To think Dh shouldn't have told me!

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As usual I bought all my own presents (with dhs money) and then gave them to him to wrap.
Last night out of the blue he said 'I nearly bought you something extravagant! I looked at a Mulberry bag, did lots of research, online, went to shop etc, then decided it was too much money and couldn't actually afford it'

Not sure how I feel about it, might say for his 40th 'well I did think of booking you a holiday in Fiji, but then decided not to' happy birthday here's some skin care and a new jumper!

What do you think? AIBU to think he shouldn't have mentioned it?

you will get alot more harsh responses here than in relationships TBH.

what does this man do for you? why does he deserve your companionship?

does he work? is it not his choice to work too? why don't you feel you can point these things out to him?

it's not us being mean to you, he is!

It is like him offering you something and when you say yes please him saying no, you can't have it afterall.

Childcare costs some come out of both your wages.

Your marriage sounds awful. Sorry.

so if he had bought bag would that have absolved him for not paying childcare?
would you have cast aside the unfairness of it all for a bag?are you so easy pacified
grow a spine,tell your dh to be a responsible father.I hope you resolve this

Gold moss has started a fair few threads.

moss I'm really sorry to see that he is still letting you down and being a wanker.

I will post on relationships shortly, please come and support me, god help me I know what the replies will be

I hadn't realised it was you.

Thread now on relationships sorry it's long

so he is being roasted for not paying childcare but how do we know he doesnt pay the mortgage and all the bills? and for all we know he could be a pro or semi pro photographer hence the lens. whatever the case is we are undoubtedly getting a fraction of the whole story.

yes that's very helpful jacksprat that explains why he cant buy his wife a xmas/birthday/mothers day present and why he feels the need to say "this is what you could've won" aswell.

I didn't know that people buy their own presents and give them to their partner to wrap it until i came to mn.

I will never understand it..

YANBU about him mentioning the bag.

He's not a professional photographer it's a hobby he enjoys.

He pays just over half the mortgage, life insurance, gas, electric, water, kids clubs, school dinners, his van loan, his credit card, all food

I pay the remainder of the mortgage, council tax, sky tv, tv licence, childcare, my car, my credit card