To say no to 'Brave' dvd?

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My parents have bought it for DS aged 7. I've just been told by a friend its a PG not a U and is quite scarey in places.
DS is very sensitive to these things, cries at the time and has trouble settling a night and wakes up in the night crying etc. He got upset at Toy Story 3 amongst others.
AIBU to tell parents that they'll have to take it back and swap it, which they won't unless I put my foot down and say its a PG and as a parent I'm putting my foot down.

The BBFC link that Trills posted is a good description of the level of 'scariness'. It's a great film on lots of levels - I'd explain to your parents you are a bit concerned about the bear fighting scenes and would like to watch it yourself before letting your DS see it.

It really is a very small part of the film and you may find the magic and comedy balances it out and kind of dilutes the impact of the more grown up scenes.

It's a great movie, my 9yo and his two friends loved it, as did dh and I, but do read the BBFC report. My ds was very sensitive to sad bits in films when he was younger so I understand your concern. Watch it yourself and decide (you'll enjoy it!) or put it away until next year.

ds howled the cinema down when I took him to WallE a few years ago, when the friends got separated, and couldn't watch Disney DVDs.

The bit that made me guffaw the most was the Mummy Bear freezing and pretending to be stuffed so no-one would notice a live bear in the castle. ds and his friends were doing stuffed bear impersonations for days...

Its a great film. I was a bit worried about letting my 3 watch it. The twins (2) loved it and dd1, who can be a bit sensitive really enjoyed it too.

Sounds like you and your kid need to get out more.

From what I heard the bear bit is scary in a cinema but should be okay on a small screen. DS is quite sensitive too but will happily watch things like Doctor Who as long as someone is sat with him. When something comes on which makes him feel a bit worried I make a joke out of it going "Oh no! Quick, hide behind a cushion! Is the scary bit gone yet?" - just going OTT but in a jokey tone, not a scary one. If you act anxious and worried that he might be scared, or even try to explain it by saying "Don't worry it's not real" etc, then that's more likely to feed his anxiety.

Watch it and judge for yourself. If you think it's too scary put it aside for DS til you think he's ready. Why make a big deal and possibly make other people feel crap about the gift they got your son?

It is a BRILLIANT film. However, my 5 year old was frightened by the bears, which appear a couple of times. It's more of a making you jump thing than a psychologically disturbing thing, and we've had no nightmares since seeing it.

I think the scary factor will be much less at home than it was in a cinema.

Go for it. It's properly excellent, the whole family will love it. My dad had a tear in his eye and that's saying something!

YANBU to want to watch it with him or leave it until he's out of his more sensitive phase, but you would be vvvvv U to ask your parents to take it back!

I have a 'material presented in visual form'-sensitive DS, so can to an extent understand where you are coming from (I had to, for example, make certain that teachers were aware so that there were non-DVD options of activities available to DS when any fims were shown in school).

However, you are unreasonable - and rude - to make your parents take it back. You have the right to control when your son watches it, though, and who he watches it with - so you would not be nreasonable to put it away for a while, then watch it with him perhaps one afternoon (so a long time till bed-time). It is a good film - I have ordered it from a film loan service to watch over the holidays, as DS is now growing out of his sensitiveness - and one day your son will grow into it. Just keep it and put it away for a while.

I took 7 and 6 year olds to see it in the summer, they enjoyed it but ended up on our laps, and have so far declined the offer to watch the DVD! It does have some scary bits. My 7 year old is the sensitive one, he doesn't do "peril".

I agree with the others saying keep it until he is a bit older. It won't go off!

Yabu to be so difficult about this non issue and to "stamp your foot "down as a parent over it, at Christmas time, to your parents.

I took my 4 year old DD to see it this summer, she loved it, as did I. She wasn't overly scared, and I can't remember any scary bits, personally.

Accept it, you watch it one evening (it really is rather good and the landscape is wonderful) then assess it from there.

Hansel and Gretel always truly horrified me, sending them out to die. Rapunzel as well. my kids thought Coraline was the scariest movie ever, they will not rematch it.

I can't watch Toy Story 3 since my DD's favourite teddy was lost/stolen earlier this year. The flashback where you see Lotso et al left in the rain and wondering if their little owner is coming back or them....

I wouldn't dare even attempt to watch Coraline!

I think the only part of Brave that would concern me from a sensitive child's perspective, is where it appears that the mother has fully turned into a bear and isn't going to be human again. I think that's probably more potentially upsetting than the actual fight scenes tbh.

It is a great film IMO but that doesn't mean OP's ds has to watch it, of course.

DD is very sensitive with films, she seems to cry at everything! But why not put the DVD in the cupboard for a year?
There's no need to upset your parents about getting the wrong sort of thing is there? They meant well I'm sure. It's supposed to be a good film.

Gave my Dcs (6 & 8) nightmares. And my brother who had kindly taken them to see it - he had to cope with full on 6 year old girl sobbing at the mother turning into a bear thing, in the cinema ... I had to deal with the aftermath.

They can cope with the Lion King, Bambi gets a few questions - I haven't risked Watership Down (another present from my brother) yet