To expect him to do it one fucking night??

[Shockedandhurt]

I am split from my partner with an 8 week old baby. We split when i was 7 months pregnant after plenty feckless behaviour from him whilst i was having quite a difficult pregnancy.
I have allowed him on several occasions to stay with me in the living room looking after the baby. He has no suitable living arrangements of his own.
Each time i have had to go to living room because he has slept through baby screaming or he has asked me to fo it whilst he retires back to bed.
Last night completely washed out with tiredness i looked forward to his help.
Firstly he invited people to my home whilst i was out. Making myself scarce to allow him bonding time with baby. I was a bit put out he hadnt ran this by me as a common courtesy. It wouldnt have been a problem. Then i taught him how to sterilise bottles for 3rd time and watched while he did it himself. I noticed just in time a massive blob of unlathered washing up liquid in one of the bottles. Obviously could have made baby very ill. Then i awake to baby plonked beside my bed in moses basket with no cover. Again he is snoring away on couch having done his duty. AIBU to be absolutely fucking raging????!

How are things today, Shockedandhurt? I do hope you gave Goldilocks his marching orders?

Tell him to piss off. He is sadly using the baby as an excuse to get a bed, food etc. so what if he is the dad - he should act like one to be recognised as one. He is more grief than anything.

Hello - yes i told him very calmly that the overnights were over. Sulky sulky but not my problem. He can see him for a couple of hours a few times a week. He is strangely quiet i await the next ludicrous outburst!

Well done Op. hes got a bloody cheek!

I would love to show him this thread to show that others agree with me and im not the unreasonable bitch he thinks i am.

Well why dont you?

OP, he's never going to admit he's being unreasonable because he doesn't believe he is. It's massive cognitive dissonance. You will bang your head against the wall trying to get him to realise it, he just won't.

What others said - refuse to engage him, "no" is a full sentence, stop expecting ANYTHING from him and you will stop being disappointed in him.

You can't change him or how he acts, you can only change how you feel about it. When you let him get to you, you let him control you. Don't let him! Who cares what he thinks anyway, is his opinion of you that important? So what if he thinks you're a bitch, he also thinks he's a good father (wrong) and is completely reasonable about the way he treats you and your DS (double wrong). So why would he be right if he thinks you're a bitch? (you're obviously not!)

OP it doesn't matter what he thinks. He is obviously an idiot!

Stick to your guns

Notmy - lightbulb moment. Your post is so true. Thank you.