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To think dh is being a fooking twat!!!

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AltinkumATEalltheTurkey · 19/12/2012 16:22

On Monday in tool bad and ended up with Ron lung lining, inflammation of the lung walls and a kidney infection, so on anti b and am feeling generally poorly.

In went to walk in on Monday and was put on anti b, but had to go to drs on Tuesday for bloods, samples and scans, on Tuesday I got cover for my work and today is my day off.

Today I've only done a washing, and tumble drying, and 3 school runs, which wiped me out and I ended up sleeping for 3 hours. I'm just exhausted all the time and generally feeling yuck!! So not along housework has been done and tbf it is a mess, and needs a food clean and tidy.

Dh has been golfing all day with a mate, from 8am andnhas game home at 4.05pm and the first thing he done was say what the hell have you done all day!!!

I'm fooking Livid and told him he better get the fook away from me.

AIBU, should I just tidy up and makes self more fucking poorly so his majesty can come home to a wife that is exhausted and a spotless house!!!!!!!!!!!

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AltinkumATEalltheTurkey · 19/12/2012 16:23

Tore lung lining

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AltinkumATEalltheTurkey · 19/12/2012 16:24

One word for post fook up ........... iPhone

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MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 19/12/2012 16:25

LTB?

hettie · 19/12/2012 16:26

Why oh why did you do all of that? You needed to say- (dear) h... I can't get out of bed you will have to look after the children/school run/tidy...Clearly your dh is a nobber.... but why are you enabling him to behave like this?

Montybojangles · 19/12/2012 16:27

What have you done?? WTF has he done all day?
Hope you get better soon.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 19/12/2012 16:28

it's fuck.

why are you with a wanker like that? doesn't he know you are sick? and no of course you shouldn't tidy up for him. he's not royalty, he's the other adult who lives there and has no mpre right to a tidy home than you do. and considering you are very bloody ill, if he wants it tidy it means he pulls hi finger out of his arse and does it himself. cant believe he'd really expect not to have to, even when you in full health!

Rindercella · 19/12/2012 16:29

You don't have to be the martyr here. If you don't feel up to it, don't do any of the house work, or at least do the absolute bare minimum required. He is an absolute twat though for his behaviour. Does he realise how ill you are?

AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow · 19/12/2012 16:30

Yes, he's a fucking twat, but why did you wave him off to golf when you both knew how ill you are? I would've expected him to just stay and do it, but if it looked like he was headed out the door, I'd have spoken up and said 'No you don't arsehole chops'

Witchofthenorth · 19/12/2012 16:30

I sincerely hope his testicles are now in his golf bag ready for his next tee off? Your not so DH is a twat and you need to go to bed.......now missy!! Go! NOW!

BLOO3Z · 19/12/2012 16:31

Poor you and I hope you feeling better soon, Ive torn lung lining too very painfull, you need to tell dh in no uncertain terms what you think of him right now, not easy when you have not the energy I know! but it got to be done, he needs to be helping you.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 19/12/2012 16:32

yes why did he go to golf? if that was my partner i'd be cancelling any plans i had to stay at home and look after them/the dcs. (obviously not if i was supposed to working) he's a dickhead. i suggested LTB aswell. what use is he to you?

GoldPlatedNineDoors · 19/12/2012 16:32

What a cunt.

TheoxenandDonkeyskneltdown · 19/12/2012 16:32

What a prince. If he's a slave driver when you're this poorly, what's he like when you're well?! Xmas Confused.

EuphemiaInExcelsis · 19/12/2012 16:42

I sincerely hope his testicles are now in his golf bag ready for his next tee off

Xmas Grin
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AltinkumATEalltheTurkey · 19/12/2012 16:44

I've just asked him why he went golfing knowing I was unwell, he said I told him too!!! Like fook did I, now apparently he won't talk to me as in in a mood.

No shit Sherlock!!!

Tbf he is a good husband and father but at times he just doesn't think, if he does something with his mates its it usually gets done straight away, but with me, everything is later. As apparently I want everything done their and now.
Think I'm just majorly pissed off, and I've just thrown a shoe at him as he's asked what's for tea!!!

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 19/12/2012 16:47

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SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 19/12/2012 16:48

no he isn't a good husband and father. he really isn't. that line always comes up in these threads. "he's a bastard, he doesn't help me at all with the house or dcs, but he's a great dad" Hmm

McPie · 19/12/2012 16:51

I would have thrown more than a shoe at him! Hope you feel better soon.

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AltinkumATEalltheTurkey · 19/12/2012 16:51

He normally does help with the house and kids, but he doesn't get I'll and doesn't get it that im ill or the kids all we want to do is rest and sleep.

Think he's been poorly about 3 times in our relationship (15 year) and only twice has he took to his bed.

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AltinkumATEalltheTurkey · 19/12/2012 16:53

Today he is a fooking twat tho, if id had something more closer to me is have stabbed the bastard through his farking cock

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GreenyEyes · 19/12/2012 16:53

My husband is a good husband and father. And sometimes yes, he doesn't think.

He wouldn't treat me like that though, and he damned well wouldn't dare ask what I'd done all day

GreenyEyes · 19/12/2012 16:54

When I say wouldn't 'dare' I just mean 'wouldn't'

Hows that for a Freudian slip heh

scottishmummy · 19/12/2012 16:54

if was unwell I'd be asking dp not to swan off all day,if stuff needed done
he's unsupportive selfish for doing so.but you're daft for throwing shoe at him.
hardly an adult reaction.maybe you both need to refocus and stop being stupid

Spero · 19/12/2012 16:54

Agree with santa. Being a good husband/dad is about the whole package, not just those little bits of it they don't mind doing. So absolutely part of being a good dad/husband is taking care of your partner/children's mother when she is ill.

So sorry, he doesn't sound very good at either of his main adult roles. Selfish and entitled. You need to talk.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 19/12/2012 16:56

so? that doesn't excuse his attitude of swanning in after a day's golfing and asking what you've been doing all day. i wouldn't tolerate that from a partner even of i was well! are you there just to skivvy? why does he expect that you should have the house sitting perfect when he gets home? is that in your job description as, what, female? mother of his children? or just a not-as-important-as-him person in the house?