There's a very long backstory to this which I won't drip-feed but just want to check that my general anger towards DH isn't clouding my judgement on this issue.
DD is 10 and basically very kind and caring but I have started to notice that she's become much more materialistic over the last 6 months - constantly wanting new stuff, all her clothes have to be the right labels, feels "cheated" if we go in a shop and don;t buy something etc. I've found myself constantly repeating things like she doesn't know how lucky she is, how loads of kids don't have enough to eat etc.
Anyway, a few months back, she saw an advert by Plan about girls in developing countries being forced into marriage from age 12 and asked if we could sponsor a child which I thought was great as you get to see the difference you're making in a much more real way than just shoving coins in a collecting tin. She was really clear that she wanted to sponsor a girl. We signed up online and I came home today and she was really excited because her letter had come through with a picture of the girl we are sponsoring. She had put the picture on her wall (of her new friend) and had started writing a letter and was more excited than she has been by any purchase I've seen her make.
Anyway, in wades DP asking how much it's costing (£15 per month) and instantly says that he'll cancel my other 2 direct debits. We both work and have a joint account. He then starts telling DD about how corrupt African countries are and how most of the aid ends up being given to wealthy people to drive big cars. I could see DD's lip wobbling and I told her that this was different because it is a charity and nearly all the money goes to the people who need it. He then started asking questions about what their admin costs are etc.
I know there are issues about where international aid ends up but this is a charity that I've researched and over 80% of the money goes to the people it's meant for. I also think it's very meaningful for a child to see the difference that the money is making to a real person.
I told DP that he doesn't need to project his cynicism onto a 10 year old but he insists that he's just "telling her the facts". It's completely taken the shine off the whole thing for her and I'm seething. AIBU?