AIBU to be a bit sad that DH has been working too long and late to get me a present?

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And he asked me to get myself something but I haven't. Toddler in tow, house guests, no time or inclination tbh.

We live abroad and there isn't much in the shops here that I want, it's all super expensive luxury stuff or crap tat that would disgrace a market stall. I have suggested he gets me a pice of paper saying valid for a spa treatment but I know there will be no stocking presents for me, no little thoughtful things, because he has not had a moment - working to midnight and later and weekends for weeks.

However I am still feeling sorry for myself and need kick up bum.
On the bright side we are getting Christmas dinner delivered from a hotel so I don't have to cook that meal.

Yanbu.

Xmas is the same day every year, it's not like it should surprise people.

My Dh told me to order my own present as he didn't have time. So I've ended up paying for it. He even got dd to wrap it, after he tried to get me to but I refused!

Hope he gets you something nice after Xmas.

Like I said to someone yesterday - Christmas is on the same day each year, there are 364 days for you to get organised. Fuck off, I'm NOT doing it.

YANBU

He's had a whole year to get you something. He is thoughtless and taking you for granted . Sorry.

YANBU, even if he has been super busy.

There might not be many decent shops where you live, but don't they have Internet shopping there, either?

YANBU he has had a year after all and theres always online ordering.

It pisses me off when men people say that! Christmas, like birthdays, is the exact same date every, bloody, year! There is no excuse for it!

It takes two minutes to make an amazon purchase. He has NOT been too busy to do that. I would not be impressed.

My DH was like this, until I sat him down one June (about as far from Christmas as you can get) and told him what presents mean to me - it's not about getting something you want, it's about getting something that someone knows you well enough to know you'd like, and they express that through their choice of gift. It really is about the thought. He honestly hadn't realised that, 'cos his family didn't put that much importance on gifts. Mine did. He now does :P

No online shopping here. Well, there is but you have to set up a USA address and then get it shipped over. So if you leave it all til work finishes as he does every year, you're stuffed.

Oh well. I guess we can shop together after Christmas and I will get over the stocking thing :(

I am glad I'm
not BU to be a bit sad face about it though.

Id be angry face not sad face.

So if you leave it all til work finishes as he does every year, you're stuffed.

so he does this every year?

so he knows exactly what will happen?

so in actual fact, this is cos he just can't be arsed, right?

I god mad and threw a strop when DH did this one year for my birthday - with excuse it has snowed day before.

He came home with lots - which wasn?t really the point - but he's not done it since though what he gets is still hit and miss.

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Why not do the same for him next year? See if he is ok with getting nothing.

YANBU in the last 12mths he must of had some time to pop to the shops or order online, its the fact that he couldn't be arsed so left it to late that's the problem, I wouldn't be impressed if DP did this to me!

DP told me earlier that he feels bad because he couldn't afford to get me much this year, I pointed that its not about how much he spent its the thought that went into it, he could have wrappedd up a creme egg and I'd be happy because he knows I like them, he gave me a big smile and said "that's ok then because I know your going to love what I've got you"

he's not a nice person op.

Snaps - sounds like you're in a sand pit. If so, no excuse - plenty of places deliver, easy to set up caramel and (I'm in one of the sleepy ones) shops do exist. No excuse, I work hard our here - DH still has presents!

Aramex not caramel

DH hasn't got me anything either. He's now feeling quite bad about it (and his parents have told him off). I bet he never forgets again!

Its not acceptable really though is is? You can laugh about it but blimey, your partner not considering you a christmas is wrong unless you both agree that you dont want anything

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Same prob here op, thoughtless isn't it!?
I have already bought myself various gifts as i got fed up waiting for him to buy me one.
He springs up last week that i deserve something special for christmas which he'll buy...only for this afternoon for him to phone me from work saying "im too busy""the shops will be closed"......etc etc.

I was pissed off that he thought to ring me just about that! So now i cant even dream up that i'll have a nice gift

I'm quite angry at the aspect he cba more than the gift itself iyswim!
Oh now but he can trapse the shops for toxic fil grrr

it's not about getting something you want, it's about getting something that someone knows you well enough to know you'd like, and they express that through their choice of gift

Oh no, come on. For many people it really is just about buying something that is wanted or needed. Doesn't have to be such an emotional thing!

I'm sorry Op, but this is totally unacceptable. And deep in your heart, you know that. There are, LITERALLY, no excuses.
Are you normally such a doormat that you let someone treat you like a piece of dirt, or is just your husband? That sounds harsh, but really we all know its not. He could buy you a cheap little present, but he can't even be bothered to do this. He makes me angry. But you make me angry for justifying it and seemingly to laugh it off. You need to have a good long hard look at yourself.

Not managing a present because of an unexpected emergency is one thing and is acceptable, not having a gift because it was ordered in plenty of time but something went wrong is another, not bothering till the the last minute is lazy. YANBU