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AIBU?

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To think that a password on phone isn't always a red flag? Or am I beings naive?

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Wishfulmakeupping · 04/01/2013 15:08

Read various threads where the red flag has been phone behaviour- do you think this is always a cause for concern?
My OH has a password on his phone which I have questioned him about in the past- he says it's in case it's stolen or in case a friend tries to do a status in his fb or twitter. Aside from this I doubt very much he has been unfaithful we are together most of the time, he has never given me any reason to doubt him- and when women have tried it on with him he has been honest.
Should I be worried on the sole basis on phone behaviour he has password, and does take phone everywhere with him (he says for work reasons) and does have a tendency to hover if your on his phone but on the other hand I have no other reason to be suspicious of him. He has also told me the password he uses and says at any point I can check his phone - although he has said he'd be disappointed if I did as it would look like I didn't trust him.
Is there any need for me to be worried about this or not? Most people I know have password on phone but mumsnet threads are getting me worried!

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 04/01/2013 15:11

I have a password on my phone so the kids can't get into it. I don't think I've ever told DH what it is but I've got nothing to hide on there. I'm pretty sure DH has a password on his phone too. I don't think its a big deal unless there are other factors involved.

DeafLeopard · 04/01/2013 15:12

I have a password, but DH and the DCs know it so that they can use it.

Purely in case it gets stolen.

GetorfsaMotherfuckingMorrisMan · 04/01/2013 15:13

I have always had passwords on my phones - in case I leave it somewhere and someone picks it up and immediately telephones Brazil.

CloudsAndTrees · 04/01/2013 15:13

Not a big deal or a red flag at all. I would guess most people have one in case it gets stolen or lost.

halcyondays · 04/01/2013 15:15

Not a red flag at all, lots of people have passwords on their phones.

Schnarkle · 04/01/2013 15:15

The password alone wouldn't concern me. All the other stuff you've posted along with that would though. Why does he need to hover close by, what would his reaction be if you walked out of the room with his phone.

Adding the line he'd be disappointed if you did check his phone, even though he's said you could is to confuse your thinking.

Doesn't mean he's up to anything of course but it would set me to this face

Oblomov · 04/01/2013 15:15

A password, after the initial 4 numbered pin?

SoupDragon · 04/01/2013 15:16

I have a passcode on mine in case it's stolen - this way I have a chance of using "find my iphone" and tracking it down without someone wiping it, or I can wipe it myself.

MamaMumra · 04/01/2013 15:16

DH and I have passwords on our phones in case they get lost or stolen, but I know his and he knows mine and DS knows both. In isolation I wouldn't worry.

Purple2012 · 04/01/2013 15:17

I have a password, I have told my husband what it is but I doubt he remembers it. I only have it in case I lose the phone. He doesn't have a password but I don't go into his phone. I could if I wanted to though.

TheCatIsEatingIt · 04/01/2013 15:18

If he's told you the password, I doubt there's anything to worry about. DH has one on his, I'm not fussed - he hands it to me without question if ever I want it. The same with mine. I think I'd be a bit miffed in principle if he wanted to check it, but there aren't any secrets on there.

Oblomov · 04/01/2013 15:19

Sorry to sound numpty, but do you mean a word password?
I have never had this. But 4 digit pin, I have had on my phone, for atleast the last few phones. Dh too. This is just standard factory settings, surely? Everyone has a 4 digit pin entry, surely?

StrawberryMojito · 04/01/2013 15:19

My DH has a passcode on his iPhone in case it gets stolen. He's told me what it is, it's also the pin code for our Sky tv! He's been bugging me to set up a code on my iPhone in case it was stolen. I resisted until I temporarily lost it but thought it had been stolen. When I found it again I did set up a pass code. DH doesn't know what my code is, hasn't asked. I don't think you need to be worried about your DH.

forgetmenots · 04/01/2013 15:20

I have one on mine in case it gets stolen. So does DH, and iPad/laptop are all locked with the same code, a variation on an important date. No need for it to be a red flag at all.

ChocHobNob · 04/01/2013 15:21

I have a password on my phone to stop my kids playing with it. But my husband knows the password. I don't mind him looking at my phone and he doesn't mind me looking at his for whatever reason. The password alone isn't a red flag to me. Having a password and actively refusing to let their partner know it would.

Crinkle77 · 04/01/2013 15:21

You are supposed to have one in case it gets stolen. Is the phone insured? Maybe the policy will be void if it is not properly protected

MamaMumra · 04/01/2013 15:21

What Schnarkle said too.
DH leaves his phone lying around, as do I. We often use each others phones to surf the net / take outside for a fag etc.
But in isolation a passcode lock wouldn't worry me.

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 04/01/2013 15:21

The password wouldn't fuss me, particularly as you have it. However, why is he hovering and keeping it with him? Is he cheating WITH his new phone? When I got my beautiful new Android, I hovered and took it everywhere because I secretly loved it more than my family .

Booblesonthetree · 04/01/2013 15:22

Nothing to worry about. Neither of us password our phones but my ipad has one. God knows why as it was set up to keep the DC's off it constantly but they know it anyway, as does DH.
YANBUZ

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Wishfulmakeupping · 04/01/2013 15:22

By password I mean the 4 numbered pin.
Schnarkle the hovering bothered me- I did say to him that made him look like he was worried about what I was doing with his phone and he agreed that it could look like that - since then I've had times I've been on his phone (when a friend was trying to get hold of me) and he's not acted weird but don't think I took it out of room. And I did say that by him telling he would be dispointed if I checked his phone he knew I wouldn't, but in fairness if he asked to check mine I would be upset too so again don't know if I should be worried about that or not

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StrawberryMojito · 04/01/2013 15:22

Oblomov, most phones have the facility to use a pass code or word but you can turn it off as a lot of people don't like the faff.

Booblesonthetree · 04/01/2013 15:22

YANBU even. Not sure why there is a rogue Z in there!

hellsbellsmelons · 04/01/2013 15:23

I also have a password.
Having had a phone stolen it does help protect it.
Mine is a worded one - these are much more secure!!!
I seriously wouldn't worry.

ouryve · 04/01/2013 15:23

DH locks his phone so the kids can't tamper with it. The same as all admin accounts on all computers in the house are locked and protected.

shotofexpresso · 04/01/2013 15:23

I have a pin on my phone so my kids can't download expensive games, so no.

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