To think life will get harder with boys

[notnagging]

I have 5. I feel like the odd one out. They are currently playing monopoly with their dad. I asked that they were in bed by 9 in prep for the school run next week. If I say anything now it will look like I'm spoiling their fun. I feel like the older they get the more I'll get left out. I do alot with them & appreciate they're dad being so hands on but I can't help feeling increasingly left out.

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

I have also avoided said hobbit and will go and watch Les Mis by myself. Unless you fancy coming too?

Just imagine ... one day they will need to be able to talk about and watch said chick flick as a young lady will demand it. I will laugh and then want to discuss the film versus the book

[whiteandyelloworchid]

a, you could be playing too
b, your dh needs to back you upwhen you say its bedtime, he needs a bollocking ! lol
c, girls are just as loving as boys

[notnagging]

Alot of people say that Annie
Dh works long & odd hours so isn't usually around at key times to undermine me. The problem is usually when he takes over. Normally he's around when I'm not & vice versa with a bit of a cross over ifyswim.

[PacificDogwood]

I have 4 boys and I understand what you are feeling (I've always said, any future pet will need to be a girl, even if it is a goldfish!), but don't really feel it myself.

Reading between the lines, I get the impression this is more about how you feel treated by your DH than your boys, non? Apologies if I've got that wrong.

[nickelbabylyinginamanger]

One tipabout the monopoly.
When I was a kid, we had a running game with a friend.
When it was home time, we write down what everyone had in terms of money, property and buildings, whose turn it was and what squares we we're on.
Then pack the game away.

[notnagging]

Haha tea. They are also very good at shopping & holding bags. I keep telling them they'll thank me when they're older. They are lovely boys but so full of energy! They wear me out!

[notnagging]

Good idea nickel. Will try that. Will hopefully save some arguments.

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

Indeed - I never let a man carry my bag until I had sons

and I'm more than a little jealous that you have five boys. I'd love another. They are amazing those brothers that come in a herd. A special gaggle of testosterone that love films I just don't get.

[notnagging]

You are right pacific hence the nickname. That's why I didn't want to interrupt the game. Dh's mum was a nagger not a talker. Every time I open my mouth he automatically thinks I'm starting. Luckily I'm managing to teach my boys that that is not always the case.

[WifeofPie]

Aww...I wouldn't worry about it too much, OP. I think it's normal to feel like that (DH has taken my two boys to play ice hockey...which I loathe...and they've been gone for ages) but I console myself with the knowledge that I'm recharging my batteries for when they return because they are ABSOLUTELY EXHAUSTING. Then I'll be refreshed for dealing with bedtime shenanigans and reading stories (with voices...my specialty ).

[notnagging]

Haha tea. It is funny. I've always been very independent, tomboyish. Most of my friends were male but now I'm so into pink its ridiculous. I even asked dh if we could get a flowery duvet the other day. He says I need a very girly room that I can sit in from time to time to let it all out.

[WifeofPie]

My DSs are sweaty sleepers too and their rooms smell like hamster cages...Dd, not so much .

[notnagging]

Tell me about it wife of pie. Just looking at them wears me out. I sent ds2&3 to the post box 2 mins away today. They were gone so long & I was frantic. They'd walked to the post office half an hour away because it was more of a challenge

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

I have a dream for a girl shed. It will have roses, pretty curtains and lovely pale blue chairs. I will be able to read and gossip with friends in it. I will invite my boys in when I wish them to be there one at a time and I will make them serve tea from a pot. My DH wants an invite to said dream girl shed.

I am a tomboy, wear trousers, work in a male dominated industry, play a rough sport and swear like a sweary man on a construction site. I brought my first heels when my first son was born and they just keep getting higher. It's just a reaction to my environment which i love. Perhaps a support group is required?

[AlwaysHoldingOnToStarbug]

I've got 5 boys and I've never really felt that way but I understand why you do, especially if your DH is undermining you.

I've always been quite tomboyish too so am quite happy rambling round fields or playing computer games. Luckily none of mine are into sports do I don't have to stand around in crap weather pretending I'm enjoying myself!

My teenager quite likes going shopping with me still, as long as we fit in a trip to the game shop! I'm also getting them into carrying all my shopping for me too.

[CurlyhairedAssassin]

YANBU. I felt the same on holiday this year. We went abroad for the first time this year and the boys spent most of their time in the pool or sea playing sharks and diving and splashing etc. DH loves all that and i'm not really a swimmer so it was mainly just the 3 of them most of the time while I paddled about now and again feeling a bit left out. The other 3 like water parks too so I had to go to one of those which I didn't enjoy. It was the first time we've ever gone on a holiday without extended family too so I really missed having another female around to chat with.

Even in the evenings, DH and the DS's were messing around on the iPad playing geeky games and didn't show much interest in my suggestions of card games etc. I don't know, I suppose I could have felt the same if one of them had been a girl but I just felt for the first time that I was not a part of the "boys' club".

So I know how you feel, notnagging. I know my boys still need me but the things that they are becoming more interested in as they get older eg martial arts and swimming and guitar are exactly what DH loves so of course they think he is loads more fun than I am with my books and piano and non-sporty interests!

sigh

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

Hehehe. Now laughing at postbox challenge.

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

And hamster cage is the smell I've been trying to identify!

[notnagging]

Most definitely tea. I think it's my subconscious. I did have my own space but gave it up for ds1. Dh & I have spoken about separate bedrooms. I wish. Mine would be so pink, fluffy & flowery. My make up bag is growing as well as my shoe collection. I would never imagine saying that 10 years ago

[CurlyhairedAssassin]

I guess it depends on how old they are too. I actually work in a boys' schools and absolutely love working with teenage boys - I could never imagine working with girls! So it's quite ironic that I feel left out at home!!! But mine are still junior age - I reckon when they are teenagers they will be clashing with their dad more and coming to me again for advice about girls etc whereas now they just hero worship dh!! I am waiting for the teenage years when they will be mine again ha ha!

[MrsKeithRichards]

I didn't think I was a girly person until I had two boys!I bought myself a pink hetty to replace the boy henry just to balance things up.

[MrsKeithRichards]

Although she couldn't hoover up the slimy snail trails on my hall walls after ds's new pets escaped out his coat pocket. Useless moo.

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

[notnagging]

You Lot have really made me laugh, thank you. I do try & pretend sometimes but I get found out so quickly. I sit through 2hrs of kickboxing when I have 2 but cannot understand why ds1 insists on going to rugby every Saturday at 8
I got wii Zumba for Christmas & I could see them all laughing through the door. Far too girly

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

Oh maybe not - I have had snail and slug issues, in the house, a number of times with DS4 (2). Last year i suffered slug foot a number of times when I got up at 6am to put on heating and make bottle/tea. Horrid!