To think if I get pg because DH won't buy condoms then tough!

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It's no secret I want another baby but 3+ years of trying to convince DH has got me nowhere. We use condoms and DH has always bought them (don't know why - he just has ) but recently keeps forgetting so we've relied on the withdrawal method. IMO it's risky at best if you don't want a pregnancy & DH must know this so, AIBU to think if he wants sex but can't sort out contraception then he will have to accept the consequences if I get pg?

Ironically, withdrawal worked for us for 5 years. 5 months back on the pill.....

I am depressed beyond words that the decision to have a child is being decided on the basis of two overgrown adolescents who can't agree on who should by a pack of condoms.

Try doing what adults do and TALK TO ONE ANOTHER!

Alternatively you could try doing it standing up. You do know you can't get pregnant doing it standing up.

Yep, you need to discuss this with him, as the withdrawal method isn't a method.

Depends.

YANBU if you are prepared for the potential consequences if you do get pregnant and he isn't interested. YABU if you think he will be happy if you do accidentally get pregnant.

It all sounds a bit silly to me tbh.

Why would a man want to withdraw early? Doesn't sound like fun.

well, I can elate to wanting an "accident" you can't help wanting another baby. it is tempting to let him keep using thewithdrawal method... he should know he is dicing with a new life and risking getting you pregnant. I think you need aa talk as outlined by hecate^^ you do not want to rrisk rerjection of the child or yourself, or pressure to terminate...

Why would you be trying to have a baby with someone who doesn't want one?

Contraception is the responsibility of both of you. I can't quite believe that I am reading an op from a married woman with children who cannot speak to her husband about having another child.

OK it is no secret you want another child but have you properly spoken to him recently? I had a boyfriend who I had to spell out in plain English that the withdrawal method does not work and is risky.

I think YABU as previous posters have said.. two parents need to want a baby if you don't want to cause resentment down the line.

Men are naive. I have a friend in his 20's who believes you cannot get pregnant if the woman stands up after sex due to the effects of gravity and he thinks a woman's period consists of sitting on the toilet once a month for 10 minutes and it is all over.