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To not know how to deal with this disgusting habbit.

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disgustedbythis · 18/12/2012 14:30

Ok first up I have had to name change here because I really don't want to out myself.

I have been married to my DH for nearly 10 years and we have 2 lovely children together. This morning he was working from home when I left to drop the kids off at school. I had planned to go to the shops afterwards but realised after leaving the house that I had left my purse at home.

I decided to go back again via the house to pick it up. I got out and went to go in the house and could see DH at the computer. I witnessed him picking his nose and not only this but afterwards he put his finger in his mouth to eat it. He then did it again to the other side. He didn't know I was looking at him doing this.

Now I realise that this sounds like something trivial, but I think in all honesty it's the most disgusting thing I've ever seen him do. I've told the kids off for doing this and DH even knows I find it the grossest thing ever. I grabbed my purse and just left again without speaking to him, and thankfully by the time I had got back he'd left to go to his office. I've been feeling so grossed out by what I saw earlier it's made me really upset. I just don't know how I'm going to react to him when he gets in later. Just thinking about it makes me sick!

AIBU to tell him what I saw and say that it's disgusting?

OP posts:
SoleSource · 18/12/2012 16:09

I had menninococchal in 2005 . Consultant told me it lives in nose but more specific what Jenai stated.

How I contracted it, nobody nose. :)

SoleSource · 18/12/2012 16:13

I almost died.

Sallyingforth · 18/12/2012 17:43

OP I read this at first as the disgusting hobbit! Thought you were complaining about the new film.

Original poster
disgustedbythis · 19/12/2012 16:52

Well I've still hardly managed to look him in the eye. Luckily he's been fairly busy with work. I don't know how to be with a man who eats his own bogies. It's as disgusting as picking his own backside tbh.

OP posts:
valiumredhead · 19/12/2012 17:01

It really is, it's vile.

PowerPants · 19/12/2012 23:50

Am I the only one that thinks this is fine? It doesn't bother me in the least....it's just a bit of snot.

NeonGolden · 19/12/2012 23:59

For heavens sake, get a grip. You stormen out of the house without talking to him because he was picking his nose? And that while he thought no one was looking.

He must be a vile, disgusting, pitiful man...

Yeah, I'd just relax a little to be honest. Feel quite sorry for the poor guy if that's your reaction to something so trivial.

shesariver · 20/12/2012 00:02

OP I read this at first as the disgusting hobbit!

Sally I read this to Xmas Grin

squoosh · 20/12/2012 00:03

Oh you poor delicate flower! The man was picking his nose in what he thought was private. Us mammals pick and scratch lots of places when we think others won't see.

The poor sod! Are you always this uptight?

likeatonneofbricks · 20/12/2012 00:04

It's as disgusting as picking his own backside tbh.
surely not! you really can't compare the amount of bacteria. Nose contents are pretty much same as saliva (and you two kiss) as far as danger to health, so it's a bit illogical - it's purely unpleasant aesthetically!
But I bet you won't come back home without letting him know first from now on Grin!

FunnysFuckingFreezing · 20/12/2012 00:06

It's quite tasty and something our whole family do. It started in 1927 with my dad. In fact the boys were picking each others noses tonight which is an evolutionary step forward IMO

ChasedByBees · 20/12/2012 00:12

I misread this too but I read 'disgusting rabbit'

larks35 · 20/12/2012 00:15

but I do this sometimes too. My DP pretends not to notice if he walks in and happens to see it. He has never mentioned it, not ever, even when we are at the height of a heated arguement.

FWIW OP, I have a whole host of nervous habits that were formed from an early age and I've never been able to loose them - nail-biting, nose-picking, scab-picking... I come across as an easy-going, laid-back person but behind that I have a very nervy, fiddly disposition. My DP understands this in me and would never embarrass me by pulling me up on my "vile" habits.

PowerPants · 20/12/2012 00:18

larks this may have been known to happen in our house too...

And spot squeezing and scab picking.

Iggly · 20/12/2012 00:19

I would have said something. Made light of it at the time otherwise you blow it out of all proportion even though it is rank.

Tell him you saw and it was grim.

soontobeburns · 20/12/2012 00:22

When I got my nose pierced it ended up getting infected cos I couldn't stop picking my nose Blush

I Hate the feeling of my nose not being clean so do tend to pick it quite often lol. So I would say YABU.

fatnfrumpy · 20/12/2012 00:23

I don, t know about how I would feel seeing DH picking and eating bogeys but I do remember last year walking in on him having a number two and holding his you know what down the loo. That made me feel disgusted!
There are some images that you should not have of your DH!

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 20/12/2012 00:54

sometimes you just need to pick your nose. blowing just isn't enough. but i would vomit all over the place if i even tried to put the bugger/booger near my mouth. i do it in the bathroom, door closed, use a tissue, flush it straight away and wash my hands. i'm not ashamed to admit that and I know i'm not the only one. but eating it is fucking vile!

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 20/12/2012 00:58

glad to see i'm not the only one! Grin

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights · 20/12/2012 01:01

A few of you seem to be missing the point - it's the eating of it that is utterly vile!! Envy The picking is bad enough - but as 'Santa' said, sometimes a necessity - but only done the way she does it!

OP - it would take a very long time to get that image out of my mind. I woud not be kissing him and when he eventually noticed I'd tell him why!!

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 20/12/2012 01:10
Grin

i have chippings approval

theplodder · 20/12/2012 01:23

I caught my dh scratching his arsehole then sniffing it.

echt · 20/12/2012 06:19

OP, are all your habits ones you wouldn't mind your OH seeing?

Marzipanface · 20/12/2012 06:52

Get a grip!

We all do disgusting things.

Let me guess, Are you the type that doesn't break wind or do a poo if your DH is in the house?

takataka · 20/12/2012 07:10

I LOVE picking my nose

Could NEVER eat it!