To not want SIL to call my DDs these names?

[MrsMushroom]

Dork, wally, cork-head, twit and similar?

She's Australian and they do like her...she often says things like "Sit properly or your food will end up on the floor you wally."

it irritates me for some reason but I acknowledge that I can be uptight about language and I don't want them saying these things to people...they're 8 and 4.

Ask her not to then, she isn't trying to be offensive. It wouldn't bother me.

Wouldn't bother me either - now that I've re-read and confirmed it's cork not cock

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.
I did a double take at cork head.

I think you are being far too sensitive, but just ask her not to if it bothers you. She might think you're a bit precious though.

Yanbu they're not nice names to call other peoples children imo.

Do they spend stack of time
With your SIL? Because children are pretty adept at Picking up if someone they see just now and then uses language or mannerisms which their own parents don't, and I wouldn't have thought they'd start calling other people these things on the basis of hearing them from SIL
But if you don't like it, just ask her not to.

She may not be trying to be offensive.

But what´s the need for it?

Are they really terms of endearment??

Can´t she just say"sit properly or your food will end up on the floor"??

You life get a

My father's favourite term of endearment was "buggerlugs". He used to refer to his mother, in the most loving tone, as "the prawn"

I think it's an Aussie thing

Interesting, In the UK cork-head is specifically a term for someone from the Isle-of-Wight (all that boat-making).

I wonder how it got to Autralia?

She's Australian - not culturally known for diplomacy, political correctness et al.

Not that I watch soaps these days, but are these terms all over Neighbours and Home and Away? If so, it's coloquial speech to her.

www.australiatravelsearch.com.au/trc/slang.html

www.byronit.com/slang.htm

^^ so you can check whether she's being offensive

Cork-head doesn't appear but this does:

Corker - something striking or astonishing; something very good of its kind.

I use 'wally' and 'buggerlugs' - have no idea why.

If you don't like it, you should said something otherwise how is she going to know you don't like it?

I mostly call my two Ratbag. A term of affection here, but easily taken out of context in other places I assume.

I haven't heard buggerlugs in years, DF used to use that all the time

just tell her

"shut ya cakehole, ya Aussie dag, and stop insulting my anke-biters"

she will understand

My childhood echoed with cries of "Jesus H Christ -you drongo!"

Never did me any harm

I routinely called mine fleabag and loopy.

I wouldn't like it. I hate it when people constantly belittle others, whether children or adults. The implication is your child is stupid. But she will probably say she doesn't mean any harm by it.

This made me chuckle, esp "shut ya cakehole, ya Aussie dag, and stop insulting my anke-biters" from TanteRose.

Just tell her why you don't like it, otherwise she won't know.

Morloth phew! Glad I'm not the only one that uses Ratbag :o

OP I do see where you're coming from, I don't think I'd like someone else calling my DS Ratbag for example, but I'm not sure how I'd address it. Not much help I'm afraid.

Ah, ratbag and buggerlugs ... you could hear a pin drop in our house when I called my aunt 'buggerlugs' (I was seven). Well, that's what she called me, so I thought I could call her it back!

And that's the scenario you dread, OP, huh? You're going to have to point that scenario out to SIL, OP. Does she have children of her own? My aunt didn't, so was unaware of children's propensity to parrot their elders (monkey see, nomkey do, as it were).

If they like her and take it all in their stride and don't seem crushed by it, try and relax. I'm sure it's meant affectionately. If nobody else does that, they probably just accept this is how Auntie So and So is. Lots of people have nicknames at home, it doesn't mean they call others by them.

I call my DD a dingbat

Came from my parents.

I met up with my friends at a soft play place. We each have an older childer of around 7 and younger child around 4, the older children nicknamed the younger ones 'the twits'. It has kind of stuck! None of the names she uses sound offensive, but if you really don't like it, talk to her about it.

Buggerlugs? Haven't heard that for years! My sister thought that was her name for a while though...
I wouldn't bother about it, its not like she's calling your DD a dickhead is it?
YABU