AIBU to not allow teenagers to pack my bags in the supermarket?

[Cezzy]

Went grocery shopping the other day and teenagers were taking over the end of the checkout offering to pack bags for donations towards something for their school. While I applaud that they are trying to do something useful, I can't bring myself to let them pack my bags and am left feeling mean, however when I relented before I had squashed bread, fridge stuff in with papers etc. I like to pack my bags so they are ready to unpack straight into the correct cupboards when I get home, I also like to use particular bags for certain items. I know I may have a touch of OCD about this, but please, reassure me I am not alone in being a meanie.

you've missed the point. They don't want to pack your bags, they want you to give them money. Say no thanks and give them a quid. No guilt

Give a donation without having bag packed.

Did you think they actually wanted to pack your bag? Nope, they want the money. Giv'e 'em that, say "no thanks" to the bag packing, everyone happy.

YANBU

I don't let them pack them either, I just say im packing it myself, and they just stand to the side.

I did let an older woman as in 60s who was collecting for a local cause, do it the other day, but only had a small amount of shopping.

I am an efficient, bag-packing MACHINE. I don't even need to use the packing shelf at Aldi. And I have specific bags for specific things that fit perfectly into my tiny car. So I never accept the bag packers help.

And I don't always donate money instead. I do if it's a charity that I wish to help, but I very often don't if it's a hobby thing. That probably makes me a meany, but I don't really care.

Unfortunately when I go grocery shopping I pay by card and rarely have any cash so they miss out on donations as all I ever seem to have left after paying for school lunches etc is a few coppers.

in that case definitely say no! would be far worse to allow the help and not donate imo

I dont let them pack my bags either but thats because I live in a flat and like to take the chilled/frozen up first and sometimes it's more than 1 trip.

The rest gets left in the car till my big strapping DS comes in from work and he can lug up the heavy stuff

Keep some coppers in your bag, they are grateful for anything and are happy to not pack if you give them a few.

Can i point out that quite a high proportion of the "charity i am involved in's" income is raised in this way so please be generous

im with you Hazel, you don't have to donate if you don't want to, you also shouldn't feel bad about it. I sometimes ask about the cause they are collecting for to see if they actually know about it. Maybe that makes me mean,

You don't have to give money to every charity that asks for it - it doesn't automatically make you a bad person or a scrooge!

Would you let the cutesy little brownies/cubs/rainbows pack your bags?

I did bag packing for the princes trust and i really annoyed the others on the course.

I think frozen should go in one bag, fridge in another and raw meat and cleaning products in bags of their own lol.

I ended up getting really pissed off at everyone just chucking them in randomly and told them all to piss of and did it myself lol.

I had just as many people complaining though about wasting bags and saying "just stuff it in" that I walked off in a huff. Opps bad pms. So no OPPS YANBU

YANBU, I hate other people packing my bags, I did a big shop this morning for freezer and store cupboard stuff to do over christmas so I only have to go to the local shop for fresh stuff. While I was still loading the conveyor the checkout lady called over the one from the next till to pack as she wasn't serving and she did an absolutely shite job of packing, some bags were so overloaded they burst and others had only one or two things, wish I had been brave enough to say no thanks I'd rather do my own packing.

YANBU, I hate other people packing my bags - checkout staff, charity fundraisers, DP. It's not because I'm obsessive about what goes in which bag, but because I don't drive and I have joint problems, so I need the heavy stuff in my backpack, and an even number of carrier bags with evenly distributed weight which no one seems to be able to consider.

I always say no thank you, and if it's for charity I'll give them a pound if I have one. If I don't, then tough, can't give them what I don't have.

I loathe anybody packing my bags for me - why do they invariably put the bleach in with the meat?

And the teenage packers are always asking for donations for their holiday to the Amazon, or suchlike. I'd give to many charities - but I'm buggered if I'm going to pay for other people's children to go on holiday. Not that I'm bitter at all about the £700 bill that I've just been presented with for DD1's year 8 school trip.

Problem is, these people are very young and very few have probably had to unpack bags once they've got home. I'm with you, OP, on needing to pack my own bags.

you've missed the point. They don't want to pack your bags, they want you to give them money. Say no thanks and give them a quid. No guilt

this My dd does bag packing things for her guides she hates doing it as she knows how particular people get bung a pound in their box,
my other dd works in a supermarket her head hits the conveyer belt when she sees them coming she says if people just let them do 1 bag then finish off it would be great,

When we packed bags with my Guide group, we had a lesson on how to correctly pack bags beforehand. Right down to double bagging anything parents might not want their kids noticing (Christmas chocolates)!

My dd2's school (primary) has organised a bag pack for 23rd December Seriously, who on earth wants small children trying to pack a mahoosive Christmas shop. Bonkers on every level. I'm sure parents me have much better things to do that day. Can't think shoppers and checkout staff will be overly impressed either

I was also a grumpy old woman in a supermarket on Saturday, teenagers bag packing to raise money for a ski trip to Italy. I'm forking out £800 for my dd1's ski trip so I'm not donating to someone elses. I did only have two items so told them not to worry helping.

I have no problem giving money for a charity or essential school items, but not a foreign trip. Bah humbug

I do. DS1's school did bad-packing to raise money for a school trip to the Space camp in the states. Earned a fortune. I don't actually let them pack much - just leave them a few token bits and give them some money,.

Oh dear Hairy be prepared for a distraught and traumatised daughter shoppers that near to christmas will eat little children alive dont let her go save the poor mite

Do people really not carry any cash (are you the queen? ).

Personally I love bag-packers but never seem to get them when I go shopping.

But really, just say no thank you and either do or don't give a donation. We organised a charity bag pack the other day and raised a significant amount of money, most people enjoyed the opportunity to have a chat, some let us pack the bags and didn't donate, it doesn't matter. Happy Christmas .

My son is doing exactly this to raise money for the sea cadets he belongs to just give a few coppers if you have them and pack the bags yourself . They are only children and trying to do their best , a quick guidance on how to pack bags if you so wish , pointing out that bread goes at the TOP of the bag