My Aunt is a bitch.

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and has upset my mother.

She has bought crap presents for everyone in the family except me. Because 8 years ago I told my cousin I thought she should get a job.

So bitch Aunt feels she has to make a point by including everyone else and ignoring me. I don't care. I can rise above it and laugh at her pathetic attrmpts to upset me. But mother does. Which then makes me angry.

Do I post her (quite religious) Christmas card through her letterbox (she is a stauch and quite rude about it athiest). Or ignore the bitch.

Ignore! Not worth wasting a card over!

I would ignore her. Bringing yourself down to her level isn't going to achieve anything.

Tbf if this has been going on for a few years your mum needs to get over it tbh.

We can't control others actions, we can control our own actions and reactions. By getting upset, your mum is only hurting herself.

I've written it already. Just not got round to delivering it.

I think if you are ok with it, you need to speak to your Mum and tell her not to get so upset by it.

Then take the moral high ground and send her the card to show that you're not lowering yourself to her level.

Mother isn't normally bothered but when said Aunt turns up and makes a point of delivering presents for everyone is grates a bit.

So why did you write a very religious card to an atheist?

I did that MrsC.
I might just drop off the card. Then enjoy a warm and slightly smug glow of christian spirit.

It's ur mums sister? Well then it's down to them to sort out. They are adults. Interfering will make it worse on ur mum. It's childish and petty reaction to her pain - blooming understandable tho!

I'd guess there's more there than just what u said. Usually a whole history..... Leave alone but agree the aunts a prize cow

Can you be smug and christian both?

The cards are religious because I am. And it is Christmas.

Turd in a box.

Why do you feel she needs to get a job? From the sounds of it she's doing ok if she can afford to buy presents for other people.

You don't come across very well yourself tbh. Slating her for crap presents? Calling her a bitch?

Are you a Christian? How about turning the other cheek?

at turd in a box
add a bit of glitter though, it is christmas...

Really its Christmas who would have guessed.

I was brought up catholic I would send a religious card to an atheist. Especially just to upset them. As you said on your op you know it will loss her off and you were planning on doing this before she upset your mum.

You don't soy d that nice yourself.

currentbun its the cousin she told to get a job -not the aunt

Can you be smug and christian both?

Lots of people seem to do it quite well.

Sorry my post should have read i wouldn't send a religious card to an atheist.

you sound petulant and annoying.

That's shit.
Have a big hug with your mother and tell her (again, because I am sure you have told her already) that you really really don't care except that it upsets her.
Ask her to genuinely let it go, not to keep the peace but to make you happy.

I would also delight in being massively lovely and charming to aunt. Really in her face lovely. That has the virtue of the whole 'turn the other cheek' and will drive her absolutely fucking batty.

I think you sound fine.

She wouldn't get a card from me.

When I saw her I'd say "that child of yours got themselves a job yet?!".

Send her a card with the job section of the paper cut out and included, with cousin's name? (Did they get a job?)

"Can you be smug and christian both?"

I thought it was a prerequisite!

so. Your mother gets a gift from her?

And she accepts it?

If she's that angry about this snub, then why doesn't she refuse the gift?

That would pass the best message to the aunt.

I think the best thing you can do is tell your mum, while laughing, that getting no present was better than getting a crap one.

I think you sound as though you care very much about thi,s which is probably why your mum is upset. It's for them to sort out.