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To sack my driving instructor

47 replies

mamma12 · 06/01/2013 19:48

I've been learning to drive for about 7 months. My instructor charges less than bsm,aa etc but always turns up at least half an hour late. He also stops several times wach lesson to buy food , petrol etc. There have been times where he's turned up 3 hours late, other times he's turned up and said he cant take me on a lesson because he's "ill" (on this occasion he was 3 and a half hours late). On another occasion despite the fact I was in credit he asked me to book some more lessons because he didn't have any money for petrol. I felt sorry for him and obliged even though this made me overdrawn. Ive been doing 1.5 hours a week as thats all I can afford. He then told me to book my test for January. I booked my test for Feb as this was the earliest date available . He then said I will have to do at least 3 lessons a week to pass (it was him who suggested me booking the test in jan). I said I cant afford this and I would rather move my test forward and carry on as i have been doing. He then to,d me i must not move my test as the driving test is about to change and get much harder. I asked him when he said "just after your test". I've looked online and there is no mention of these changes. I've cancelled my test now (haven't had the nerve to tell him). He still owes me a few hours but i'm thinking of just getting rid of him and finding someone else even if this means paying a bit more. Ive also realised that I've been learning over 6 months and he has only taught me one of the four manoeuvres (which actually i taught myself by watching you tube videos). I don't know what to do for some reason I feel guilty for thinking about sacking him and also a bit scared he will see me taking lessons with another instructor Hmm.

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HugoDarling · 06/01/2013 19:49

YANBU, I'm surprised you haven't done it already.

McNewPants2013 · 06/01/2013 19:50

Get rid, no money for petrol stopping a lesson for food ect is not on.

This isn't a friend he is an instructor and he is running a business.

NatashaBee · 06/01/2013 19:51

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RyleDup · 06/01/2013 19:54

Get rid. I had one like that, he'd park up and eat his lunch in the middle of my lesson that I had paid for. And he was really reluctant for me to put in for my test, presumably so he could keep taking the money.

Hassled · 06/01/2013 19:55

Blimey, sack as soon as you can. DD had a shite driving instructor (or so I thought - nothing as bad as yours) and just politely said she felt she needed to move on to someone else - there wasn't much the old instructor could really say. He must have known he'd taught her next to nothing. And then she passed first time :).

You don't have to give a reason - and of course he's going to realise you'll be getting a new instructor so don't worry about seeing him. Just be polite and a non-specific "you don't think you're progressing and so are trying someone else" will do. Don't let yourself be drawn into a discussion (unless you want to tell him how shit he is!).

EuroShagmore · 06/01/2013 19:55

Get rid, but get a refund or use your paid hours. Don't let him be rewarded for being crap!

StickEmUp · 06/01/2013 19:57

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CloudsAndTrees · 06/01/2013 19:59

I only read the first few lines. You need to sack this person.

skinnywhippet · 06/01/2013 19:59

I would get a new instructor ASAP! I wouldn't worry too much about the manoeuvres too much. I took 8 months to learn to drive and passed first time, but only started doing the manoeuvres 6 weeks before the test. I had complete confidence in my instructor which helped me- I was especially nervous!

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ikltownofboothlehem · 06/01/2013 19:59

DH is a driving instructor & has had pupils come to him from others who have had 20+ hours & still not done a manoeuvre or driven on a main road. There are some real rip off merchants out there.

misscomanche · 06/01/2013 20:00

Agree, get rid. Cheaper lessons are good, but not at the cost of your sanity. My former driving instructor spent ages in lessons showing me the correct way to put on a seatbelt. And would frequently talk about his ex-wife (and once took out a photo of her while we were pulled over to do a manoeuvre, asking me if I agreed she was pretty). And he used to play his album in the lessons. HIS album. Of HIM singing. In Iranian, so I couldn't understand a word.

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AwkwardSquad · 06/01/2013 20:01

YANBU. Find another instructor. He may charge less but you're still getting lousy value for money. If he is this slack, how good is his teaching? Also slack, I bet. It's so important to have a good driving instructor.

vintageviolets · 06/01/2013 20:03

Cancel, sounds awful.

mine couldn't wait for me to pass & get rid of me Grin

JarethTheGoblinKing · 06/01/2013 20:06

I sacked mine because he was awful. Didn't feel guilty at all! The next one was lovely and the change made all the difference.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 06/01/2013 20:14

You are paying for lessons, he's not doing you a favour. At any time if you want to stop, that's it. He won't be out of pocket. Lots of people turn 17 and want to drive, plenty of adults later on want lessons, unless he moves to the Moon he should be able to drum up business.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 06/01/2013 20:17

Pressed Post too soon - please don't let your nice nature stop you from packing it in with this instructor!

McNewPants2013 · 06/01/2013 20:21

A good instructor is an investment. Saving a few pounds per lesson with a rubbish instructor is false economy.

FryOneFatManic · 06/01/2013 20:24

Sack him. You're paying him to teach you to drive, he shouldn't be getting you to stop for food, fuel, whatever, he needs to do that on his own time.

He doesn't sound good to me. FWIW I had lessons, once a week for about 6 months and passed first time, but my instructor was a good one who I'd recommend if he still teaches (was about 20 years ago).

orangepudding · 06/01/2013 20:24

If you don't want to tell him you are sacking him tell him you have financial difficulties and you need the money you have paid for the lessons, you'll contract him when you are in a better position. Then find someone else!

piratecat · 06/01/2013 20:32

nope yanbu, he's wasting your time, and your money. you could be forever learning at this rate, whilst he's doing his bloody shopping and getting you to buy him fucking petrol. what a CHEEK!!!

Reaa · 06/01/2013 20:44

Change him.......
I booked my test for a date in Aug as I needed to pass by that sept and my DI told me I would never pass on the date I had booked for and I needed at least 6 months more lessons, I found a new instructor had her for 6 weeks and passed my test first time on the date in Aug i had booked Smile

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 06/01/2013 20:47

I sacked mine - wasn't a rip off merchant but was scary. I'd never know when he was going to slam his foot on the brake and he used to get extremely angry and fling his arms around when I made a mistake - a few times I genuinely thought he was going to hit me. I decided to change when he flat out refused to support me in going for the test. He got quite nasty. Changed to someone else, had a week with them, then passed first time Smile

FryOneFatManic · 06/01/2013 20:51

Point is, finding the right instructor is important. There could be several good ones around but you need someone you can get on with, even without the stuff this one is doing (or rather, not doing).

I changed driving instructors because I didn't get on with the first one, he was really creepy and shouty, so I changed pretty promptly.