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AIBU to think that you don't get to eat more than your share?

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MarmaladeSkies · 04/01/2013 13:52

This is a minor issue I realise,but it's annoying me.
I had a relative staying overnight,and we were having pudding,which was roulade,with fruit and cream.We'd had a big dinner,and 3 of us decided to wait an hour or so to have pudding as we were full. The relative in question decided to have his there and then,which is fine,but when we had ours about 90 minutes later,he wanted to know where his was.Hmm He wasn't joking either.
I said there's X,Y,Z if you want pudding again,but no more roulade. They were large pieces of roulade too so it's not as though he was exactly deprived. He had a sulk over it.

The next day we had the same thing,only with lunch,when he'd eaten cereal and bananas,then made cheese and toast around 9am,followed by other snacks,then wanted rolls and sausage,which were intended for lunch, at 11am,which was fine,but again we had the same problem that he wanted the same again when we had our lunch at 12,but I didn't have enough to give him the same again.

Now I realise that this is an incredibly tedious post,and thankyou for staying with me if you got this far,but AIBU to think that you don't get to have your share and that of others just because you chose to eat yours first?

OP posts:
juneybean · 04/01/2013 15:19

Any one else now wanting a sausage buttie?

CinnabarRed · 04/01/2013 15:22

"He pouted,and said 'Don't want bacon'."

Grin

I couldn't have moved for laughing if a grown man had said that to me.

busymummy3 · 04/01/2013 15:22

Does he get to eat those sort of things in his own home? We had a relative who would always help himself to 2 cream cakes even when obvious one each simply because cream cakes banned in his house !!!

perceptionreality · 04/01/2013 15:23

See, I'm the other end of the spectrum - I usually can't manage pudding at all and then I have the host saying oh why not? Grin

Original poster
MarmaladeSkies · 04/01/2013 15:26

He didn't bring anything with him Bun.That honestly doesn't bother me,though I always take something when I visit others,but I wouldn't really notice,or care, if people didn't turn up with anything when visiting me.

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Original poster
MarmaladeSkies · 04/01/2013 15:27

He folded his arms too,Cinnabar.

I'll get rid of him soon.He's gone off to the pub,and is going home tonight,whether he likes it or not.

He can eat what he likes at home,BusyMummy.He's not restricted in any way.

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CinnabarRed · 04/01/2013 15:27

How old is he, OP?

Just out of his teens, perhaps?

Badgerwife · 04/01/2013 15:27

I don't know why, but this thread is making me giggle.

DH, who is the greediest person I know (ate a whole pack of haribos during The Hobbit two days ago and wonders why his digestion has been so shocking) just said your relative sounds a bit 'special' Grin

perceptionreality · 04/01/2013 15:28

Sounds like he has no manners tbh. OP, you sound very tolerant!

CinnabarRed · 04/01/2013 15:28

You sound like a marvellous hostess, BTW.

Original poster
MarmaladeSkies · 04/01/2013 15:32

He's 35.

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CinnabarRed · 04/01/2013 15:32

Then I fear he might be my brother!

Whitershadeofpale · 04/01/2013 16:03

Am I th eonly one who doesn't think a bag af haribos is unmanagable Blush

Going back to the OP I think he sounds incredibly rude and childish.

EmpressOfThePuddle · 04/01/2013 16:21

Have you tried spelling it out to him? You can have your roulade now but then you won't be able to have anuy later?

SPBInDisguise · 04/01/2013 16:28

That's what you do for a child! And no, bag of haribo easily eatable in one sitting

EmpressOfThePuddle · 04/01/2013 16:33

And he sounds like one!

Any later... doubt he'd want anuy.

Saltire · 04/01/2013 16:49

I have read this with interest, I had a slightly different, but similar situation a few weeks ago and thought long and hard about if DH and I were being mean in the amount of food we served up, or if our guests were greedy. I now actually don't think we were, I think the guests were greedy.
I also thought long and hard aobut posting an AIBU - but decided against it Wink

Some0ne · 04/01/2013 16:56

Is he by any chance single and still living with his parents?

And yes, I could murder a sausage sandwich now, dammit.

OTheYuleManatee · 04/01/2013 16:57

A 35-year-old man pouted, folded his arms and said 'Don't want bacon'.

I am now imagining him as the kind of indulged PFB man-child who still lives at takes his laundry home well into his 30s.

YAresoundinglyNBU Grin

OTheYuleManatee · 04/01/2013 16:58

X posted, SomeOne Grin

RabidCarrot · 04/01/2013 17:24

Does he have some sort of eating disorder or is he just a pig?

RedToothbrush · 04/01/2013 17:29

The word NO is a good one. You are providing him with food as a host. If he doesn't like whats provided (and when) its his problem. If he sulks, let him. Tell him point blank he's acting like a spoilt child. Repeat every time. He'll either stop arguing after a few times if he knows you won't budge or he'll stop bothering you all together, which is really his problem not yours.

If you indulge him, you'll forever be bending over backwards for him. Be blunt, and tell him to suck it up repeatedly until he takes the hint.

BlueberryHill · 04/01/2013 17:31

Why is he coming again in a month? Does he stay regularly and demand this much food? If so, does he contribute anything, take you out for a meal to say thank you?

SantasENormaSnob · 04/01/2013 17:36

He is a greedy rude cunt with no regards to anyone else.

He certainly wouldn't be welcome back in my house.

CornyClam · 04/01/2013 17:37

are you serving him dinner after the pub?
can we all watch?

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