to wish that my niece has boys and not girls

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I come from a family of girls, the only DGC have been girls. We are a very female family.

My lovely niece who is 23 bought my two boys Jenga for Christmas 'to help them concentrate' .My boys are proper boyish boys and I think that when she visited in the summer she was a bit about their general boyishness. In fact my whole family are a bit about how boys are, having only had experience of us girls who would sit and read etc

I really hope that when she has DC she has proper boys and then she will realise that game of Jenga is not going to make a 2yo sit still and 'concentrate'

Incidentally we all had a ball playing Jenga with 7yo DS1 who can concentrate with the best of them!

Fellatio not a topic I have ever started an OP about before and not one I will be starting one about again . Who knew it would provoke such outrage....

I'll put it down in the topics not to be discussed category

I'm impressed any 2yr old could play Jenga without ninja kicking the fucking thing down

My sons (now 20 and 12) are quiet,sit in the corner, reading types. My daughter (16)talks for Britain and needs to be doing something, She would rather go for a long walk, than sit and read.
I hate it when people say "boys are being boys" when they are boisterous, or that girls are "sensible" because in my experience (working in a primary school) those 'rules' are just not followed at all.

i'm a girl and i was a red power ranger til i was about 10. my sister was a green one. we both would have spent dawn til dusk up a tree building a secret hut and weapons to kill any baddies with, we also made mud and daisy sandwiches in docken leaves. summers were spent fishing for stickleback with jam jars in the stream beside our houses which we would then try and feed to our cat that we would dress up in doll clothes and push around in our toy prams, before removing the carry cot off our prams and hurtling down the hill beside our house on just the chassis. many scars were 'achieved' during these races. i did have a dolls house...that my sister chopped the chimneys off using her own tool set aged about 8. i didn't mind much, the chimney was necessary for storing our 'bombs' (mudpies). not sure which camp we would fall into. in our heads we were just having fun.

chimney wasn't necessary

Fff I don't see outrage. I just see the usual level of disagreement on aibu when someone clearly is bu. Your last post seems very passive aggressive.mumsnet doesn't have topics not to be discussed but someone being a tit on here can expect to be called on it.

I have a topics not to be discussed category Lets, the ones which are more trouble than they are worth. This topic fits neatly onto it.

or you could reconsider your opinion and realise why you have trouble discussing a certain topic (like your viewpoint being offensive and sexist) and then perhaps think about not behaving in a sexist way so as to be able to discuss the topic without attracting negative responses.

i'm actually really surprised that you think avoiding discussing it is the answer as opposed to changing sexist views.

it's like a racist person saying "oh well if i cant say racist stuff then i'll just avoid the topic of race on MN" instead of actually just not being a racist person.

Fair enough. But I do think it's odd when people post on AIBU when they clearly think they are not BU. Then, when they are disagreed with, everyone else is either being unreasonable, being PO or are over reacting and hysterical.

sorry Santa xpost

What a predictable response your thread, OP. Nevermind! Most of the young boys I know are total live wires. Running around wildly and freely hitting each other with sticks or anything else that springs to hand. The girls I know are far calmer, play in a 'nicer' fashion although they do argue wildly with each other. I don't get why people bang on about gender stereotypes. This is MY experience and I am hardly going to lie to suit the PO on here!

it's predictable for a reason. think about it.

Santa as I said, more trouble than it's worth. Every now and again I mistakenly stumble across such a topic. I don't intend to justify or explain myself, so you may call me sexist all you like but you won't provoke a defence

You can borrow my girls to demonstrate to your family what non-bookish girls are like. they'd build towers out of the Jenga and have competitions over how dramatically they can knock it down, closely followed by attacking each other with them.

Although I must say, that without the gender stereotyping dds ASD and developmental delay wouldn't have been spotted so early.

quite property. Sadly predictable

thanks Frustrated

Not going to read the whole thread but I rather hope this neice has proper 21st century girls who play physically and read (not necessarily at the same time - or proper boys likewise, or a mix.

And hopefully before that time she'll learn to give kids of either sex presents they will simply enjoy rather than for some perceived good. Jenga is a good present because kids and adults can play it together, or any age child can use it as building blocks.

Grimma of course so do I. She is a lovely girl and has just embarked on her first proper serious relationship. I think her BF and her see my boys as a bit of a project .

i'm not looking to provoke any defence, just suggesting that maybe you could revisit you feelings about gender stereotypes.

I think the proper boys" comment has annoyed many posters. I say that as a parent of two improper daughters.

YABU, it's not "how boys are". This is how your children might be.

Yes its the 'proper boys' comment. I have four boys and a girl.

I guess two ofy boys may be co sidered 'proper boys' if you go along with all the gender steteotype bollocks, the other two are def boys but dont fit a ateretype.

Tbh non of my children fit a stereotype, they are all individuals regatdless of gender, perhaps that is a message you and your family need to learn op, children are children and individuals first and foremost regardless of gender. In a society where we are moving forwards towards equality it seems very strange that we still pigeon hole children this way, it doesnt do them, or us any favours at all.

"Sadly predictable"?

Oh I know, isn't it sad that people refuse to just accept sexist generalisations. Life on MN is much emptier for not laughing along with sexism.