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WIBU telling her to shut up?

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Familyaritybree · 21/12/2012 19:55

I'm having the family round for christmas dinner. My sister has offered to help make the turkey and ham because she reckons she is such a great cook.

I have cooked a turkey before and it has come out good but she is making me feel like I am not good enough to cook.

She keeps saying stuff like "my turkey comes out so great" "i make the best turkey" and won't stop.

She did it again today and I had such a go at her for banging on about how fucking great she is and that if her cooking is so fucking fab, then maybe she should invite all of us to hers instead?

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Theicingontop · 21/12/2012 19:56

YABU. Sure, that sounds annoying, but you sound positively premenstrual.

TwasTheDawnDeeforeXmas · 21/12/2012 19:57

I'd leave her to it, let her do all the cooking and put my feet up with a nice big glass of Wine

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Familyaritybree · 21/12/2012 19:58

I am pmt-ed up to the max...

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HollyBerryBush · 21/12/2012 19:58

have some starflower oil capsules.

Greensleeves · 21/12/2012 19:59

I have a suspicion that Y may NB being U but it is difficult to infer properly from your OP

Is this the latest example of a pattern of patronising/competitive behaviour from your sister?

Or are you just on the blob? Grin

MrsMangoGingerbreadhouse · 21/12/2012 20:00

That would get right up my nose too OP. I would find it very rude, and I would probably ask her if she would like to host it instead. I wouldn't have "had such a go" at her though, that sounds a bit over the top.

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Familyaritybree · 21/12/2012 20:01

She's the type to dish out opinions but doesn't like to listen to anybody else. Her way is the best way too.

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Greensleeves · 21/12/2012 20:02

It sounds unreasonable and OTT, until I think about MY stupid bitch of a sister

Then I think "tell her to stick it up her arse and swivel"

Chottie · 21/12/2012 20:03

Bow out gracefully and leave her to it. Make sure you go round to her house, so you can leave her to the washing up too.......

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Familyaritybree · 21/12/2012 20:05

Ok I didn't shout at her or anything. I just said "no pressure then!?!" And told her that she has been going on and on for a while now and that if she thought she could do such a great job, then maybe she should have invited us over to hers.

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Familyaritybree · 21/12/2012 20:06

(In a rude tone!)

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cozietoesie · 21/12/2012 20:10

I'd let her help. It's part of family tradition in our house that we all have a special expertise in something - even if we really don't! (So it's all 'And DB1 can make the Blah because he does it so well and DSIL2 can do the Bleugh because she has this great recipe........' and so on.

Relax. It's Xmas.

Xmas Smile
Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 21/12/2012 20:12

Sounds like there is something else about her, too, that is annoying you.

YANBU, though. it would annoy the hell out of me, too - PMT or no.

DIYapprentice · 21/12/2012 20:14

Good for you (and YANBU!). Can't stand people who never do things themselves, but proceed to tell you how to do it.

Loislane78 · 21/12/2012 20:21

One of the many rules of Christmas is assigning roles in the kitchen; you get a job, do it and that's that. No chipping in, no encroaching on someone else's job as this way everyone contributes/is involved and gets 15 mins of fame for their awesome chopping, gravy, turkey whatever.

If you really wanna do the turkey, assign her another job "your roasties are really good, can you be in charge of those".

Problem solved :) or I'm just v bossy!

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Familyaritybree · 21/12/2012 20:22

There have been a few things recently that have annoyed me about her.

She is one of those people who turn into a replica of her boyfriend. She has changed a lot since she got with her partner. She now suddenly raves about wines like she is a connoisseur. I've even wanted to stab her partner in the bollock laugh at her other half when he kept saying "we quaffed soooo much wine whilst on holiday" pretentious twat. I wouldn't mind if he knew his stuff. He is just full of bullshit. Dsis has started to watch and insists she loves certain sports, just because her boyfriend likes to watch it. She thinks she has got the better relationship because he cooks and between them, they consider themselves to right foodies.

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Loislane78 · 21/12/2012 20:23

Just like cozie said :)

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Familyaritybree · 21/12/2012 20:25

LoisLane78 - I don't want her to do anything other than the ham because she thinks I am no good and will fail. I want to prove them wrong but at the same time, I feel like I will fail now...

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Greensleeves · 21/12/2012 20:26

Oh I have a friend like that, she is like a fucking hermit crab

I can tell what sort of person the new bloke is by what she is wearing/her taste in coffee/whether or not she likes hot curry

nothing is really her

drives me mental but I love her anyway

Loislane78 · 21/12/2012 20:29

Fair enough family just don't set yourself up to fail iyswim. It's a lot of work for great cooks (which I'm sure you are :)) so just get well prepared and it'll be delicious :)

diddl · 21/12/2012 20:33

I think that YANBU but for me tbh, any offer of help would be taken-at the first hint!

everlong · 21/12/2012 20:34

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diddl · 21/12/2012 20:34

(Is it possible to cook turkey badly?)

MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 21/12/2012 20:42

'(Is it possible to cook turkey badly?)'

Yes if you work in our local carvery, and like it 'pink and runny' in the middle Grin

diddl · 21/12/2012 20:47

Oh that sounds awful.

I`ve always just stuck it in the oven for the necessary time & it´s always been great.

Unless you turn it into a three bird roast or make a particularly fab stuffing, I don´t really see how anyone´s turkey can really be that much better than another.

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