To not tell my vegetarian friend?

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I bought some homemade mincemeat from the school fair. Dd and I made them into lovely mince pies this aft in preparation for a visit tomorrow from my friend and her dd.

I happened to look at the hand written ingredients on the side and it said suet. I'm not sure if vegetable or beef suet has been used, so aibu to not tell her it may or may not have beef suet in it? Surely it can only be a small amount anyway?

Oh bugger there's just a whole host of errors in that post.

Haha, my Nan still makes pastry with lard, it's delicious! It was only when I asked for the recipe when I was in my late teens that I discovered that pastry is not always vegetarian! My Nan knew I was veggie, and knew about lard as she avoided it on her roasties at Christmas, but it never clicked for her wrt the pastry for some reason!

merrylittlekitten I think you're channelling Mrs Lovett there!

I'd think you were sweet for having gone to the effort of making them, then realising and telling me. The thought does count (and a choc biscuit would be lovely thanks).

Glad I'm not the only person who has made pastry with lard then realised in retrospect it wasn't suitable for the vegetarians I had specially made the quiche for. You only make the mistake once though!

Mrs Lovett's Lady Pastry

Oh no, i'll be earworming lady pastry making my mince pies at the weekend.

If she's a veggie, it's up to her to find out if it's got non-veggie suet in it. It wont be the first mince pie she's been offered

Well, that depends...

If it's bought or offered at an event or something - definitely.

Good friends, I trust to only offer me veggie food, I see them often enough for them not to forget to check. It would be rude to continually question them.

Friends I don't see often or have only just met, I'd check - it's embarrassing sometimes as they say of course and seem a bit put out you've asked OR then have to check and are embarrassed if they aren't... it's awkward, but better than eating non vegetarian food.

Chica It would be nasty to serve it knowing it wasn't veggie then shrug and say 'she should have asked'

Yikes. Would you let a bit of pork go with an observing Jewish or friend?

Sorry, that should have said Muslim friend.

If its homemade mincemeat then you won't have a clue who made it to ask. The mincemeat I bought recently doesn't have suet in at all, I don't like the idea of it, even though I am not veggie and I find the veggie version stodgy too.

I would tell her and let her make the decision. She might not be bothered but I think it's her choice to make.

Trex is a great alternative to lard for pastry. I've been using it for my mince pies and they're yum ( homemade veggie mincemeat of course!).

I don't think it matters why she is a vegetarian - it's still her choice to make and no one else's.

If I were at someone's house and they said "I've made mince pies but when I checked the mincemeat contained animal suet" I'd not eat one and I wouldn't mind in the slightest.

I'd forgive being accidentally fed it too.

But if someone had just taken it upon themselves to not tell me, knowing that I was vegetarian, that wouldn't be something I'd forgive.

At that level, it's not even about having eaten animal products, it would just be about honesty and respect.

I am returning and exchanging the mincemeat, I bought because I realized it has beef suet in it. My ds's dp is a vegetarian, and I didn't realize it had beef suet until I was home.
I am sure your friend will appreciate that you made the tarts even if she can't eat them, and she will appreciate your honesty even more.

Go and buy some veggie mincepies, or tell her to bring her own, or let her go without.
Can't believe you call her friend and would think of doing this intentionally.

It's fine if you did nt realise but if you know I would tell her, that t as set in and your unsure what type it is

Meant suet grrrr silly I pad

Don't panic people. I told her, she had a chic biscuit instead

Oh bugger. * choc

Chic biscuits? Did they have chicken hidden in them?

Well done!

Hope you had a nice evening :)

I still remember the time my sister put a dead spider in my food as a joke and told me about it after I'd eaten it.

I was absolutely horrified (as I imagine most people would be), and although I'm not a vegetarian, I can imagine how some of them probably feel at being tricked into eating something they find disgusting.

I'm glad you told her.

You should tell her really. She could be vegetarian for a multitude of reasons but nonetheless you should tell her.

I know a vegetarian who is only one because it keeps her weight down,another who slowly just stopped eating all meat because they didn't like the taste and another who is really really into animal rights. The first two wouldn't be that bothered I don't think,the third would go utterly fucking ballistic. I would tell all of them though because that is what's right.

Ifyoulike Oh my god

I would react so badly to being told that,that was a really horrible thing for your sister to do!

In her defense, we were both very young at the time, but I'll never forget it!