to cancel father christmas for my youngest

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He is still awake. We have tried everything including saying that we'll text FC and tell him to avoid DS4.

Should we?

At wits end

Glad he got there in the end, enjoy your wine
For future reference your get out of the 'if you do x then santa won't come' followed by them doing x.. is calling santa and relaying that he is upset, but because you are normally such a star he has decided that is going to bring all the presents - but you must not do x again..

hth next year x

She hasn't actually done it, though, and the child is asleep, will get his presents in the morning, and all will be fine.

Words like cruel and spiteful are just wrong.

I genunely wanted someone outside to put a small (but at that time big) stress in perspective.

I completely accept your answers I just don't see why the unpleasantness is necessary. Why are women so cruel to each other? I am not moaning about your responses because in the real world I know you not. However I genuinely don't understand why some feel it is ok to be horrible.

My DS4 is fine. His bed is groaning under the weight of presents from FC. My DH is fine. He is sometimes a miserable git but you try living with four small boys and a manic depressive.

Merry Christmas to you all

Merry Christmas OP. Try not to stress now. Enjoy tomorrow.

Merry Christmas, hope you and all 4 DSes have a lovely day [fsmile)

She hasn't actually done it, though, and the child is asleep, will get his presents in the morning, and all will be fine.
She finally relented, but to even make the threat to the child was bad enough. That won't have gone unnoticed.

If you genuinely said to your 3.5 yr old that you were cancelling Christmas then yes you were being very spiteful. He will remember what you said. I have an 8.5 yr old and I know that he remembers Christmas from 3.5 but not before (and he remembers things in great detail). If I knew you in RL and you said what you said to your child I would call you spiteful to your face.

Sorry Bisjo gloves are off. I never said he wouldn't get FC I just threatned. Hence point of post wonderinbg if it was ok not to follow through.

Some people are just darn unpleasant and you strike me as one of them

I advance searched you OP as I recognised your name.
Every other post you've made have been eminently sensible and fun.
Put this down to experience, IMO you were going over the top a bit but this time of year can be a stressful time.
Glad your ds is asleep now.
Have a lovely Christmas.

I don't think women are cruel to eachother particularly. But, you can see the point when you threaten to cancel fc and replace gifts with potatoes can't you? A child would never forget that, and it would be a cruel thing to do, without a doubt.
Having said that, I understand you were stressed, but its also important to take a step back sometimes and see the bigger picture. You may have threatened to cancel, but its also ok to admit to your children you were in the wrong.
Happy christmas and I hope you all have a great christmas.

So you didn't say to your ds text FC and tell him to avoid DS4

If that is the case then why put it in your OP??

OP I call it as I see it. Either you said the words you posted in your OP or you didn't. If you did then I stand by what I said, completely and utterly and as I said if I knew you in RL I'd call it to your face (or your fb page as you probably think your 'threat' is funny and worth sharing). If you didn't and just did your OP to stir then that makes you one of these.

Banjo you missed the conditional: should we?

Anyway. I asked my question, got an answer, lost a little faith in womankind, packed x4 stockings, drank FC's Baileys and some of my own. Will no doubt be woken in less than 4 hours to start Christmas proper.

Roll on Boxing day

Mine 12 & 5 still awake (well 5yo slept for 2 and a half hours and think that was enough time )

Happy Xmas to u all, tip OP - AIBU is a vipers pit, made the mistake a few nights ago about something that really upset me, and a few had me in tears, I think it must make them feel better about them selves to be so hurtful

Have a geat Xmas OP

I'm falbbergasted that the OP thinks a grown woman who has done such a mean thing should be mollycoddled and not told how cruel and spiteful she has been, yet a 3.5yo is fair game for cruel threats when they're innocently excited.

And I'm shuddering at the "it was only a threat" attitude.

To paraphrase your post OP, I don't feel your comments to your child were necessary, why did you feel it was ok to be so horrible?

Missed the "should we"? But you had already made the threat at that point, had you not?

You told him you would text santa and tell him to avoid him.

The 'should we' was asking if you should follow through with the threat of no presents.

Cruel to do that to a child.

It's late and I may have misunderstood but they were thinking of a couple of potatoes at the top of the stocking, not replace all the gifts with potatoes!!

My kids would find that quite funny (although they are older).

Totally crass to suggest OP is being "cruel". There is some really serious cruelty going on out there, right now, where a stocking full of potatoes would be the least of a child's worries.

OP got frazzled, made a threat which I guarantee plenty of people around the country were also making in an attempt to calm their kids down. She contemplated following through with just a couple of potatoes.

Her son will not be scarred for life by this, if she did follow through with a couple of tatties they could make light of it in the morning and inject some humour if they chose to.

Perspective people!!

Ok: said that if he didn't go to bed soon we'd text FC etc. Etc. At no point actually did (or pretended to)

okaynow.. you appear on a one woman mission to upset. Is therapy the answer?

I don't know, if you get so upset at a few strangers telling you an uncomfortable truth, it might be.

Threatening to text FC is no biggie!

Perspective people!!

Exactly that.

It's not as if OP has threatened to hit her DS, or similar.

'okaynow.. you appear on a one woman mission to upset. Is therapy the answer?'

Please don't try to suggest okaynow has mental health problems just because she posts something you don't agree with.

It comes across as desperate point scoring at the expense of a group of vulnerable people.

hello??!
At no point was my intention to be mean about mental health. About which FYI I have got the T shirt, seen the film, starred in the book and written the poem.

I believe all I was saying was why can't people be a bit nicer. I re iterate: posted on mumsnet with a question. Got an answer. But also a whole load of unpleasant bile.

Can I restate that all DS's now sleeping happily under piles of stuff from FC. Not sure why I feel the need to say this but there you go.