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AIBU?

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Original poster

AIBU? Probably, but I don't care!

32 replies

coffeeandcream · 13/12/2012 17:40

If I get one more text or Facebook message saying "have you had the baby yet?" Or messages to that effect, I will tear that persons head off and shove it where the snow doesn't fall.

I am two weeks overdue, and am getting induced tomorrow if labour doesn't happen tonight. Frankly, I'm terrified and feeling extremely upset. I desperately wanted a quiet, peaceful water birth at the MLU where they only look after two women at any one time. I'm bricking it at the thought of a full on instrumental type delivery on a heaving labour ward.

I know people are just excited for me, and for themselves, but why are they so insensitive about it? I've had a three people 'requesting' I give birth on their respective birthdays too!!

Just #*?~ off will you, I will TELL YOU when my baby is born, I'm not being mean and cackling evilly to myself keeping it a secret!!

RAAA Angry Angry Angry

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Original poster
coffeeandcream · 13/12/2012 17:41

And breathe....

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WillYuleDoTheFandango · 13/12/2012 17:44

I suggest you send them this link in reply, was it Clarella who posted it first?

Soon there will be guilt-free Wine

honeytea · 13/12/2012 17:45

Good luck tomorrow, infact fingers crossed your baby comes on his/her own tonight!

I am "only" 5 days over due and it is starting to anoy me that I have to start every phone call with "no baby yet, I was just calling to ask....."

Fakebook · 13/12/2012 17:46

Weird. I just posted on this thread and its disappeared! So strange!

DystopianReality · 13/12/2012 17:47

It's rather nice they're thinking of you though.....?

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 13/12/2012 17:47

I feel your pain, coffee. I went two weeks over and then spent a delightful 3 days being induced. You know what, DD is gorgeous and have nothing but good things to say about my care. Good luck.

DuchessofMalfi · 13/12/2012 17:48

I had that with DD. I went two weeks over, and my aunt was pestering the life out of me every sodding day. "Have you had the baby yet". Yes, but I cba to tell you ..... what do you think? :o

TessGoesDirectToBethlehem · 13/12/2012 17:50

They probably have the best of intentions but I know it can be annoying - especially if you are getting worried about the birth. Both of my DC were more than 2 weeks late and induced. I also made the mistake of going on maternity leave far too early with DS1 and felt embarrassed bumping into colleagues weeks later and still pregnant.

Good luck for tomorrow. Thanks

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coffeeandcream · 13/12/2012 17:57

Thanks for the replies, like I said, I know people are just excited and showing they are thinking about me. It's not like one person is excessively pestering me, but when everyone is asking its so stressful.

I'm just getting anxious and scared tbh.

Sorry, fandango, I can't see the link on my phone!

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ditavonteesed · 13/12/2012 18:00

you actually cant be unreasonable about anything when you are 2 weeks over due. you are the queen of the world, and very soon you will have a lovely baby. Smile

DonkeysInTheStableAtMidnight · 13/12/2012 18:01

So within a couple of days you will be holding your baby, congratulations! Just let those bothersome people drift away out of sight and earshot, and focus on that image of that armful instead. Every good wish.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 13/12/2012 18:08

Oh I know that feeling OP. I was you just over 4 weeks ago. Preparing for going in to hospital to be induced. I was never very far from bursting into tears for days.

But it was fine once I got there and I now have my beautiful girl! Ignore all the people and focus on you. Can you do something nice tonight to take your mind off it? Get a takeaway and DVDs?

Good luck :)

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coffeeandcream · 13/12/2012 18:20

Thanks all, you cheered me up a bit.

Just had MIL text asking if I can hold off the birth for a few days and do it on her DMs 80th birthday as that would be a nice 'present' for her! WTF?!

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PurplePidjChickIsNotTheMessiah · 13/12/2012 18:21

Hey, coffee, don't forget to come and find us in Post Natal, it moves a bit slower than the antenatal ones Xmas Wink

Fwiw i had syntocin to speed things up and it really wasn't that bad anything goes 30 hours in

AhCmonSeriouslyNow · 13/12/2012 18:24

Hey coffee, I am at the other side of this dilemma - my friend was due to be induced yesterday and I haven't heard anything yet and I am so excited and a little bit anxious to hear everything is well!

I did text her but just a "thinking of you" text and am hoping that she has her 'phone away from her if people are bugging her (I know there was one girl texting her all the time asking for news!).

Hope your baby makes an appearance tonight so you don't have to be induced but, either way, at the end of it all you'll have a healthy baby and be healthy and happy yourself, I hope. GOOD LUCK!

gwenniebee · 13/12/2012 18:37

My waters broke an hour before I was due to be induced... I will cross my fingers that yours do too :)

And YANBU, because it's impossible to be U in your situation!

boocha · 13/12/2012 19:15

Have you had the baby yet? ;-)

good luck for tomorrow

nancy75 · 13/12/2012 19:21

Dd was 10 days overdue, my mum rang me constantly to ask if anything had happened, considering my dh doesn't drive and my mum was the designated driver to take me when labour did start I still don't know how she thinks I would have had the baby without her knowing!
Op very best of luck tomorrow, what a great Christmas you will have with a lovely new baby x

youmaycallmeSSP · 13/12/2012 19:24

YANBU. I was you 6 weeks ago and felt like screaming at the people calling, texting, emailing, FBing, popping round. Arghhhhhh! I had my induction booked and was terrified but DD mooched into the world with hours to spare :)

This thread relieved my feelings somewhat.

maddening · 13/12/2012 19:56

Take lots of entertainment in for tomorrow -it's a nice distraction and the more you can relax the better as you can conserve your energy.

Good luck - now you''ll have a load of strangers wondering whether you've had the baby yet :)

maddening · 13/12/2012 19:58

Ps my sis was induced and had her dd 6 hours from the gel going in - 2 pushes on g&a

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coffeeandcream · 13/12/2012 20:01

Still no sign of baby...

But two more texts and a phone call. Grr!

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FryOneFatChristmasTurkey · 13/12/2012 20:11

coffeeandcream your OP was very expressive. why not post that onto Facebook as your status....Grin It might shut a few people up!

MammaTJ · 13/12/2012 20:19

Good luck!! and YANBU!!

Overcooked · 13/12/2012 20:34

Get shagging!

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