To think these people have NO RIGHT to post this on their facebook?

[Theicingontop]

Someone in our town rather sadly had a child of theirs pass away a few days ago. I know the family relatively well, and have passed on my condolences, by way of the lady's sister who I saw in town.

Now, someone on my facebook who heard from a mutual friend that the little boy had died, who didn't know the family at all, has posted a devastated status including his name! - and big sad faces, prompting other random people to ask what's happened. She has responded with "I'll inbox u hun", like it's fucking idle gossip.

AIBU or is this absolutely disrespectful to the family concerned. I feel like saying something.

I wouldn't say anything

Competitive mourning is never a good thing.

YANBU though, some people will post anything if it gains them attention from their list of friends.

We had this recently when mum passed away her friend posted a status about her. Not a close friend which caused an influx of omg who's dead comments. I messaged every single one privately saying if they didn't know my mum maybe they should have some respect. Know exactly how you feel I hate the gossip culture. I'd message the person telling her she has however long to remove it before you report it to facebook.

i think some people are morbid, a young girl was knocked down and killed when i was younger and people claiming to be her best friend came out from everywhere.
maybe she just wanted to pay respect as a parent i dont know.

Normal I would advise you to ignore a fb status, but I would be so , I probably wouldn't be able to stop myself saying something.

This is why I hate FB, she can post pretty much what she likes, but she is a fucking dick for using another familys tragedy to get attention for herself.

I agree its disrespectful. No point saying anything, people like that wouldnt take any notice.

Competitive grief.
I'm not a fan.

It sounds like the person on fb is revelling in the news a bit unfortunately, I really dislike the language people use around these things - I mean, the immediate family may be devesetated but not a casual acquaintance, sad yes, but not really devestated...

but, on the other hand, I do think it's a good thing that news like this is passed on by word of mouth so that the immediate family don't have to keep bumping into people who haven't heard and break the news again and again themselves.

oh i hate this side of FB. i know a person in particular who suddenly becomes the 'last person who spoke to X' or 'best friends with X years ago'. it's quite disgusting tbh. have some respect. i hate this almost 'claim to a realationship' what does it get them?

I had to leave, horrid place, this is so insensitive but most people just think of themselves, she probably thinks she is 'being kind' with the sad faces etc.

I would message her... (that's why I left)

I unfriended 2 people who did exactly this. But not before posting a really snitty reply on one status about not actually knowing the person involved.
FB can be useful, one of the many downsides is the competitve grief.
YANBU

I would inbox her and tell her how disrespectable her post is to the poor family what with her not knowing them at all.

I hate FB

It isn't sensitive at the very least. But I don't think you should say anything.

Grieving has almost been turned into a national competition, it in areas like this where the likes of Facebook is at it's worst. We saw it first hand back in the summer of 2002 where coachloads of people were diverting to our local church to take photos of themselves or worse, their children, eating fish and chips among the gravestones.

It is weird how many people seem to like to hijack the tragedies of others in order to get attention for themselves. I find it really distasteful.

YANBU.

Having read Ben Elton's Blind Faith I worry about where all this will lead.

YANBU it is completelY disrespectful of her. Agree you should inbox her and then defriend.

hell why did they do that? did something happen at your church?

I feel like saying something, but I won't. It's not my place really, I'm not a family member... And I really doubt they'd care if they knew, at this point in time, in all honesty. But just, argh.

It happens on here too.
Some news story aout something sad.
Poster 1: I'm upset
Poster 2: I'm more upset
Poster 3: I'm really upset
Poster 4: I'm crying.
Poster 5: |I'm weeping.
Poster 6 I'm weeping and wailing
Poster 7:
Poster 8: I'm weeping, wailing and sadder than everyone else, poor little mite

Honestly, I can't stand it.

Im glad i am not and never have been on facebook

Oh, and this:
"rip yr free to run over rainbow bridge now xxxx"

Santa I live in a place where two school girls were murdered in 2002, the girls were friends of my kids. The town had a complete invasion of what can best be described as sightseers during the weeks that followed.

bereavement can prompt some online histrionics
I don't like the heaven is missing an angel, a star looks down, always wiv ya
there's no tears in rain,no angels,only folk left to pick up pieces and get on with it