to think this is just bad behaviour?

[alisunshine29]

My friend has a 4 year who has regular 'meltdowns' where she kicks/punches mum, cries, shouts, screams etc. In these situations Mum keeps trying to restrain her/tell her to stop which makes her daughter worse. Last night my DD had a playdate with her and her DD had a big meltdown, my friend was in tears asking what she should do with her and whether she should see the doctor about her DD. She said my DD never behaves like hers and so there must be something wrong with her, but in my opinion it's normal (albeit bad) behaviour. AIBU?

DD2 has never hit or screamed at me and would never dream of doing so. But this is more to do with her personality than my parenting of her.

It does sound like your friend needs to change aspects of her parenting but please don't think that every child who behaves like this has parents who don't parent very well.

well lucky you, my dd has never got away with anything, has never once in her life got whatever she is kicking off about, it has made me and dh fall out, you have no idea how hard it can be at times and you dont sound like a very good friend tbh. Also my dd only ever does it for me and dh, because she is relaxed enough to let her real emotions come out when she has to keep them in all day.