to think some married women look down on single women?

[xameliax]

Obviously not all married women but I do know a few who do look down on their single friends.

I remember there was a troll on a forum (not a particularly harmful one) and a lot of the ladies commented saying "at least I have a man", "at least I'm married" etc.

Like life could only be complete unless you are married and it is some elite club.

It's a little like that smug married couple scene from Bridget Jones, where she's asked why is there so many unmarried women in their 30s these days?

I am married with kids and so are lots of my friends. In our group of friends there are married people, parents, divorced people, single people, childless people, single parents etc etc. Everyone is treated exactly the same. My DH is not very sociable so I often go out on my own with friends who are all with their partners - I never feel left out. I think it is weird to view it any other way to be honest. Who cares? Real friends treat all their friends the same and anyone who doesn't is a twat and not worth your time.

I am married and sometimes feel envious of single, childless friends (and sometimes just childless friends).

I am pretty happy with my life in all and wouldn't really swap it. (A little smug married then).

Oh yeah, some definitely do! And some women definitely see themselves as superior after having children - I really dislike it but what can you do! I hate the ones that imply people without children are selfish, as I have been desperate for a child for nearly six years and if I really WAS selfish I'd have had one before now!

I am sure there are some people like this..but not enough to warrant mentioning. I haven't met anyone who actually thinks like that ever!

Have met a few single people who assume my married life must be full of drudgery and sad having to shag the same person for ever. But again, they aren't the norm.

I don't envy my single friends often though as dating just seems like an awful lot of work some times. It is nice not having to worry about the state of your foof or all of the other crap that come with dating. Not the same as being smug... I'm just too lazy to do that all over again

Yeah and us gay divorcees look at you all with pity from over our horn rimmed spectacles whilst swigging down gin slings from champagne bowls. Bonkers.

I think I started 3 yesterday Pinot

Two in aibu (dark circles/looking pale) and one in chat (girl crush)

I probably shouldn't have started the dark circles one, but I just wanted opinions.

And I've started one today.

Didn't realise there was a limit.

Piccadilly - me too hence I have embraced the single life, only no one believes me!

I didn't say there was a limit You just seem to be all over my Active and I've not seen your name before. Just an innocent observation :)

My sister was livid when i got married first, i was shocked at the strength of her feelings. She has been openly gagging for a ring for years but her bf just wont even consider proposing. I will freely admit to feeling pangs of envy whenever my friends got married ( and i was very single). And theres something reassuring about marriage but it certainly does not validate you as a person as my more insecure friends seem to think. Nowadays im jeañous of anybody with eight hours sleep a night, a 27" waist and a social life....

I had a friend who thought like that and threw it in my face at every avaliable oppertunity, sometimes subtle, most times not. She's no longer my friend and hasn't been for some time now.

Some do... When I was single I got patronising remarks by those who weren't and accused by some 'friends' of being jealous and wanting their boyfriends...

now I'm with dp I get remarks about us not being married or having dc... can't fecking win

OP, strictly YANBU but then again there are 'some married women' who don't look down on single women. Also there will be some single women who look down on married women and some who don't.

There will also be some dog-loving women who look down on cat owners and vic-versa, and some working women who look down on women who don't work and vice versa.

You could go on forever...

I am happily married with 2 children. I don't look down on any one.

I only got married as in the event of one of us getting seriously ill or died.

I'm married. 18 years past on Saturday, but my 3 best friends are all single. I don't look down on them. They're my friends!! I like having married/single/divorced friends. It's all fun!

not in my experience

I havent met anyone who looks down on single women. However, sometimes I feel grateful that I met my DH when I was young. Dating isnt easy, especially when you are in your 30's.

Weegiemum, my three best friends are single too. Do you think we could have the same friends ????!!!

I've never come across this in RL, and I have a mixture of single and married friends.

I have found that many single women I come across put themselves down far too often, and they refer to their singledom far more than is necessary.

I think people that put themselves or others down are basically not happy with themselves or their own choices in life, regardless of their marital status.