABU, how AWFUL that people are interested in your baby Hmm
leave the bastards!

LeggyBlondeNE · 11/01/2013 10:11

I have deliberately not told my in-laws the exact due date this time around for precisely this reason. The messages and phone call on the due-date (anything happenig then?) were bad enough, but the repeated daily call was worse.

a. I am hot, and swollen and uncomfortable, stop sodding reminding me!
b. I do not want anyone to know when it starts so they're not sitting around waiting for up to three days or whatever for baby to arrive.
c. Did they really think we wouldn't tell them?!

They're 'just' being a bit enthusiastically daft, but in your state you are definitely not unreasonable to find it annoying!

wellieboots · 11/01/2013 10:38

No YADNBUGrin DD was born 9 days over (waters broke in the evening of 41 weeks, she was born just over 24 hours later). I got SO sick of it, particularly MIL asking where's the baby?? FFS, I looked like the side of a house, it was perfectly obvious where the baby was Angry

I ended up just not replying to anybody, and in face to face situations (?hich I avoided as much as poss) there was a lot of hmmmm and yes that's right when stupid comments were made

Good luck!

nancerama · 11/01/2013 10:41

I went 21 days overdue. A LOT of people were unfriendly from Facebook for their stupid comments during those 21 days. It's lovely that people are excited and care and want to know, but I was in no mood for some of the "humorous" comments.

Baby will come when he/she is ready. Take the time right now to read books, take long lunches, get your nails done and have some you time.

nancerama · 11/01/2013 10:41

Unfriended. I was the one being unfriendly!

YorkshireDeb · 11/01/2013 10:48

YANBU. I remember how annoyed I got when people ask. Love some of the suggestions people have for putting a stop to it though & will try to remember them for next time. Also drive me nuts that people were convinced I shouldn't leave the house after my due date. "What will you do if you go into labor here?" Erm, I'll go home, wait about another 8 hours then get my bag & go to hospital. X

Spatsky · 11/01/2013 11:46

Ooh I went 9 days over with my son a had to keep my phone switched off for most the time for fear of saying something I would later regret to one of my many enquireres! Tehe worst was "have you had the baby yet?" Yeah, I had it secretly last week but we didn't think to tell anyone so lucky you asked grrrr

PiccadillyCervix · 11/01/2013 14:28

YABU, how AWFUL that people are interested in your baby

If a person is feeling shit and tired and desperately wanting their baby out, is it just being nice to constantly harass then with stupid texts asking is it is coming yet? Hmm The OP isn't enjoying it and most women have already said they don't like it themselves on this thread. Guess this is just the end result of pregnant women being oublic property. "Are you dilated yet? How's your fanny?

surely if you wanted them to know you would tell them? Not everything is your business.

PiccadillyCervix · 11/01/2013 14:29

All that said....

where has the OP gone to? Wink

MrsLouisTheroux · 11/01/2013 14:47

why cant they piss off and leave me alone. Nice.

PiccadillyCervix · 11/01/2013 15:17

I think it's fair enough. When newborns stops being intrinsically linked to a woman's body/ vagina maybe then they won't see it a such a personal question.

My first signs of labor was a bloody mucous plug, if I had replyed to any texts "oh well I have just passed a clot of snot out my fanjo the size of my fist" it would not have gone down well.

Kaida · 11/01/2013 19:15

YANBU. We didn't tell anyone an exact due date for that reason, we said, "Oh, end of July, early August-ish".

IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat · 11/01/2013 19:25

YANBU

I went 15 days over and had to be induced. I was reduced to growling at people who asked if there were any signs!

Hope your baby puts an appearance in soon!

JustFabulous · 11/01/2013 19:37

I never knew how lucky I was to not have a single have you had it yet? text.

quoteunquote · 11/01/2013 19:51

I reckon the pineapple curry worked.

Pigsmummy · 11/01/2013 20:05

Hmmm it's gobe very quiet, quote I think that you have a point........

Pigsmummy · 11/01/2013 20:05

Gobe = gone!?

Stixswhichtwizzle · 11/01/2013 20:22

My 'D'M pestered me like this. I was 10 days over and she was trying to get me over to her house or be at mine every day (told only DH and myself at the birth. I think she was trying to wrangle her way in by 'being around' when things started!) She got hideously arsey when she phone at DD+10 and invited us to dinner, DH quickly and politely declined whilst I was having a contraction. Luckily she didn't hear :)

YABU but I also refused visitors post EMCS under GA for a week post birth too :)

Stixswhichtwizzle · 11/01/2013 20:29

I meant YANBU of course!

ImKateandsoismywife · 11/01/2013 20:37

Yanbu! I went 12 days past my due date and was ready to kill quite a few people by the end - particularly fil who told me not to keep him waiting any longer Angry like I was purposely keeping my legs crossed just to spite him! I know people are just interested but there is no need for all the calls and texts, they must know its bloody annoying.

Pigsmummy your friend is totally unprofessional, I would be fuming!

freddiefrog · 11/01/2013 20:38

YANBU!

I went 12 days over with DD1, and I remember standing in the queue in the post office and one of my Mum's friends asking "any news?!"

I was like erm...no...obviously Hmm

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