To think adults who can't drive are a nuisance

[Atthewelles]

Barring situations where an illness or financial circumstances proscribe it aibu to think adults who can't drive are a PITA. People have to constantly go out of their way to collect/drop them off places; arrange plans around the times that suit the non-driver who can't travel solo but has to tag along with you; always be the designated driver who can't have a drink while the non driver happily slurps a third glass of wine etc etc etc

Yes, I have been spending too much time with a non driving sibling over the family Christmas but AIBU to think that a perfectly functioning adult (who is extremely technically minded) in full time paid employment, should bloody well learn to drive.

I think drivers are far more of a nuisance than non-drivers. Polluting the planet and using the NHS far more because they're generally less fit and healthy.

I've never driven. I hardly ever get lifts off anyone. We walk and cycle everywhere within a few miles, very occasionally get taxis and use the train for everywhere else. I can't imagine ever needing to drive.

I'm an adult who can't drive, never had the time and the money at the same time. Keep meaning to start lessons but have crippling anxiety. I don't expect people to give me lifts and take a preschooler and baby on public transport, plus we walk loads so don't have to worry about childhood obesity!

I think driving is a life skill. And is something everyone should pass when they are 17yo. As a parent I think it is my responsibility to ensure my children have a licence before they are 18yo.

BUT I don't think everyone has to have a car. If you live in a major city where public transport is good you don't need one. And cars are expensive and everyone can't afford one. But I agree everyone should know how to drive one in an emergency!

This thread is from 2012

Why the fuck would anyone resurrect such a boring ZOMBIE THREAD?

To advertise the driving school Sauvignon

I've reported.

Duh, of course - how ridiculous!

Fuck the fuck off. I can afford private jets and a driver, so no need to drive.

The ZOMBIE thread alert should really stay longer, it's ridiculous.

Yes, it should say ZOMBIE at the beginning of the thread as well as the end, as so many posters CBA to read longer threads.

It's quite odd to see an AIBU thread has 600+ posts and to comment without reading any of them, not even the last few.

I can't drive. I hate it, I can't afford lessons, I can't afford a car. I work 3 jobs and have to walk to each, as well as walking my dd to and fro school.im so sick of being rained on and what takes 10 mins or less in car, taking 30 mins to walk. I can't take my dd where she wants to go, bus routes in Cornwall are rather rubbish. Op..yabvur but all my money goes on bills etc! Ironically if I could drive I could get a better, more consistent job earning more money!

I think if you CBA to skim it, why the fuck are you posting?

I've passed my test, but find driving really scary. Those of you that find it easy just don't understand that some of us don't have the co-ordination and the fast reactions needed to feel comfortable with driving. I do drive once a week or so to take the kids to activities, because I don't want to lose the ability, but I hate it. I would choose cycling, walking or public transport over driving wherever possible. I use the train rather than driving on the motorway. We don't all have the same skills. I don't rely on anyone other than DH for lifts.

No op i think its ur personal problem dont presume to know all non drivers.

I havent learnt to drive i have taken lessons husband has forced me. But i dont impose myself on him. I rarely go out and usually i go on foot or get a taxi. If itsxwith my husband its because he asked me to go out with him. The only appointments he has taken me are my midwife ones and no i didnt feel bas because he has flexible time being self employed and its his baby too not jist mine.

I have 6 siblings one of them does impose himself on my other siblings since he has a big brood of kids and expects others to ferry him and his fsmily around. But i blame the drivers if u dont want to give a lift out of the goodness of ur heart please dont fake kindness then come here to whine about allnon drivers.

I will have to drive to get my husband off my case but id rather not bevause i know i will be the lumbered with all outside chores as well as domestic chores which i get zero help with as it is.

I also dont like the laziness of some drivers i dont want to get in the car for a 15-30 min walk to a local shop or school if i have a car i.might end up like that. Ive kept fit walking and i actually love walking. I can see the positives in torrenrial rain amd gale force winds.

Im also thinking if husband is in hospital aa he has been oncw i wonthave to fork out stupid money on cabs. So for his sake i expect i will,otherwise i think its oveerrated especially if you live in an area with good transport or lots of local amenities and are able to walk there.

I have no problem with non-drivers, provided they are prepared to take full responsibility for getting themselves to wherever they need to be. But it's bloody irritating when they start guilt-tripping you for a lift with the fact that the trains aren't running or they're feeling tired or it's chucking down with rain or whatever.

Very insulting op zombie or not. I am a non driver who failed number of tests, I am dyspraxic and I have panic attacks. I woukd still like to pass one day. I am nit very good, nit everybody is able to drive, it reqires certain cognitive abilities that not everybody has. I would never expect a driver to ferry me about. That is what public transport, taxi, and cycling are for.

This is a nightmare for me my best friends cannot drive I have moved and see her weekly however if it were not for me going up there we would rarely see each other

If she wants to come her she has to arrange a lift and then one of us have to drop her back home

Also I have notice she dosent really venture out of were she lives because a 30minute car journey could take her an hour and a bit

Even just popping down to asda because it's cheaper she can't do as its 2 buses and the waitrose is across from her house even though she can't really afford it it means she dosent need to get a cab home eveyweek

Her mum has a lovey caravan she can use but she can only get to use it when it's convinent for others to drop her and it means she has to stay until some one has time to pick her up or not go

Even her son getting his braces tighted he's having to have the whole day off school because the jounery to and from the hospital takes so long on the he's only having 20 minutes of a school day left were as if she had a car he would be back by lunch time ffs

Her kids miss out on doing lots of things because she can't get there and also I know she has lost childminding business's through not being able to drive

I did ask my friend about driving and her answer was well I know loads of people who drive and I can get lifts

she also relies heavily on her ex to drop the kids places and he is now using this as a wepon against her cancling last minute ect

I think if you don't want to drive fine but you shouldn't expect anyone to visit you if your not willing to do the journey and also don't expect lifts at all

I also hate when non drives moan that you won't walk some were because there is not enough room in your car for eveyone

I hate being cold
I hate arriving at places with a minute to spare because I have just got there by bus

I hate waiting around in the cold because I am to early

And I hate hate hate arriving somwere wet and cold

When I was 23 went shopping with my lad December time it was cold I had about 4 heavy bags of shopping the bus was going to be 49 minutes or so it was pissing down I was so wet even my knickers were drenched my son was crying and lost his shoe in the mud as I tried to help him my shopping bag broke most of my shopping fell in the puddle and I vowed then never again would. I get the bus

We don't live in Cuba it's not hot it's not even mild most of the time

And to be honest that's just living in London now I live in the country it seems that people who don't drive just don't go anywhere at all as the transport is shit the least two doors down dose her weekly shop at Nissa for good sake

The post that originally bumped up this three year old zombie thread has been deleted 😒

However since this thread has been resurrected, I've always been curious to know what people who moan about non-drivers think about people who can drive but don't have a car?

I have passed my driving test however I don't have a car at the moment. Then again I don't expect lifts from anyone and I live in an area with excellent public transport.

We're talking about grown adults who simply chose not to ever bother with driving lessons and passing the test, they're bloody selfish. And yet they sound almost smug telling people that they won't / can'tdon't drive. Similar to people who don't own a TV.

I was 23 passing mine. I felt like such a burden on my younger sister and parents, looking for lifts everywhere.

What happens with the kids of non-drivers??

What happens with the kids of non-drivers??

I'm sure they survive.

I can drive but don't. Most of my friends can drive but don't. We live in a big city, don't own cars, take public transport, if we are travelling somewhere else take the train.

I think car drivers who stink up the streets and clog the traffic and destroy the environment are a PITA.