Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

..in not feeling comfortable with leaving my precious 5 wk old baby with MIL?!

304 replies

havingastress · 11/12/2012 20:48

I've posted before - don't have the best relationship with the MIL..

Anyway. She is now pressurising me massively to leave our baby with her overnight (without me) and I just don't feel comfortable at all. I'm running out of ways to say No - she just will not let it lie. She also wants us to go for extended stays, when frankly I can't bear spending more than a couple of hours at their house (they have big dogs which they refuse to put away and I'm allergic to them) as I find her such bloody hard work.

If I'm honest, the only person (other than my DH) who I feel comfortable leaving her with right now is my mum. But after all, she's my mum! MIL might be my DD's granny, but I really don't know her that well and I just would never forgive myself if something happened.

So, AIBU to keep saying No to the MIL? Or is she being unreasonable expecting to spend alone time with DD and complaining that my mum gets 'better access' (her words)

and yes, realise I am probably being PFB about this too

Will take on board all comments :)

OP posts:
Annechristmas · 16/07/2018 22:23

ZOMBIE THREAD

Claire90ftm · 17/07/2018 04:18

Walking Dead Thread

Thewitchhadacat · 17/07/2018 05:42

YANBU at all. Your baby, your rules. My little one is 3 and has only ever been left overnight with my own mother. I don’t think I’ll ever be happy to let her stay at MILs because she has dogs and doesn’t supervise the dogs around my DC closely enough for my liking. Just say ‘no’ on repeat and ignore her.

Jessiemay88 · 17/07/2018 08:36

Haha..oh i will look at the date next time

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread