to think some married women look down on single women?

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Obviously not all married women but I do know a few who do look down on their single friends.

I remember there was a troll on a forum (not a particularly harmful one) and a lot of the ladies commented saying "at least I have a man", "at least I'm married" etc.

Like life could only be complete unless you are married and it is some elite club.

It's a little like that smug married couple scene from Bridget Jones, where she's asked why is there so many unmarried women in their 30s these days?

I'm going to be the Bridget Jones of 2013 i think

I'm sure people like this do exist but I have to say, I haven't come across anyone that thinks this way perhaps I don't get out enough.

It's ridiculous though, and I don't approve of this sort of thinking

I have never met anyone who has expressed that view.

Does anyone ever really say 'at least I'm married' ? Anyone this side of the 60s?

I dunno....I am married sometimes feel a bit envious of single friends :)

I've never met anyone like this in real life although have spotted people on threads about marriage telling others who have been happily partnered for ten years with two children that their relationship isn't as valid as their own because they are married don'tcha know.

I also don't think marriage is an exclusive club, anyone can sucker someone else into marrying them if they aren't fussy.

That sounds bitchy doesn't it and I don't mean it to at all, especially as I'm (very happily) married myself.

pag I've had that said about me by an older lady, comparing me to a mutual friend ending with the phrase "but at least you're married" to me! I'm afraid I laughed loud and long...

I'm sure some do, but I've never met any IRL. In my experience both sides are envious of some aspects of the others' situation. I'd far far rather be single than unhappily married. And I'd rather be single than feel trapped in a relationship I'm 'meh' about.

yes OP I agree and I also think you get treated differently if you don't have children. Quite often if you are not married/have kids you are left out of things

Boobles
How bizarre. I would have snorted at her too.

It just sounds like a line fom a 1950s film.

I would say the reverse; parts of MN seems to chant the mantra of 'you don't need a piece of paper and you have become submissive if you choose to marry'

I know a few people like that. Thankfully I don't socialize with them. I worked for a large but twee company in London where all the "career girls" we're solely intent on bagging a city trader. It got hysterically competitive, particularly on Mondays when the glacier type diamond on platinum engagement rings were brandished following a proposal at Bluebird/Oxo Tower blah blah blah!

Competitive engagement ring buying, competitive "surprise" long stemmed Roses delivered to your desk on Valentines Day, competitive "surprise" mini break weekends to country retreats......

I especially can't stand this "now you're a couple, let's get together and do coupley things"

WTAF do you have to do with other couples specifically that you can't do with a single friend??

I look up to them.

My unmarried single friends spend weekends in New York shopping, tote pristine mulberry bags and look perfectly polished at all times.

I spend weekends in parks, zoos etc, my mulberry is destroyed and although I make an effort I just dont have the time to look constantly immaculate.

I'm sure they exist, but I've never met any.
Yes, there are people who see themselves as better than others and look down on those they see as 'less' than them.
You'll find there are those who sneer about sahm. Those who sneer about wohm. Those who sneer about people they decide are less intelligent or educated than them, or less wealthy etc etc

Its because there's something wrong with THEM

Only their choices are valid ones. Their life is the ideal. The only way is THEIR way and it's soooo much better...

Just pity them, because it just means at best they're really insecure and at worst they're a twat.
And who cares about the views of a twat?

I did know a woman who complained about losing all her married friends because she became single following a divorce.
She used to say it was because married women were threatened by her and that married women were all superior and looked down on her.
It was actually because she was not very nice at all and all her friends had only put up with her because they liked her dh so much

Very true Hecate. Very true.

Yes definitely! Thankfully I'm not friends with any of those sorts of people!

I know Bumble.

Perhaps they give you a really nice membership card to the Couples Club though.....

I can only imagine thing going quite wrong in the competitive conception leg of the friendship journey....shallow as it all stands.

OP you've started so many threads today! Blimes.

Umm, YABU.

See so many people think single equals no kids! I've been single since I was pregnant and for a long time felt like I didn't fit in anyway! My single friends were out living it up and my married friends with kids were playing happy families! I felt like a complete aberration! Although a lot of that was in my own head.

I been single 3 and a half years, i tell the pity parties to piss off, quite happy with my single card.