To think dh is being a fooking twat!!!

[AltinkumATEalltheTurkey]

On Monday in tool bad and ended up with Ron lung lining, inflammation of the lung walls and a kidney infection, so on anti b and am feeling generally poorly.

In went to walk in on Monday and was put on anti b, but had to go to drs on Tuesday for bloods, samples and scans, on Tuesday I got cover for my work and today is my day off.

Today I've only done a washing, and tumble drying, and 3 school runs, which wiped me out and I ended up sleeping for 3 hours. I'm just exhausted all the time and generally feeling yuck!! So not along housework has been done and tbf it is a mess, and needs a food clean and tidy.

Dh has been golfing all day with a mate, from 8am andnhas game home at 4.05pm and the first thing he done was say what the hell have you done all day!!!

I'm fooking Livid and told him he better get the fook away from me.

AIBU, should I just tidy up and makes self more fucking poorly so his majesty can come home to a wife that is exhausted and a spotless house!!!!!!!!!!!

Nothing excuses it, absolutely nothing!!

He's being an entilted prick!!!

If he's poorly in dont expect anything from him, so why the fook should he of me.

i agree with SM. you realise throwing shoes is not a normal reaction to conflict in a relationship? it all sounds really immature.

and are we using fook, fuck or fark?

have the hed be wearing his baws crew turned up.sagely advising they'd castrate him
maybe he does what he knows he'll get away with,knows you'll say ach but...
instead of chucking shoe both have adult conversation,unless you both like drama

so what are you going to do about it OP? dont just rant on here and let things carry on liek this after you are better. sort it/him out. tell him things need to change for teh better.

yes SM they have.

In threw a shoes at him as he asked what's for tea and went inan huff when I said, I didn't know as I east cooking anything. Very childish yep... But the man infuriates me at times, he's now not talking to me as im in a mood... I'm trying to talk to him and having him explain why he's asked etc... But nope I'm in a mood so brick wall goes up.

He went... I hate iPhone!!!

youre inconsistent,he's entitled prick,but a great dad.so what is it
how are domestic chores divided do you usually do it all?what does he contribute
I think you get the man you settle for to an extent.if youre not happy what you going to do

i had surgery on thursday... my dh bless him has been doing everything while i watch doctor who sleep and recover in bed. he even cancelled a work trip yesterday to come with me to the drs as i was shit scared worried about having my stitches out.

you're with an arse! sorry but you are. he's really expecting you to do the housework and normal day to day jobs while you're ill and he's out golfing with mates?

he sounds just delightful

Altinkum,
we'll err on the side of him being completely thoughtless, in which case, you need to tell him just how ill you are, and that he needs to stop being selfish and look after you - hand and foot.
you should not be doing housework as ill as you are, and you certainly shouldn't be out of bed.

Get back to bed, with your mobile, make sure he has his mobile on him, and every time you need something, text him.
he should be fetching you food and drink, and he should be making sure that he does all the chores - especially as he has been out all day having fun with his mates.

and don't let him do the whole martyr "oh, you're just being meeeeeeeean" - he's not a teenager, he's your husband.

ok OP so this relationship as it is, is clearly not working or healthy for either of you. when you are in a situation where throwing things is your response then things are badly wrong. you need to sort it. your children see/hear all thsi you know. either sit down with him and talk it out, agree new behaviours or end the relationship. if he wont sit down and talk liek ad adulty then you really dont want to be with him do you?