To be mad at my dh for inviting his dd over when she has vomiting bug?

[parrotsandcarsnips]

Ok my dh's adult dd lives nearby & she has been vomiting with earache. Dh offers her some home comforts & tlc at our house which is great EXCEPT he didnt tell me she had vomiting just earache . We have 2 small children here I don't want a sick house over xmas. Dh thinks I'm a cold b.... As I'm really mad at him. Aibu?

Maddening - just as my children will still be my children when they grow up, so I would say that step children are still step children when they are grown up. I suppose a step child ceases being your stepchild if you divorce/split up from their parent, but otherwise, I would say of course they are still your step child.

is tonsilitus infectious?

Right ok, her vomiting is far more likely to be related to her period that a bug hmm

That's not quite what I'm getting it. What I'm saying is that there may be another cause and hopefully the OP has a better idea than we do about the likelihood of this.

Also we don't know about her DSD's situation i.e. how ill she is, whether she is house sharing with someone who is undergoing chemo etc.

Well like you say, the OP is likely to have much better idea about this than us, and her understanding of the cause is that it's infectious

Tbh, I don't know how infectious tonsillitis is, Santa (so not a sentence I ever thought I'd find myself typing ).

The point I was making was that it was easier for my friend's parents to look after her in their home than to dash backwards and forwards between houses - maybe that was what the OP's dh was thinking. Sorry if I wasn't clear.

and i get that. i would have no problem with that if the illness isn't likely to make teh rest of the family sick, but vomitting that may or may not be associated with teh earache could make them all sick and as they dont know what's causing it, i think she should have stayed at her own house and her dad looked after her there.

and at the thought of Santa (the real boyo) enquiring as to the infectiousness (sp?) of tonsilitus. perhaps he's thinking of giving the Uk a miss this year with all this noro talk.

I always thought you pretty much quarantined yourself if you were puking from a bug.

The idea of visiting your infection on another household is totally bizarre, parent or not.

hi thanks for all your replies. DSD is 22 and not spoiled or selfish imo. Her dad should have had more sense though. DSD was at gp today and it turns out the vomiting was related to that and not bug as initially thought, but i feel caution was warranted.

Glad she's not got a bug parrots.