I sew as a hobby. It's something I'm really quite good at by now and I really enjoy stuff like couture techniques and luxury fabrics.
DH's aunt, who lives overseas, has been pestering me to make her a dress for quite a while now. We recently learned that her son (DH's cousin) is getting married in summer. Yesterday night, DH's aunt phoned DH again and asked him(!) if I would make her a dress for the wedding. DH, being a bit of a wimp when it comes to saying no, naturally promised her I would.
The thing is: I really do not want to! I sew for myself. It's what I do to counterbalance my very intellectually demanding job. I love the feel of fabrics between my fingers. I love how a perfect fit and the right choice of materials and techniques make even a simple cut look like a million dollar piece. I love spending hours finishing hems by hand and sewing individual beads to a neckline. But I love it because there is no pressure, no deadline to meet and noone to tell me that this does not go with that and shouldn't the neckline go a little higher.
I'm absolutely not into the idea of spending hours and hours on something which needs to be finished in time and probably won't fit in the end (seeing as she is not going to be around to try it on). It's not fun.
I'm also not into the style DH's aunt prefers. And I'm especially not into the idea that people guilt trip DH into promising stuff realising full well that I've successfully wiggled my way out of it on several occasions.
DH says he's sorry that he let himself be manipulated into this. However, he also thinks that now that he's promised I should make her a dress.
AIBU to make him call her and tell her my spare time is not available first-come-first-served?