To say no to 'Brave' dvd?

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My parents have bought it for DS aged 7. I've just been told by a friend its a PG not a U and is quite scarey in places.
DS is very sensitive to these things, cries at the time and has trouble settling a night and wakes up in the night crying etc. He got upset at Toy Story 3 amongst others.
AIBU to tell parents that they'll have to take it back and swap it, which they won't unless I put my foot down and say its a PG and as a parent I'm putting my foot down.

Tbh, to me the issue is 'acceptable behaviour towards the donor of a gift', not the film.

It is not as if the donor has chosen a 15 or 18 movie.

The polite, decent thing to do is to accept it, with gracious and grateful words, then put it away for a while until you feel your DS is up to it. Even if he never watches it, these are your parents, they have chosen an appropriate gift and deserve thanks from both you and your DS.

Everyone gets that the Op's parents aren't buying it for your kids right?

everyone? I would say mosthave given an even response.

(And if you really want to swap it, do it yourself, in secret, so that your parents need never experience the insult and rejection...

I am saying this as the person who did secretly return FiL's 'kind' present of a mini-vacuum (fully and hurtfully intended as a comment on my housekeeping) but ONLY after thanking him very kindly to his face.)

Brady, I would agree. Especially as the OP seems to be taking a friend's word for it that the film is 'scary', other anecdotal responses which balance this view may be useful to her in deciding her course of action.

My 4 year old loves it. I would watch it first and then decide. As others have said you can always save it for when you think your child is ready for it. That saves the stand off with your parents.

If you think it'll be too scary, just stick it in a cupboard until he's older. No need to make a song and dance about "putting your foot down"

He's 7! Tell him to man up.

His mates are probably all playing x-box CoD. How is he ever going to keep up in the playground.

This child is frightened by films that don't bother your DC.

I agree with you if a kid is sensitive then they are sensitive to films but to make a huge fuss is way Ott imo

I went to buy brave for 1 of mine and it was sold out

I haven't risked Watership Down (another present from my brother) yet

watership so isn't a kids films although my mum thought it was and let me watch it I was traumatised for weeks ,

It was. On reading it it wasn't that funny. Sorry.

Just s bit of a swing away from the normal 'my dc says everyone else is playing nasty violent games and I want to too, AIBU to let him' angst.

My then 6 year old DD found the bear a bit scary at the start- just to let you know it comes very early on in the film but overall, she loved this movie. As others have posted, it has an empowering message with a girl power theme. Save it for later if you like, but definitely worth keeping.

Watch it yourself first and decide whether your DS will be scared. I certainly wouldn't say anything to your parents as that wouldn't be polite or kind. If you don't think it's suitable put it away for later.

My 6 year old found some parts of it quite scary. I am quite careful about what she sees, and she has been scared by PG films in the past. However, she enjoyed the film overall. It wasn't a bad film, definitely watch it through yourself and then see. Don't say no to them gifting it, that would just be rude.

I have a sensitive 6yo.

Loves films, but won't watch Toy Story 3 or Shrek 4 (or is it three) as its too scary. 3yo, on t'other hand will watch it happily. Depends on the child.

I took my cousin to see Bambi when he was 5- thinking it would be a lovely cuddly treat. I had forgotten about the hunters. Half way through he turned to me with trembling lip and wailed 'IS HIS MUMMY GOING TO DIEEEE?'.
He has turned out a remarkably well balanced adult btw

I had to be taken out of Snow White and Bambi as I was bringing down the cinema with my screaming and crying.

Luckily I have no memory of this.

My little sister howled down the cinema at Watership Down and had to be taken out. A few years later when I was a teenager she seriously embarrassed me when I took her to Herbie Rides Again - when he was contemplating throwing himself off the Golden Gate Bridge, she stood up in front of the whole cinema and yelled 'No, Herbie, Nooooooooo!' Took me months to live that one down...

I had to be removed from Bambi aged 4 and taken home on the bus by my dad whilst my siblings remained in the cinema with my mum. I haven't been able to watch it since. I still can't stand watching films with animals in peril. People I'm fine with, not sure what that says about me!

Putting your foot down... . It's a children's film, my five year old loved it. Are you always this strident?

I understand you being cautious if you DC can be frightened by some childrens films. But to say 'you're putting your foot down' to your DP is totally ott.
Watch it together and turn it off if he doesn't like it..you never know he might surprise you and love it.

Gosh I am literally the tv police, I am really strict with what the DSs watch and DS1s friends all think im a dragon lady for not letting him watch various things. My DSs are five and seven and they both loved it. DS1 is very sensitive and runs out of the room if someone is going to get told off by a teacher on tv.

IMO Brave is not inappropriate or scary for a seven year old.