To expect mil to sleep on a z-bed........

[Dinkyblu]

So we have been thinking of changing our spare room into a play room for dc as her room is a box room and my living room is taken over by large plastic crap toys....but it is the only place we have a spare bed so if we get rid of it then we are taking away the option of mil (our only night time baby sitter) to stop over if she wishes. Usually she likes to drive back home when we get back but I like to give her the option of staying over.....

So I was thinking of getting a z bed so she still has the option of sleeping over and then we don't loose our baby sitter...lol...but then it also frees up space in our small house.

BUT.... AIBU to expect mil to stay on what is basically a glorified camp bed...

Thanks ;-)

How often does she actually use the bed that is there? If it is never, YANBU, if she uses it a few times a year, ask her what she thinks, if she uses it once a month, YABU!

How old is she?
I'm 56 and would be quite happy as long as I had some clean bedding, but then I've slept in crap places in my travels in my time.

How old and how fit/well is she? For a relatively able bodied fit person the odd night should not be a problem - if she's 70+ & has a bad back or something YABU

Does the box room not fit a single bed at all? If the spare room has a double bed in the middle of it you could push it to the side and just have a tidy up when MIL stays over.

Depend on how fit she is.

Another option though could be to get a sofa bed for the playroom - the one we have is almost as comfy as a normal bed

How often does she stay now?
How old is she?
is she in good health?

Has MIL got back or leg problems? If she has then don't torture the poor woman! Those things are bitches to get onto and up out of
A single futon or something similar might be better.

Or she could sleep in your dd bed and your dd could sleep on a z bed

Can't you put your dd in the bigger room and make the box room into a spare room?

I thi k you will miss having a spare room if your dd gets two rooms. Unless you don't use yours to shove all your junk.

Could you not give DC the spare room as bigger bedroom and put single bed in box room?

If not a sofa bed is a good option

BTW not to rain on your parade but playrooms often sit unused.

What about reducin the amount of crap toys?

Could you not make the spare room into your DD's room now she's bigger and has more stuff? Then you could still have a single bed in what is now her room?

If not, we had a seriously comfy put-u-up chair bed. It was just as good as a 'proper' bed, but folded into an equally comfy chair for stories and suchlike.

YANBU but there are options!

Depends on her age, health and how often she babysits.

Could you offer her your bed if she stays? Or DD's bed?

Can you not keep the bed, presumably it's a single, and still use it as a playroom?

put your DD in the big room completely. Put single bed in box room.

Accept ifyou don't have a spare bed she might not want to do overnight childcare at your house, how badly will that impact on your life?

As she is doing you a favour couldn't you give up your double bed and get a double z bed or you or eh sleep on single z bed and one on sofa. Depends on her age I guess but seems bit cheeky.

Dh not eh

I agree with others. Unless the "playroom" is in the same level and very close to the living room, it won't be used much.

A good solution would be to give the spare room to DD and have a single sofa bed or bed in the boxroom.

But your MIL doesn't seem to sleep that much at your place, anyway.

What about a day bed that looks like a sofa normally but can be a proper single if needed?

We had a folding bed that my FiL routinely slept on when PiL came to stay for a week. He always said that it was perfectly comfortable.

Dont go for the cheapest and it should be fine.

Buy a high (bed height) inflatable single. They blow up/deflate by plugging in and are really comfortable. The do need a topper or blanket under the bottom sheet as they can be cold otherwise. Dh and I use our double one sometimes. They are cheaper than a z-bed and much comfier. Look on Amazon and Lidl and Aldi had doubles at about £39 a few weeks ago. Z-beds are not for older people.

Thanks for quick replies

Mil is able bodied mid fifties....maybe babysits once every 2 months and not always stays over (depends if she fancies driving home when we get back). So spare bed goes unused most of time....it's a very small spare bed so sofa bed not an option as that would prob take up more space....

Was also thinking of a single futon as prev mentioned....are these comfy? Obviously want to give mil the comfy option....

Changing dc to spare room is more trouble than its worth as both rooms are small...

merylstrop tbh the 'play room' will be more of a 'tidy toy storage room' as dc is too little to play unsupervised. But I am just fed up of tripping over toys and cuddly oversized teddys in my living room...lol. :-)

capt what chair bed did u get? Any comfy suggestions appreciated :-))

Also can't reduce the amount of crap toys as they have mostly been bought this Xmas by gp's....... Seriously do they not consider how much room these things take up....lol

Also just to add that dd is still in cot until middle of night when she wakes to get in bed with me...so can't really offer her my bed or dc's cot.lol..although dc may be in a bed in next 6 months so then I could get in with her....thanks for suggestions

Our playroom gets used. All the time. Boys make massive Lego setups and dens and don't need to tidy them away at the end of the day.

Suspect they're older than your dd though (5 and 6) and it is on the same level as our living room but they also play in their bedrooms.

Having said that if you want it mainly as toy storage is there space for shelves for storage and keep the spare bed? Then when your dd is old enough to use it to play in you could revisit the ditching of the spare bed.

Single futon should be fine.