Other half's tongue has run away with him!

[Piercy]

Hi

My other half has a son by a previous relationship who will be 19 in a few days time. Today my OH has told SS that he will tell him when labour has started so he can be outside the room.

This is NOT what we discussed we discussed that SS may stay at the home after baby is brought home (SS lives with his mum) depending on what happens but he would be the only one to come and stay.

I've said I don't want SS to be at the hospital more than welcome to come after I've stopped yelling, cleaned myself up and had a little time with just the 3 of us - OH thinks I'm not thinking of 'family' how do I convince him (i just have that scene from only Fools and Horses in my head where Rachelle gave birth)

Help me

Piercey

Or the hospital doesn't allow it if OP wants to be really diplomatic.

Hi all

I am very appreciative of your honest views of birth, to be honest SS and I aren't that close and there was no way on gods earth he was going to be seeing "everything".

Anyway SS is staying with us at the moment and at breakfast we had a "chat" all 3 of us and DP has apologised for stressing me out and that was the last thing he wanted :0)

I've promised that SS can be first visitor when I'm ready and he was understanding.

So problem solved - thank you for all your support and stories they really were helpful (I kind of knew that sneezing didn't mean a baby popped out they don't call it labour for nothing).

So here's to the 04th April as that is my due date I've got a feeling the next 3 months are going to fly there is still sooooo much to do!

Happy New Year everyone

P

Glad it's all been sorted! First visitor is far more reasonable! Glad your DP has understood you are not being unreasonable and has compromised too.

Happy New Year and best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Well done! It is so nice your ss cares about you and his future sibling so much.

It's lovely you SS is wanting to be so involved, but I can totally understand your position.

I think you need to strike a balance here. The reason for him to be there is to be the first (aside from your DH and you) to hold your baby and welcome him/her into the family.

I would speak to DH about a revised plan where your SS is kept up to date on what is happening but comes to the hospital once the baby is born and you promise that he will be the first one to hold the baby.

Cross post OP. Glad you got it sorted :-)

PMPL @ Bogey, my oldest refused to come within a 10 mile radius of our house once I got to 38 weeks - just in case baby came.

OP - look up Rasberry leaf tea, Clary Sage Oil and Evening Primrose Oil, I used a combination of them all in last 2 labours and I flew through them. PM me if you have any questions.

Glad you got it sorted and good luck :)

Sounds like the baby has a good older brother.