I am going to be more controversial.
In my big African opinion (we never do things by halves!) I think:
you stop being a guest, when you appreciate the institutions of Britain, how they came about, why they are important and why they work AND YOU SUPPORT THEM 100% OVER YOUR CULTURE OF ORIGIN.
Which are:
- the rule of law. This is the number 1, vital rule for a country to work.
- the separation of parliament from the police
- the independence of the judiciary
- the separation of church/religion and state (read the history of the reformation).
- the law of property
- the law of contract.
I might have missed a few, but these are why Britain works in terms of safety and the ease of life and jobs. The lack of/blurring of these, is why the shit holes people like me Nailak and others come from, do not work and why we/our families/all immigrants VOTED WITH OUR FEET.
Bottom line, end of, and British leftie apologetic right-ons need to STFU and defend them, be proud of them. You have no idea what life is like without them!
Because, in order for the above 6 things to have happened, Britain and Europe have gone through hundreds of years of turmoil, civil wars, revolutions, the death of kings, the turning upside down of religious certainties, to develop these and to get WHY they are important, and to keep them above powerful leaders, movements who want to undermine them. The latest being, the leftie Gramsci progressives whom I love so dearly and would like people to wake up to
Now, don't get me wrong. There is a lot of Britain that I don't agree with. Broken families, Godlessness, how the welfare state subsidises misery, unwanted old people (but why is death so feared), all largely the result of progressive social theories and their implementation (but that is another rant).
However, I need to be honest about what it is about Britain that is way, way better than my own continent, and why I am here. I have to admit that we in Africa, have a a problem with the abuse of power - before I start screaming about colonialism imperialism and exploitation and how everything is Britain's fault. Bitching about something that is 70 years old in order not to admit the basic problem, is to be a victim. Asian communities should admit to themselves what does not work about their countries, instead of demanding rights to be 'like home'.
And Britain should enforce these things very strictly, demand subscription to the British institutions as a pre-requisite over cultural practices:
Africans who manipulate benefits and the care system (Victoria Climbie, anyone?), Somalians who genitally mutilate their girls or involved in the pirate trade, Eastern European human and drug traffikers, cultures that devalue girls and don't want to educate them, Pakistanis and Bengalis who honour kill, force their daughters to marry and who import endless cousins, militant muslims and psycopathic islamic 'scholars' like Abu Hook Hand and Qatada, should be summararily deported back to their places of paradise within a week of being arrested and without trial. Who cares about them.
So I would say the test of when you stop being a guest is when you are honest with yourself and quietly drop what is not good about your culture, which does not work in your own country of origin, and embrace those 6 or so British institutions above all else, instead of screaming victimhood and rights and being indulged.
Britain, the cohesiveness of Britain, and people who are grateful and loyal and add to Britain, is what counts.