To not want SIL to call my DDs these names?

[MrsMushroom]

Dork, wally, cork-head, twit and similar?

She's Australian and they do like her...she often says things like "Sit properly or your food will end up on the floor you wally."

it irritates me for some reason but I acknowledge that I can be uptight about language and I don't want them saying these things to people...they're 8 and 4.

mrsdevere I have minions too...

I used to get called a 'geet wassak' when i was younger, along with 'bucket face' and 'wombat face'

Nicknames are a family thing in my family we all have about 1000.

My DD was called 'beans' for quite a while.

Not all Australians speak this way! The wally one made me laugh, I can just hear it. But no she should not be calling anyone names. Name calling is uncool.

Favourites in my house are divvy, div, Wally, buffoon, plonker.

I'd imagine cork head refer to those hats with corks hanging off, so means 'backwards outback dweller' but am prepared to be enlightened.

Is silly billy ok?

I use dappy duck and twizzle head

It wouldn't bother me

In fact, reading your OP made me smile.

I have beasts and toads my GD used to call my Dad and Aunt the little bleeders

@ MrsDV - must add minions to my list

Mine are "insufferable child" "revolting child" dd1 is Loopy (sounds a bit like her name) and dd2 is The Short One.

If you don't like it OP, ask her not to do it.

I can't ask her not to do it because I've already told her not to tell the DDs to say "Pardon?" when they don't hear something.

She probably arleady thinks I'm an uptight, English nutcase.

It's not name calling unless it's done maliciously - I call ds a wally all the time, its term of endearment, and plonker is a real favourite

My family (dad especially and FIL would give Alf Garnet a run for his money) use all manner of expressions that ds knows he is not to repeat.

op were you the pardon thread??! High-larious

I call my DS a banana, a sausage, a lump, a potato. Sometimes I might even add in a silly. So you get "Oh you silly potato". Crushing I am sure.

Valium of course it's name calling...calling someone a name.

You potato.

You wally

You wanker

Obv a potato isn't as upsetting as wanker....but all the names sil uses pertain to someone not being very bright. I don't like that. But this is a BIT light hearted....I AM prepared to be told IABU

I can't see why it bothers you if she is a genuinely kind and good natured person. But on the other hand if you think they are going to start calling other people these things then maybe you have a point. I sometimes heard buggerlugs when I was a child as a term of affection. But my Mum would certainly have objected very strongly if I had used it! She wouldn't have.

AND potato and banana aren't as bad as wally and dork somehow.

Darling, love, petal, sausage, all names said with affection usually.

You can't compare anything your SIL is saying with wanker.

The point, OP, is that you don't like it. Just tell her to stop.

Valium I know but as I said "Potato" and "banana" are fairly harmless...wally and dork are not. If I heard another 4 year old call my chlid that, then I'd be a bit about it.

Where exactly in Australia is she from?! I'm Aussie and I've never heard of cork-head.

Be aware she doesn't mean anything by it. It's how we show affection. We'd never call someone a twit or a dork if we really thought they were one.

How are your kids reacting to it? If they're ok, I'd let it go. They might love their (slightly irreverent) aunty.

Still, she might be Australian but you're not. It's your call in the end. If you don't like it, let her know. Tell her to pull her head in... the blinkin drongo.

Why is 'wally' no ok?

not

Because it means stupid...lacking in sense or intelligence. Not something I want my DC called...even in jest.

I think you need to unclench a bit tbh.

It's so REGULAR though....it's not once during one visit. It's half the bloody words she says! I GET that she's not one who find showing affection easy and that she may use these words where someone else would choose a term of endearment....like dear or sweetie or whatever.....but instead she's taking all these descriptions of dimwits onto about two thirds of what she says to my DC!