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to not buy photos for family next year?

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:05

this year we have bought a big set of school photos of dd and a set of dd with dd2 as we were allowed to take younger siblings. it cost £40.
out of this we took 2 photos, we have given the rest to mom, dad, pil, bil, bil, godparents etc, all of them see dd2 regularly and admire pics on wall (maybe just being polite) and parents say they could do with a new picture.
dad said, oh lovely, i'l file it away as i hate photos.
pil said, oh we lost the framed ones you gave us last year, we will have to buy another frame.
mom was pleased.

aibu to save the £40 next year as we really could have done without the expense but felt we had to give them all photos each.

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BluelightsAndSirens · 14/12/2012 22:08

Next year get the disc, print them yourself and put the print out into a frame.

Maybe they think its an easy present with no thought?

Sorry.

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:14

the disc was more expensive.
we have bought them all xmas presents and just given them the photos with the cards, youd think grandparents might like a picture of their grandchild, obviously not.

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BluelightsAndSirens · 14/12/2012 22:16

Ungrateful gits.

My lovely nan and grandad endure, hand printed lates, calendars, photos in frame you name it.

My parents are rubbish so get nothing.

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:18

my dd1 drew her grandad a picture and handed it to him (she was 4 so it was colourful shall we say) and he said no thanks and didnt take it. Sad
why do i bother

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adeucalione · 14/12/2012 22:19

My parents always used to complain about family members who gave them photos of their children, so I only hand them out to people who ask for them now. My parents used to say 'why do we need a photo of someone else's child', even about nephews and godchildren. I always thought they were exceptionally grumpy but maybe they're not as unique as I thought.

adeucalione · 14/12/2012 22:21

Oh x post about the drawing - that's bad even by my parent's standards!

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:21

i love photos of our nieces and nephews and display them, to be fair both bils display pics of ours, its just the grumpy old men in the family.

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Jins · 14/12/2012 22:22

I don't think it's uncommon. I never give photos as a present but happily give a copy if I'm asked for it

I get photos of friends and family children as a gift and tbh I never know what to do with them :( Seems a shame to put them in a drawer but I haven't got room

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:22

i know, we dont go to his house much so he could have taken the artwork Grin and binned it and she would have been non the wiser.

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:24

ils took last years down and put a bloody dog picture up, she always telling me her dog is her baby Hmm and now i believe her. but cant believe she told me she lost it.

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BluelightsAndSirens · 14/12/2012 22:24

Sad that is horrible not to accept a drawing, you don't even have to keep them.

I'm laminating drawings as place matts this year

poozlepants · 14/12/2012 22:25

Don't bother- get one for your Mum and sod the rest of them. MIL took me aside a couple of Christmases ago and told me a picture from nursery whether framed or not was not a proper present. Cheeky mare had had about 3 other presents as well. Now I buy her the tiniest size just to piss her off.

Theicingontop · 14/12/2012 22:26

My SIL gives me photos of niece and nephews every year. I don't know what I'm supposed to do with them, they're all in a photo album in the cupboard. I don't really display that many photos, and the ones that are displayed are of DS. I found it odd at first, because I don't have the slightest inclination to hand out framed photographs of my child - not even to my parents, though they have framed their own. Just seems a bit presumptious Confused

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:27

i might laminate the miniature stamp sized one for them next year Grin

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:29

i havent framed them, just put a photo in with their card, is it presumptious to give close family a photo.

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Theicingontop · 14/12/2012 22:33

Not presumptuous if they've hinted or asked for them, in which case they're just being ungrateful and grumpy.

ENormaSnob · 14/12/2012 22:34

I would be bemused to receive a picture of someone else's child tbh. Including family children.

Sure it will be different when I am a gran but otherwise I just don't want them.

BluelightsAndSirens · 14/12/2012 22:37

I only give them to my nan and grandad aka great nan and grandad, we don't see them as much as I would like to and they lve to brag about having great grandchildren.

I think photos are for greats and grands and no one else, other wise it's a bit odd - not you op Smile

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:37

maybe its me then, i love pics of friends and familys children to display.
my dad clearly doesnt want them, but i suppose i feel guilty buying for my mom and pil without my dad.
pil always hint for photos, ooh i wish we had a nice big photo, havent got a recent one. i think they dont realise we have saved and paid for these so think nothing of taking them down for dog picture.

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:38

ok, im odd Grin

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:38

at least dd stopped nightmares so i can get back to drinking

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BluelightsAndSirens · 14/12/2012 22:42

Tell you what I did, I used a vista code for the 99p calander, they never end up at 99p mind you and I have made a think of making sure I got pictures of them eating Easter eggs, dressed up at Halloween etc.

£13.99 for 2 ok calendars, they are not venture by a long shot but the ungrateful so and so's are getting them anyhoo.

Drink up you have catching up to do, said by me who has spent a week off her face on tramadol trying to pass a kidney stone.

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familyfun · 14/12/2012 22:46

oh i saw that post, didnt realise that was you sorry, hope you are ok now.

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Jins · 14/12/2012 22:49

OP I don't think I'd have bothered bying them this year. It doesn't sound like they went down very well last year

Some people just don't like photos. I don't mind them but I don't want them on display.

Jins · 14/12/2012 22:49

buying

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