To be seriously annoyed with the school over my daughters missing items?

[MrsFlibble]

Seriously, this is bugging me, that every week since the start of term, my dd (Shes 5) has had items go missing, it can vary from:

Glasses
PE Kit
Uniform
shoes

This week her shoe has gone missing, and after 30 mins searching with a teacher and my ex MIL, its nowhere to be seen, AIBU over this, because im seriously getting hacked off it.

YABU. Sorry, but it is NOT a teacher's job to search for your DD's things. I agree it's frustrating, but it's just one of those things.

Sorry if this is a stupid question, but are they named items? How can one shoe go missing, and how did your dd walk home?

Do you feel that other people are taking the items by mistake or that somebody is picking on your daughter by hiding her things?

All of my DD's things are mark with special iron labels and the shoes have stickers with her name on inside the shoe.

She had one shoe and the other just couldnt be found anywhere, so she had to wear her plimsols home.

Every week, something goes missing, always found, although last week my daughters school shirt went missing and she told me someone had moved it, although it was found, its constant every friday after PE, and it seems like shes the only one who constantly has things go missing.

can you get her to put her clothes in her PE bag once she's changed so they aren't loose for people to pick up? I can totally see how annoying it is but really it isn't reasonable to get expect the school to find things or spend ages looking, its just not practical.

YANBU to be annoyed, but what do you expect the school to do? You need to talk to DD about taking better care of her things.

Teachers would have to track hundreds of items a day if you expected us to be responsible for every pupil's belongings. Sorry, it's my job to teach.

I have discussed it with my daughter many time over, items going missing, but with her issues, shes not that perceptive, normally things get found without issue, im just annoyed at how a shoe can disappear, especially since it has a bright green sticker on the inside with her name on it.

Most of the stuff gets but in a box in the classroom, where the kids put all there stuff, its just the shoe issue.

If it's always after pe it's more than likely they will have been gathered up by some other child putting their kit back in their bag. Could you talk to your dd about making sure she keeps her things together either on a chair or in one particular place?
If she's the only one who has things go missing then maybe it's about the way she is caring for her clothes. If she is just taking them off and dropping putting them on the floor then it's not surprising they are getting mixed up with other clothes. It can be really exciting getting ready for pe and I'm sure she isn't doing it on purpose .
Maybe you could practise putting her clothes in a pile when she takes them off at bedtime and ask her to do the same at school too.

All the PE Kits were searched and everywhere no joy, if it was anything else i wouldnt have been that annoyed, but its was nowhere to be found, which means that another child has taken it home, but i had a chat with my DD over this and she told me she put the shoes under the table where she sits, she found everything else, coz it was in one place.

but with her issues, shes not that perceptive,

If she has issues that make it hard for her to cope with looking after her possessions then perhaps it would be worth asking if she can have help. I realise that teachers have better things to do than track every pupil's possessions (I also realise that it must be a complete nightmare too!) but if there are good reasons why your dd needs extra help then I'd ask. Or at least ask if there are ways that she could help herself keep her possessions safe.

It's a PITA, but kids are both careless with their own things and casual about picking up the next best thing if their own possessions aren't to hand. I helped out at a Christmas party the other day and came across 3 abandoned jumpers in the empty hall after lunch. Nobody had asked them to remove any clothes, so nobody would have been watching to make sure they got put back on the right children.

I shouldnt blame the school really, its just so annoying, its her only pair of school shoes, just gotta hope it gets found.

School uniform drives me insane! At the end of every day I have a child that has lost something, mainly coats! I spend hours searching around for lost items, I have sent many notes home to ask parents to label all clothes and to check that the uniform they have is their child's. I still though have many unnamed, unclaimed items in the classroom. Sixteen identical coats costing 50 euros each still cause me daily headaches! Someone in my class must have a whole wardrobe full of them! To make it even worse my daughter lost her cardigan today!

My mum insisted that my DD had names on everything she had at school, just like she did with me and my siblings, even the shoes and plimsols have names in.

But her stuff still disappears, if i kid took it home, i hope that a parent is nice enough to return it, since pretty much every parent knows my daughter.

I shouldnt blame the school really

No you bloody well shouldn't!

If it was after pe I'll bet that its in someone elses bag (which will appear next week) or someone else has gone home wearing it and it'll come back tmrw once the mum has realised.

complexnumber how constructive of you.

I turned the classroom upside down this week looking for a girl's shoes. She wears boots to school and changes into her shoes. Her mum goes nuts if she comes out of school minus anything she came in with.

We hunted high and low. I was down on my knees looking under cabinets. I looked in every child's schoolbag, sent her to lost property and even got all the girls to come out and show us which shoes they were wearing!

I took her out to her mum at the end of the day and told her about the shoes. "Oh, she never had her shoes with her today," says she.

EuphemiaInExcelsis, i bet you werent best pleased.

I pretended to strangle her. Mum laughed. I can laugh about it now as it's Friday and I've had a glass of wine.

My DD is always losing things at school (as well as at home, and everywhere else she goes!) I don't blame you for being frustrated but it's really not the school's fault. Though neither is it your DDs.
If the school are aware she has issues with losing things, have they suggested any measures they can take to try to prevent it happening?

DS is always losing something - coat, watch, footie boots... He has lost two brand new coats and jumper (with name labels sewn into the collar). People do nick things, you know!

Mine used to lose stuff continually but I taught DD to count the things into and out of her bag. She looked a right turnip head slowly counting her pants, socks etc but it made her organise her getting changed and make sure she didn't miss anything. And it only takes a 'helpful' parent walking past and chucking a stray shoe in the lost property basket to throw the whole thing into chaos. Really they should have uniforms they can do PE in IMHO, when they are too little too change themselves without getting into a pickle. Joggers and T shirts are fine for PE and smart enough for primary I think.