To think these people have NO RIGHT to post this on their facebook?

[Theicingontop]

Someone in our town rather sadly had a child of theirs pass away a few days ago. I know the family relatively well, and have passed on my condolences, by way of the lady's sister who I saw in town.

Now, someone on my facebook who heard from a mutual friend that the little boy had died, who didn't know the family at all, has posted a devastated status including his name! - and big sad faces, prompting other random people to ask what's happened. She has responded with "I'll inbox u hun", like it's fucking idle gossip.

AIBU or is this absolutely disrespectful to the family concerned. I feel like saying something.

It does TheSecondComing. Like it's something to be proud of, being linked to a tragedy.

fucking hell. that is disgusting hell. taking photos of children's graves? since when has that been acceptable? those poor families.

Before Facebook (or should that be faeces-book?) this still happened.. An example I was in paris on a college trip when my dad died. My mum thought it best not to tell me until
I got home, as there was no way to get me home any quicker. So I did not know.

I worked at a supermarket. My mum went there for essentials (on auto pilot I think) my Boyfriend (now DP) worked there, as did a friend of mums. Friend served mum, DP was on next till both asked if dad had enjoyed a certain activity he was doing that weekend... Mum crumbled and told DP and friend dad was dead.

Store busy body (older lady didn't know her or like her particularly) then went round saying to EVERYONE "did you hear strawberries dad died?" Like gossip

She didnt stop until a friends mum who worked there actually called her on it. Thats shitty enough but, no one was aware I didn't know. Several friends had my number. If it hadn't been for DP several would have text and i'd of found out my dad was dead by text.

People are fucking shitty.

That's awful Straw, a school friend had an accident when I was 13. My NDN told my DM and some other Mums she had died as a result of her injuries and we were told. We then found out she hadn't, she died later that day. Aged 13 we got the news twice in one day. The NDN just couldn't wait to be the person to spill to everyone.

Santa, it wasn't the children's concerned graves because they're not in the churchyard but the area was a sea of flowers at the time people were posing their children on gravestones and taking photos of them there. Some people were there to sign the book that had been opened in the church but there was definitely an element of people who were there to take photos. Luckily FB wasn't around at the time otherwise I'm sure competitive grieving would've come into it.

for straw and cortana. that is awful. you poor things. dont people realise that there are actually people hurting by what they say?

People are just naturally inclined to gossip, tittle tattle and attention seeking. Faceb

that is truly awful hell and yes, thank goodness FB wasn't around. i can just imagine those same assholes uploading pictures of their dcs posing on stranger's graves!. eurgh. i'm going to have to leave this thread. i'm getting too angry.

Thanks santa and cortana. I think these type of people are just inherently selfish, particularly the ones who try and make it about themselves.

It is like when you read a status about how sad its made them... Oh poor you, selfish dead person.
Really riles me!

Whoops! Facebook just amplifies it. If it upsets you you should ask the posters to take it down.

I don't think its just facebook. Me an sis were out shopping this week and saw playground mum, we nodded out hellos and carried on. she then called my sis back shouting hey I heard about your mum being dead :( people generally don't think about how much it hurts

My mother still lives next to that NDN Santa, and I haven't spoken to her since. She tried to buy my son a bouncer chair when he was born, I politely declined via my Mother. She never once apologised to the families she told or the family who's daughter had died. Never changed her gossip mongering ways either. She is one of the few people I would describe as a horrid human being.

I would also include people who get off being involved with or taking pictures around the time of the Soham murder in that too. What horrid, awful people.

The woman using FB to jump on this bandwagon of grief as another poster aptly put it is just as low. FB is so public, if it does bother you can you not shed a tear in private, light a candle or say a prayer without broadcasting it?

A similar thing happened to my friend a few weeks ago. He died at 2pm and before we could tell all the people who needed to know personally some random work colleague posted a heartfelt message at about 7 pm. I was so angry and upset for all the people who found out that way.

Sorry about your friend Twofalls. My cat died yesterday and we're keeping it quiet as his previous owner hasn't been told yet as she's hard to get in touch with. And I know we loved him but he's a cat, how can these people have no empathy or common sense when dealing with the death of someone who has friends and family who may not have been told.

Thank you cortana. Do these people not stop to think for a second or have any empathy at all. I ended up calling people at 10pm when I really needed to be in bed because I was anxious to tell them personally. sorry to hear about your cat.

i agree cortana. when people close to me have died FB isn't even on my radar. far too much shock and grief and anger and tears taking up my time that to make sure the world knows i knew the person or that i'm hurting. of course i'm hurting, people who know me will know that and wont need to be notified. and even if they didn't know, i dont have to prove that i'm hurting. it's attention seeking to post like that on FB. if you really know the family then you pay your respects privately not in fucking FB.

Facebook is for cocks

oh cortana. sorry about your cat.

My dad's cousin's DD expressed her sadness at my grandad's death with some shite like "RIP Uncle X, so sad, can't believe you're gone" which resulted in lots of hugs, huns and sad faces.

She hadn't seen him in years. Fucking bitch. I really had to resist the urge to add a comment sympathising for her loss.

She did it so people comment and ask what it's about. Awful.

I got the call from a hospice telling me to get there now as my very dear friend wasnt going to last long.

DP drove me there and we were too late. Another friend arrived just after me and she told loads of people, she kept them informed and had her mobile was going off constantly. So people at work knew BEFORE my dear friends children knew she had passed away.

I was bloody furious, why did this other friend have to go telling everyone as soon as she found out? We were waiting for the children to turn up at the hospice as they didnt have a clue that their mum had died. Very insesitive and it still makes me mad to this day.

It's very very different when someone who doesn't actually know the person in said news starts using it to attention-whore themselves. It's not right or fair but on social media i find some people are the worst.

When my friend's mum died, i only ever commented when she put up a status, or shared it when she was asking for donations for the hospital and asked us to. But one friend, bloody hell she wasn't friends with my friend except for on fb through us but heard the news when this friend phoned us-she was in the same room as us. And on fb she spammed it with 'thinking of a certain someone', 'so awful how cancer affects you personally', 'RIP to a lovely lady'. Now she thankfully never used my friend's mum's name but she did the old 'i'll PM/text you' to certain people to get more attention and spread the news and really went all out saying how bad and sorry she felt. On and this was an hour after she'd died

I know for a fact she felt sorry for my friend, she's not a horrid person, but the fbing was purely about her. About getting attention, she loved every like and was sitting there gleefully awaiting each one on her phone. In the end we told her to delete it and stop attention seeking, which after a few hours she finally died-thankfully my friend never saw it all- she would have been devastated.

But people overshare news that isn't their own all over. I've seen other people announce engagements for the couple, minutes after proposing, before their families knew and pregnancies announced without their consent too. Saddest in one case because the poor woman lost it at 5 months and hadn't wanted it even mentioned on SM until after- so she had to shut down her fb to avoid sympathy messages or questions about tk he baby from those she didn't know..

I'd PM them OP, they're looking for attention and it's not on. What if the family saw it and it hurt them more? What if they hadn't got around to telling everyone? Disgraceful, some people leave their brain at the door hen they get online.